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By km34
This post in another thread got me thinking... In my mind "friends first" swinging and poly are two completely different things, but other people apparently think of them as one and the same. What does everyone else think?
To expand on my views (the rest of the post is purely my opinion ).. Everyone I have met who wants to be friends first is looking more for a sense of safety by knowing people a bit before having sex. Whether or not this is legit or not is another topic, but it's something that people believe. Also, friends first folks tend to want to be more open about swinging - having that couple or two or five that you swing with AND hang out with gives you the chance to talk about swinging, be yourselves, and generally not have to be in the closet about it. At least every once in a while. Having a friendship makes things a bit more comfortable for some.
Polyamory, on the other hand, is actually looking for romantic love. I love my friends, but that doesn't mean I'm in a poly relationship with all of them. On SLS, I mention that we are looking for friends, but we do not consider anyone we meet on SLS (or other swinging sites) as people with whom we could potentially have a real, whole, romantic relationship.
I guess my general question is - Is this a common thought in people's minds? When you see someone looking for "friends first" does your mind automatically go to poly/relationships/too invested?
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By Tortured_Soul
I have been with a few women in my life... I guess around here, who hasn't? I don't consider myself to be a swinger but I have swapped partners a few times (albeit 99% of the time it's the same couple). The thing I am in total love with this woman, she is 10 years older than me and she is beautiful, hell I'd go as far as saying she is perfect... in every sense of the word. The problem is this... we are both married with children...and she is my wife's best friend... oucha, I know.
Now, this is what I want from you guys, I want to hear about times that you felt like this. Was it always just fucking -or- were there times that you just felt like that one particular person might just be the one?
Help me get out of this haze I am in...
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By couplers
A topic that fascinates me, and makes me a bit envious, are posts about how someone met their spouse while in a swinging situation. It is the opposite of the usual story where a vanilla couple makes a decision to engage in non-monogamy after they are a couple. It intrigues me because the sex is there with other people before there is the spark which leads to love. I don't know why, but when I read these stories I find them very romantic, almost to the point of crying.
Anyone have a story to share? Thanks.
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By lawyer1
My question goes like this - would it work (dating, playing) if a single male falls in love with a married female without even trying to do so, like how little by little you start to feel attachment.
Has this happened? I want to learn from others experiences.
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By victoria'dreams
There is that recent annoying thread of a that guy wanting to play around but will not let anyone touch his wife because "he's not a loser". I hear a lot from vanilla male half of a couple that "THEY would like to have a fmf. You ask about mfm and he says that SHE will never want anyone else than him to touch her. SHE is not into that and SHE is happy with one male only in her life. The more you dig, the more it is that the male half of the couple would just never share his wife/girlfriend with another male.
Many guys will cheat and be sure the wife/gf remains faithful. When that same guy tells you he loves her to death, somehow I'm always doubting what concept of love is behind. There are definitely degrees of love.
I recently had the thought of cheating (only for a few days) but that was because my wife gets to play more than me. Not her fault, just easier to find single guys than it is to find single girls for threesomes. We're working on that
Long ago, at young age, I cheated. I felt so bad and guilty that I started to think about swinging and open discussions with my ex gf at the time and we found solutions to be equal and just. We had a lot of fun and it is such a great feeling to not have to lie.
Can letting yourself have fun but not letting your partner play be called love?
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