I want to start swinging, but my wife and I have jealousy issues

[averageguy 15]

I'm interested in trying swinging with my wife.

 

We are both high drive and have daily sex. Married two years, no kids.

 

I've been experimenting on my wife with fantasy play that she is getting two guys and also introduced a massive dildo into our sex life which she loves.

 

She is a totally desirable hot as can be twenty-three year old woman and I'm an in-shape young looking forty-nine year old man, with normal size male parts.

 

Problems I'm worried about

 

1. ANY guy is gonna want her so I prefer younger couples exchange so I get a younger wife too....is that realistic? No way I want to take her to a sex party where every single dude is going to want to get with her. I'm ok with sharing her in a threesome with me and another guy, but I'm not a cuckhold and have no interest in humiliation (but I'm not bi but not phobic either) No way I'm letting her alone with another guy or guys...

 

2. Also, she is really jealous and so far any fantasy with another woman getting my attention freaks her out, how do I address this to make it fair to me too?

 

 

I really want to see her get it from other guys, I love to see her super horny, but I only think it's fair to me to get some fresh female action too.

 

Comments from anyone experienced?

 

(My guess is my wife is a ticket into any situation as she is young and super sexy...I get to go along for the ride I suppose, but NOT as a cuckhold!)

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I would put everything else on the back burner, and explore with her the reasons for her jealousy. I don't think there's a need to figure out the logistics of your preferred swinging style until the jealousy issue is resolved.

 

If the two of you can figure the jealousy issue out, and are able to resolve it to a level she is comfortable with, and can work through, then start looking at how to go about finding compatible partners.

[angelkin 1,326]

Welcome to the forum and great that you've jumped right in with a question. I agree the jealousy is still an issue, you two need to work through it.

 

As far as who to swing with and you believing your wife is a "ticket" into any situation - that attitude in itself might turn people off. The age difference might be a factor in finding playmates, no matter how hot she is...the lady of a potential play couple will also need to be interested in you.

[MrDiscover 802]

Are you sure she is the only one with jealousy problems? One thing swinging does, is magnifying every feeling and issue and to be frank, you sound a bit possesive/protective too. Besides totally in love.

[Guest]

You are assuming that your wife would want younger men, yet she married you. Perhaps she is interested in more mature men. Maybe you should explore what she wants. I was concerned about my jealousy and I really wasn't interested in playing with other girls so our entry into swinging was MFM. We did several until I got comfy with the whole thing and then moved to couples, etc.

[averageguy 15]

A apologize, that came out wrong and sounded creepy (the ticket thing ugh...my mistake)....

 

I think it was more a reflection of my being jealous that my wife would get all the attention, you are correct....of course I have some jealousy issues also....its a complex topic and issue!

 

Thanks for all the excellent comments.

[cplnluv1 874]

Of course it's complex. The bigger question is what does she want. Maybe she doesn't want any other man and she is just having fun with the fantasy part of your play. Maybe the dildo is fulfilling her fantasy needs. Oh, and the young guy thing, not always what it is made out to be. Remember she picked you for a reason.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I agree with what everyone else has said regarding working on jealousy and communication before going further.

 

In addition, here is what I've seen in the swinging world regarding older/younger couples and average guy with hot wife couples:

 

Your wife will almost surely get more attention. It is very rare for the male half of a couple to be more sought after. She will get more attention from men and women, too.

 

Almost no one will "take one for the team" and have sex with you in order for their husband to be with your wife. They will just try to get her to play fmf with them or the guy play with her while the other wife finds someone else. Having a hot, young wife may make you popular with swingers and get you invites to events, but it won't get you laid.