Is same room sex a good place to start?

[silverbarlt 16]

Did anyone start out with same room monogamous sex? I realize this is very vanilla for this board, but I'm curious if people have/have not or they just went to mfm/FMF/mfmf first.

 

Thanks.

[angelkin 1,326]

I'm on my second swinging relationship - we haven't yet done anything swingery together, but that's our plan. Same room sex. Lots of people start off watching and being watched. I think it's quite a normal place to start and a nice progression into swinging that is safe and still taboo enough to get a feel for how it might be.

[Lundy 22]

That is how we started, stayed that way for about a year. Then we meet a cool couple and had some soft swap experiences, it was a lot of fun. We then went full swap and have not looked back.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We started as full swap a few years ago, but still really enjoy same room sex with friends (monogamous group sex).

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I think many couples start with same room, no swapping sex and sometimes we still do it when no one piques our interest or to help get the party started.

[SoFlaCouple 188]

I think many couples start with same room, no swapping sex and sometimes we still do it when no one piques our interest or to help get the party started.

 

Yes, yes, and yes. ;-)

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We started as same room as well. In fact, the first couple we were with never went beyond same room (their choice).

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We shared a motel room at the South Jersey shore with another couple when we were just out of high school. We all weren't married yet. We didn't swap but we had sex at the same time.

 

It was after dark after we all went to bed. The beds were close enough together and there was enough light coming into the windows to see what was going on. Both women were on the bottom and both had their eyes closed as me and the other guy fucked them.

 

I couldn't help to look over at the other couple and the look on her face as she was getting fucked might have had an influence on my desire to see that look on my future wife's face as I watched another man fucking her.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We did not start out this way, but we have enjoyed same-room, non-swapping fun on occasion. We enjoy watching and being watched, so we have a good time on those occasions, as well as soft- and full-swap encounters.

 

Actually, we did not have any "official" MFM or FMF play, where we set out on the evening to do that, until fairly recently. We had been concerned that the naturally unbalanced dynamic of a three-way would leave somebody feeling left out. When we did have our FMF play date, it was with an experienced woman who was very good about making sure that everybody had a good time. And we did!

 

What, you ask, is an "unofficial" FMF or MFM? Well, we have had a few occasions where there's been a pile on the bed, where a few minutes of FMF, or MFM, or MFMM might take place!

[Shore2Please 613]

Way before I ever thought of switching partners I did what others did. I shared rooms with friends back in the day. We would do it for financial reasons more than anything else. When I was younger if you went away you always shared rooms. Sure I watched my friend giving head to her boyfriend and then more.

My first time actually swapping we each were in different rooms. Not sure what I would have done if my husband was in the room. Not sure if I could have gone all the way or if I would have freaked watching him. When we finally switched but stayed in the same room I was more inhibited and had a knot in my stomach watching him.

[cplnluv1 874]

We have only done same room with swapping. It is the fun part to watch your spouse enjoy.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We have only done same room too and we both enjoy watching each other...although some times I do think that there would be less pressure if we eventually tried separate rooms. Maybe some day...

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We started separate room and liked it. We usually do same room because that's what most people seem to like.

 

Personally, I prefer separate. It's easier to focus and make a good connection for me. My husband likes same room because he likes to see me being fucked. There's not really a right or wrong. Fortunately, there are lots of opportunities to play in different ways.

[oc1234 436]

In the 80s before we actually started swinging we went on a weekend vacation with a much younger couple in a very small RV. We were all nudists so there was a lot of nudity and flirting. We all ended up having sex in the same very small bed. There was no switching of partners but it was very exciting.

[Guest]

We have been to couples clubs and even Desires Resort. Don't hook up with a couple we like one evening, we just go into the playroom and the two of us play there. It works, we have fun and sometimes it leads to a second round with someone else.

[Sophy 571]

My advise is to start by doing some same-room action like someone said: watching and being watched, then do some same-room softwap.

It is very important to start slowly and move up gradualy togheter to the next level.