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  1. 1. STD Testing - Do you ask?

    • We always ask if they have been STD tested.
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    • We sometimes ask if they have been STD tested.
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    • We never ask if they have been STD tested.
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Reviving an old topic, but with a poll this time. Do you ask other swingers that are potential playmates if they have been tested for STD's? Always, sometimes, never? If the answer is "sometimes", what factors do you use to decide to ask that question?

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Never. If asked people could very easily lie in any case. To quote a Frank Zappa song, "what cooties? No cooties on me."

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In 40 years we have never been asked and I have not asked anyone else either.

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I actually have a copy of my most current blood test bc I'm supposed to carry it around with all my other medical info in case of some pregnancy emergency. It wouldn't bother me at all to share it with them. I wish it was more common to share medical proof of being disease free.

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I've never asked anyone for test results - those are only good for a snapshot in time. People don't often know, would be likely to lie if they did, and condom use is a rule. Beyond that, I accept the risk.

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"Do you have anything that rhymes with "Wherpes" ?"

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Never. If asked people could very easily lie in any case. To quote a Frank Zappa song, "what cooties? No cooties on me."

 

ROFLOL Someone else remembers that one?? I may still have the vinyl in storage here somewhere.

 

Here it is. Printed lyrics for the audio challenged with inside jokes & all.

 

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This is shocking to me. I want to know and would have to know period before participating. I need proof someone is actually clean. I am 100% free of std's so I want to know for sure they are. No way in hell I'm dying over or for sex.

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I've never been asked but my wife was asked at a club once.

 

Her answer? "It was nice meeting you".

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I tactfully bring it up if the other does not. Often folks will make the claim DF in a ad, or conversation when they think or know they are. If they have not been recently tested it is not a deal breaker, informed risk is part of any activity or transaction in life & more information is usually useful. It is correct the unscrupulous will lie. More likely is simple ignorance. Tests are good only until your next sexual contact & there are several nasties that do not display early symptoms.

 

Ten days ago I was diagnosed with a Chlamydia infection. The recent partner was a middle aged professional & married, who if I understood correctly had not had a sex partner for over a month. If I am reading the medical text correctly the symptoms appear in males in 2-7 days, depending on the source, and seldom emerge in more than 14 days. That places my previous partner outside the common incubation time at 23 days. Also the symptom first appeared on my face. I'd given the recent lady head but not the earlier young woman. The recent partner has not dealt well with the news & has procrastinated on getting tested and treated. I liked her a lot & offered to pay for tests & treatment but not taking timely action puts a bit of a chill on things.

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I didn't say it in my first post in this thread, but I wanted to also say now that I am single after a 15+ yr relationship has ended, I feel obligated to give medical proof. My days of dangerous promiscuous sex are over. I got lucky I've never caught anything. Lucky as hell in my mind. And I HATE condoms, like most men. I do keep my erection as I love sex, but come on, they suck seriously. Fucking is meant to be bareback, skin on skin naturally. I've been in a relationship for the last 15+ years so it has not been an issue of course. But now that I'm single, I will test and show proof without issue. And I will politely, and respectfully request the same. No takers, then those are the people I DON'T want to have sex with for good reason. They are a risk. Most women take the pill. All the ones I've been with did. So condoms were never used back in the day. Now a days I'm not risking it ever again. NOTHING is worth dying for.

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