Meeting another couple on my own for the first time

[Trophy1802 132]

Even though my wife and I have been active in the LS for a little over three years, this weekend will be the first time that I am planning on meeting another couple for the first time on my own. In the past, we usually met as couple with another couple, myself on my own with a female, or my wife on her own with another male.

 

In our journey thus far in the LS, my wife and I have been involved with other couples and have enjoyed having other guys join us for some MFM fun. However, lately we have been curious as to what it would be like for myself, the male, to join another straight couple for a threesome experience. We placed an ad and have been contacted by a couple that are interested. We have chatted and exchanged pics and there definitely is interest from both sides and my wife is in total agreement for me to meet them.

 

I have played in a MFM situation in the past with a couple my wife and I have been involved with (of course with her being totally aware of and in total agreement with). But as we had played with the couple previously, it was a different dynamic with just the three of us getting together.

 

As this will be the first time in meeting a totally new couple, just wondering if anyone who as done this before has any advice or words of wisdom that they would like to share.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

No words of wisdom, just a good luck wish and us waiting for the follow up report...

[cplnuswing 4,713]

What GoldCoCouple said...can't help with any direct experience on this one, but looking forward to hearing your take on how it went and how the new dynamic felt.

[angelkin 1,326]

Have fun and be yourself. Behave in the way you would want another man joining you and your wife to behave. Let them take the lead and enjoy the different dynamic. And of course, come back to let us know how things went

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Have a good First Time Experience.

[Trophy1802 132]

Just an update.......Things did not go as planned.

 

I had planned to meet this couple last evening. One thing that I had requested of them prior to meeting was a face pic in order to at least recognize who I was supposedly meeting. I/we have had the bad experience of meeting without seeing a face pic in the past, and to say that it was an uncomfortable and awkward experience is the least. There is nothing worst than walking into a crowded bar and standing around and not knowing who you are supposed to be meeting with and eventually getting a text simply saying "We are over in the corner, come on over." I/we vowed that we would never do that again.

 

When I asked for a face pic, I made it clear that I was not looking for anything erotic. I did assure them of discretion and that the pic would not be shared with anyone else or saved for future reference (which we expect likewise with anyone I/we share pics with in the LS). In good faith, I did send them several very clear non-erotic face pics of myself so that they could see who they were meeting. Yes, they did send me one pic of the female, but it was a long-distance pic in which she was dressed for what appeared to be a costume party. IMO, I would still not recognize her from the pic if I did meet them.

 

I realize that there is a need for discretion and privacy here. However, there has to be some level of trust. I was not comfortable about meeting someone who I at least did not recognize. Therefore, after discussing the situation with my wife, I decided not to proceed and kindly thanked the couple for their interest.

 

Hopefully, there will be other opportunities.

[JandKinBoise 859]

I understand the desire for a face pic. I also know that trust when dealing with strangers, about sex, using the internet isn't something handed out. Trust can be gained by face to face meeting, reading signs, getting to know one another.

 

There is no need to wander around a bar looking for someone. We meet single men in a local bar too. But it's never busy, and we usually meet in the parking lot and go in together. The only personal information we request is the vehicle he will be driving. I would not ask for a face pic. The picture they sent shows that the lady isn't Jabba the slut. I'm sure they were just showing that they are a healthy couple.

 

Look at this from their perspective. This is just an example since we have no idea. They are a middle age couple, professional, have kids, and are in a visible position. When they read your ad, they are interested and start to correspond with you. Then you are asking to see what they look like. This is troublesome for them as they don't have any reason to trust you. You are just an internet stranger, maybe. Maybe a horrible person planning to out them, to do damage to their reputation. Paranoid? Sure. Read the crap out here and the reason is clear. I wouldn't hold this against them.

 

As far as advise, each experience is going to be different. If you go into a situation with a 'plan' it probably will change.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I would have done the same thing, but I would have called it off even before then - no face pic, no even agreeing to meet. We aren't interested in meeting someone who we don't even know what they look like, because if we don't know what they look like, how would we know we are interested? Yes, discretion is an issue, but that's easily solved - make your clear face pics full clothed and save the naughty ones from something less identifiable. Someone steals a pic of you both standing on the beach on a family vacation, then big deal, it could just as easily come off your Facebook page.

 

We are very discrete too, but at some point, you have just got to take a calculated risk and trust people, and if you can't do that with pictures, then how are you going to be able to do it with more important things?

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I'm sorry it turned out that way, Trophy, but it's definitely understandable on your part in walking away from that type of situation. And I agree with cplnuswing, we wouldn't have even agreed to meet unless we had already seen face pictures. Mr. Sun has a much wider range of attraction than I do so he is more willing to go on blurry face pictures than I am. I, on the other hand, am very strict about face pictures for the other male. If they don't provide them right off the bat, it's a bad first step. After all, it's not just Mr. Sun that is playing, I am too!!

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think you did the right thing.