Husband approval for play guy?

[Lynandalex 17]

Just wondering if any husbands ever have a say on who gets to play with the wife or if she is the one to pick?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

My wife makes her own choices. She has not ever given me a reason for concern.

[angelkin 1,326]

When I was part of a swinging couple, we had equal say in choosing playmates. Of course, I would often choose and he would either approve or veto. Attraction had to be there first for me, but he had to be comfortable with the guy too.

[VegasLee 1,486]

Laura plays with who she wants.

 

If I ever tried to tell her who should could or could not play with she would hit me with a stick.

[cruisingcouple 31]

Both Ms. CC or myself always have veto power over the couple we may play with. We also respect the veto power of other couples. If it is a MMF, I without a doubt have absolute veto power.

 

Those are our rules and we never ever never break them.

 

We have a few other rules, but too personal to mention here for general consumption.

[Brad145 58]

We only play as a couple, so we both have veto power, and it gets used fairly frequently.

 

In the event that one of us is done for the night and the other wants to continue, veto power still applies, but I can't recall a veto ever being used in that situation.

[Lynandalex 17]

I think for the husband/ boyfriend to have veto power should always be a good thing. I mean the wife can totally be attracted to the guy but what if he's just one of those people u can't agree upon. After all it will be a one on one kinda thing. We are just starting to set up our rules and veto power from both is becoming a key rule.

[Guest]

For mfm, I usually pick and he has veto power. For couple swaps or similar play, I'm usually the person approached but sometimes not; in either case, the other has veto power.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We each make our own choice, but we also make sure to check in with the other before the play begins. If either of us has any qualms about the spouse's choice, we could bring it up then. Neither of us has wanted to veto the other's play partner choice so far, but it's an act of respect for each other that we always provide that opportunity.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

She was shy at first so I picked the guys but when she became more comfortable and confident I was surprised more than a few times when she began to flirt with guys on her own without any encouragement that she wanted to have sex with.

[Sirramm 111]

Good question....now that I (male half) think about it I off the cuff have to say we both sort of 'choose' the other male. There has to be an attraction for both of us.

[AngelandTiger 364]

Angel and I have equal say in who we pick to play with. If she is attracted to a particular guy, she'll point him out. After we both meet him and discuss how we feel, we either both agree he's a "yes", or we don't play with him. The "no" choice could be for a number of reasons; one of us has observed some behavior in him (or a couple, for that matter) what we didn't feel comfortable with, he said or did something when he was alone with one of us that appeared underhanded or deceitful, or one of us may just have felt a "vibe" from him that felt ominous or less than attractive to us. We share this information freely. Since we ALWAYS meet with singles and couples with NO expectation of playing (in fact, we tell couples/singles we are meeting for the first time that our firm rule is NO play on the first "date"), we have plenty of time to discuss this. We both have agreed for all of our swinging "career" that no for one is no for both.