Obsessed with sharing wife - please help me!

[Yellowgoat999 15]

Hi everyone, I'm new to these forums. I'm about to drive myself crazy thinking (wanting) to either share my wife (Mfm) or let her go out and sleep with another guy. I don't know if this is normal but I obsess with this all the time. My wife is a very beautiful woman and I would really enjoy this. Please some one help me I can't stop thinking about this and it's been going on for years. If you don't want to talk on here...You can email me, message me for number, or if you have kik messenger we can talk on there as well. Thank you in advance!

[victoria'dreams 141]

This desire is so common you really do not have to worry about being alone. Many men do share their wives, many want but do not succeed but also many dream of it in total secret because it is still for a lot of people a taboo.

 

I wrote a very similar first post years ago before we've done anything with my wife and I was obsessed by it too so much! If I speak for us, the reality was so much better than I even imagined. Was awesome to have threesomes with her and it still is! My wife is also very beautiful (she was a fashion model all her life).

 

There are many way of sharing your lover and to find which one turns you on the most would lead you to the right people/website to go to talk to.

For example me and my wife love both type of threesomes (FMF & MFM) and we've a light dominant(me)/submissive(her) relationship. We do everything together, I always participate and mostly lead the whole thing.

 

If you are into more passive behavior, like cuckolding (humiliation) or making your wife a 'hotwife' (monogamous relationship for you but freedom for her to have sex with other men with or without you) you shall check ourhotwives.org.

 

Do not care what other think and just have fun with your wife!

[Yellowgoat999 15]

Thank you very much for your reply. I'm so scared to bring this up to her. She had an affair that I kinda knew about lol, about 3 years ago. I'm so obsessed with it is driving me crazy. I want to talk to her about it but I'm scared to.

[victoria'dreams 141]

If you feel fine with her having that affair or this even turns you on then you shall think more of a cuckold or hotwife relationship. A lot of men in your case will never tell their wives or tried and the wife isn't in it at all. If she had an affair she might like the idea, who knows? I believe you shall go for it if you don't want to end up like so many guys in a virtual sexual life and suffer for years and years. Unless you enjoy that

 

Are you afraid of her reaction or do you feel shame about your fantasy?

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

Your feelings are entirely normal and not at all uncommon. The fact that your wife has already had an affair, and that perhaps she even knew that you knew, suggests that she is ready for the lifestyle. We had a somewhat similar experience. A few years ago, my wife had a cyber affair with an old boyfriend who was now married and living overseas. I found out about it and was incredibly aroused. However, it did become somewhat problematic for me because it was clearly more than a sexual relationship. She was rekindling an emotional relationship. She was also not allowing me to be a part of her activities, and in fact was lying to me about what was happening. In the end, however, I decided that it was more important for her to develop her extramarital portfolio than for me to give in to jealousy. I let her visit her boyfriend overseas last year, and she will do so again this summer. She is starting to let me in on some details of what she does with him. And we are exploring other relationships as well. This has become an incredibly exciting and satisfying journey for both of us.

[oc1234 435]

My wife and I do threesomes with two guys. She also occasionally plays solo with one of the guys and has been doing it off an on since the mid 80's. It was a matter of convenience in the beginning since we had small children and I could take care of them when he and my wife played at his house. To be truthful, I still get more excited by her playing solo than us having a threesome with him.

[victoria'dreams 141]

Alright stop wasting time guys...

 

Seems to me like the fantasy-dreamer type that will actually never swing.

[freddymike 18]

whatever you decide make sure its you making the decision. Personally I turned my live in girlfriend free after things did not work out, we became open relationship, I went with one of her boyfriends, I became transition shemale cup size A, and today I started my all over tan and worked the streets on my guitar in a different country. But it did not work out for me overnight. Make your own decisions and do not let other people boss you around. Good luck.

[Yellowgoat999 15]

To the post above no one is wasting time. I said she had an affair. That is the story she told me. Please read my post before making assumptions. Anyway. Thanks guys for all your replies. To Victoria, I am kind of both afraid to ask her and ashamed.

[Yellowgoat999 15]

(Erikaandpeter) Wow that sounds pretty awesome. I would like to ask some questions about your experience. Can I private message you

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Thank you very much for your reply. I'm so scared to bring this up to her. She had an affair that I kinda knew about lol about 3 years ago. I'm so obsessed with it is driving me crazy. I want to talk to her about it but I'm scared to

I am going to express a view different from some others:

 

• Obsession is not normal.

 

• Sending your wife out to find men is not a way to prevent infidelity.

 

Avoid a wrong turn. I recommend you learn first her reason for wanting to step out, analyze the reason, then make a plan to fix the situation.

[victoria'dreams 141]

In here you tell us she had an affair and you 'kind of knew about it'. You'd love to ask her to sleep with another man but you're too scared.

In your second thread you describe her 'affair': you asked her to text a guy she liked and tell her she should have sex with him. She did and you loved it.

Don't you think your threads aren't matching?

[Yellowgoat999 15]

Forgive me Victoria but what I really want here is a Mfm threesome. Yes I let her do that. I was just trying to make her happy. But I didn't think that I would obsess about it. So after I let that happen it has been a huge turn on that I think about constantly. I get what you are saying about the whole stories matching up. This is my first time ever telling anyone about this. I'm just trying to reach out. But after a good while she kinda didn't want to talk about it anymore. I just don't know how to approach her about the situation. Telling her how I really feel.

[New2swinging225 53]

I think the first obvious question is: is your wife interested? If she doesn't know this is what you want, if you try and set something up out of desperation and she freaks, the whole damn thing will implode on you. If she doesn't know, let her in on the fantasy and let it stew for a while... watch some mfm porn regularly, read the 'Wives Gone Wild' section of Penthouse letters together... that sort of thing.

 

Now, if she's already into it and your looking to see if it'll be okay, just remember it's all about love, trust and communication. I love watching my wife with other men, and the older I get, the more I realize that eventually I'm not going to be her favorite lover. But who else would let her have the freedom to experience these situations and take her back into loving arms? She will love you every bit as much after the fact, and as long as you're both open and honest with each other, the only limit is your comfort zones and imaginations!

 

Enjoy, there isn't anything quite as exhilarating as knowing that your wife is being well taken care of!

 

J (& M)

[LVHallPass 16]

Something like that is hard to bring up cold if you're not sure how she'll respond. I suggest you start bringing it up during sex as part of your dirty talk. Like ask her, "would you like to have someone else sucking your tits right now?" or "would you like to be sucking someone else's cock while I fuck you?" and see how she responds

 

If she responds favorably then you can bring it up afterward. Ask her if she meant it. Let it simmer and be patient. At first she may feel awkward or ashamed after she climaxes or when you're done, but at least you'll know if she's open to the fantasy. Keep it up, discuss the fact that you'd love to bring another man into the bed while you're having sex and she'll know it's ok for her to fantasize and speak openly about it, first during sex, and then later in general conversation. That kind of talk is what allowed my wife and I to begin exploring the lifestyle.