Bi-curious female and don't know how to make the first move

[purple4215 55]

We soft swap with another couple and we do it all besides kissing and penetration. Other female and I have briefly touched each other on more of a dare situation. We've discussed our attraction to each other and being curious. I know I'd have to make the first move but I'm not sure how to initiate that. Or really where to start?

[JandKinBoise 859]

Hi purple. It looks like you have a pretty good thing going there. There isn't really a recipe for doing something like this. The 4 of you could sit and discuss what you've been doing. If you can get a comfortable dialogue going there would probably be a few things come up that may surprise. There is so much fear of rejection in this. Opening up and confessing a desire where the other couple looks at each other in horror and leaves, probably doesn't happen much. They may not want to go that direction but if it's brought up in a 'take it or leave it' manner, it can just be dropped.

 

As you navigate thru the forum, you will notice that female bisexuality is something discussed constantly. You will learn that no one usually complains about 2 women playing together. If there is a lot of vocal homophobia in your group, it's probably just smoke. Deep down, very few of us in this lifestyle are so close minded to find this offensive. But, your group is your group. You know everyone and their standards. Feel it out and don't deny yourself.

 

Please keep us posted. I always love to hear how this stuff plays out.

[JandKinBoise 859]

After re-reading your post, I realized I missed the point. So bisexuality isn't the issue, it's how to go about getting started. That's completely different. When my wife, gf at the time, wanted to eat her first pussy, we did what you guys did, dared. Girls love a dare. Next time you are all together and feeling randy and things are heating up, have your husband dare you 2 to 69. That should do it. It worked great for us.

[Funguy796 44]

Hi purple. Another idea I would like to share is to show porn that displays what you want to do. Look at the others and just asks, what do you think of that? We play truth or dare and it seems we always do something that is wildish. As stated, it is really about fear of rejection and being open or having that nudge to start talking will really help. How do the guys feels? Maybe they are excited and I hope that would help get things moving. Hugs!

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Usually if either husband knows that one (or both) of the women want this, they are more than happy to suggest it. There's nothing hotter than two women together having fun. Let your husband know and I'm sure that he'll take care of making it happen.

[herpob 573]

After re-reading your post, I realized I missed the point. So bisexuality isn't the issue, it's how to go about getting started. That's completely different. When my wife, gf at the time, wanted to eat her first pussy, we did what you guys did, dared. Girls love a dare. Next time you are all together and feeling randy and things are heating up, have your husband dare you 2 to 69. That should do it. It worked great for us.

 

My boyfriends always showed porn and told me they'd love to see this or that. I prefer my husband's method as JandKinBoise said in a dare so to speak or request. Also we trade for most things, he still doesn't do bi for me (yet but he is close) but most everything else. He will tell me how lovely her pussy is and tell me (not ask) how I'd love to stick my tongue in her and taste her. Then he will go down on her while the other husband is going down on me and then he kissed me with her fragrance and so does other husband. He ( and then typically the other husband as well) will offer to do something special in return if we get in a 69. Well I love DP and my husband is the best at doing me anal EVER, so later he will condom up and take me anally. We know this couple very well so I am perfectly fine with him cumming in me vaginally so he will do me vaginally cumming in me during DP. Then my husband will eat his cum out of me! We have come a loooong way baby! The DP plus my husband eating cum, his own, but ESPECIALLY another man's turns me into a sexual nymphomaniac. I not only lick and eat until we nearly pass out I pretty mush ravish her. Every time I do it, even after dozens of time, it would have been like your situation with hesitation had not my husband approached it as he did and does. The other husband caught on to this as well and found his wife's special desire. She like dual oral, so he uses a dental dam and does her orally anally. Not the easiest thing to do dual but it is doable and he does not have to every time. Then afterwards she is begging to DP, tooo funny! She bends, spread, arches and begs for it. The men are falling all over themselves to jump on it. I like that she eats sooooooo amazingly when being done anally so after DP she wants them to keep up the anal as she devours me. The men found what works for us. Find what works for all you guys and gals.

[purple4215 55]

Well our weekend finally happened. It was really good, and I had my first "soft" experience with a women. We know each other well and we had previously discussed what we would like or feel comfortable doing. She and I had quite a few drinks, after our night out of fun, we made our way back to hotel. After playing cards and enjoying each other's company with our spouses, we moved to the bed, laid down facing each other and then had spouses behind us. We giggled and needed help from husbands getting things started. Finally clothes were removed and we were under the sheets. We did a few small kisses, but didn't really feel like full on making out, we were pretty excited and comfy touching each others breasts and nipples, it was exciting to finally kiss and lick nipples, we were both pretty hesitant to touch down below, we pretty much took turns exploring each others areas and it was interesting to feel basically my own equipment but it was very different and her reaction was very fun to watch. We were both quickly excited and turned out, but it was more like curiosity satisfied for both us for the things down below, but the foursome continued and we were both very into each others breasts and nipples and we fully enjoyed that while our spouses brought us each to orgasm. I'd happily do this again...not sure if I really want to move much further with a female? Possibly maybe not with a friend I know so well, I am not sure. But it was a hot night of foursome play and I see why men love turning women on with breast play!

[PandO 103]

Awe, yay! I've been looking for an update from you. Glad you had fun and glad you got some girl play in.

[herpob 573]

Congrats!

 

Stick with enjoyment.

[Shore2Please 613]

It is good to see you went or are going at your own pace. I was not even curious when I had my first encounter. I wasn't even curious about swapping till the night before. If it happens it should happen at its own pace.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Yes, thanks for the update. There's nothing on earth better than a woman's breasts...except watching another woman play with that woman's breasts!

[JBI2014 23]

I guess I'm what you would call a "frustrated bisexual", because I'm very curious to try his new side of my sexuality, but clueless as to where to start. My wife and I are still together but have been in an open marriage for over a year now, a situation that both of us are taking slowly. She has had several bi experiences when we played as a couple, but we stopped going to the clubs before I was able to admit that I wanted to try it, too. Other than Craigslist(blecchh), SLS, or the local gay clubs, I don't know where/how else to meet people.

[purple4215 55]

Sorry to hear that! I am no help as to tell you how/where/what to do...it was something organic that happened to me...I know on SLS you can at least list your bi side, curiosity, whatever and see if someone is interested in you? Hoping you get to try your fantasy soon!

[JBI2014 23]

I mentioned in another thread that I've been contacted several times from interested guys, only to have them vanish as soon as I respond. Maybe they're 'jumping the gun' with regard to their comfort level, who knows?

[JessicaJamison 864]

Id recomend starting by flirting, tell her she is pretty, you love her hair, or her outfit.  Tell her it makes her look sexy, or maybe something more forward like that skirt is really doing it for me babe.  Make it clear you are interested, since you've discussed it she will probably be into it.  Then I'd make sure you are more touchy than normal, hold her hand, play with her hair, slide your fingers across her shoulders and neck, rub her back, give hugs and be cuddly.  You are trying to create moments of intimacy.  Then when its time to play I'd ask her if you can kiss her, tell her you want too feel her against you and if she says yes, dive in.  I wouldn't give her little pecks I'd really kiss her, make it passionate, pull her into you and press your bodies together.  If she is feeling it this will turn into grinding then I'd ask if you can touch her boobs, I'd slide my hands under the bra and work them while still kissing her,, then when she seems really into it I'd put my hand on her upper thigh and ask her if you can touch HER, if she says yes ask I'd slide that hand all the way up her thigh and start massaging her kitty.  After that I'd just go down on her.  Hopefully she reciprocates.  Good luck.