PandO 103 Posted June 20, 2015 ...We did it. I guess we're officially "swingers." It went better than expected in some ways and was just different than expected in others. But I think overall we had fun and would be up for trying it again sometime. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted June 20, 2015 Welcome to the club, instructions on the secret swinger handshake will follow by email I think your reaction is typical. It is different than what you expect and what others think that we swingers feel and it's different in a way that can't really be explained well, or at least I can't explain it well. But, you didn't run yelling and screaming from the room, and think it may be something you want to try again sometime, so mission accomplished! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
MrDiscover 802 Posted June 20, 2015 We are so happy for you two! Care to tell more about the things that went different? 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
PandO 103 Posted June 20, 2015 We are so happy for you two! Care to tell more about the things that went different? Well, I think I expected it to feel crazy erotic, but really it was just fun and different. I mean, it was a turn on, but it wasn't the crazy, dirty experience I kind of thought it might be. Idk if that's making much sense... Also, I had read on the boards here before that the swinging was the foreplay, but I now can understand what that really means. I think the sex we have tonight AFTER we get these kids to bed will be much better than anything that happened this afternoon. I have been wet and trying not to attack O since we got back home. Lol There was some performance anxiety. But we expected that and were prepared for it, so I don't think it ruined the afternoon for anyone. We did kind of jump on the full swap right out of the gate which I didn't really expect, but felt natural. I KNOW they were okay with it, as it wasn't their first time. O and I feel comfortable with it too, so I guess that was some added fun! We've even already heard back from them, and looks like we will be trying to meet up again sometime in the future. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
sunbuckus 3,569 Posted June 20, 2015 I'm so glad to hear that you and O had a great time. And thank you for sharing your first experience! We did kind of jump on the full swap right out of the gate which I didn't really expect, but felt natural. I'm so glad that we aren't the only ones that jumped on the full swap quickly, as well. I thought for certain that when we first started, we would do same room, no swapping with a couple first, then progress to soft swap, and then full but we went head first with our first couple, too! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
purple4215 55 Posted June 20, 2015 Glad it all sounds like it went great for you guys!! Yes the after is amazing!! The sneaking off to talk about it and retell the night and being wet nonstop and constantly anxious for sex with spouse! It's the best part!! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted June 21, 2015 I'm so glad that we aren't the only ones that jumped on the full swap quickly, as well. Same here, full swap first time out 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
oc1234 435 Posted June 21, 2015 Full swap was our first too, and my wife and I are so glad it was. It gets rid of a lot of the awkwardness of the situation, especially if you play with the same couple again. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
MrDiscover 802 Posted June 22, 2015 We wonder: was your pregnancy an emotional element for you or the others? Quote Share this post Link to post
PandO 103 Posted June 22, 2015 We wonder: was your pregnancy an emotional element for you or the others? We had been talking to them for quite a while and they were well aware of my pregnant status. I think the other gentleman may have been slightly turned on by it. My only real concern, of course, was being safe. Other than that, emotional in what sort of way? Quote Share this post Link to post
MrDiscover 802 Posted June 22, 2015 No, not other than that. Just if they were turned on extra by it (or not) and of course you feeling more vulnerable maybe. Same goes for O, I could imagine him being even more careful with sharing you. Great to hear it worked all out and, as you mentioned earlier, before your swingers-time-off in a few weeks time. Quote Share this post Link to post
GuyInMD79 1,500 Posted June 22, 2015 Great for you! I'm really happy for you guys. I'm only sorry it wasn't us that you guys played with . Our first time out had some performance issues as well- it was no big deal, because everyone was very cool and comfortable together. And we were happy to finish the job on our next play date with the couple! It sounds like it was a positive, fun experience for both of you. Keep having fun! BTW, I think you will find the "crazy erotic" factor will be different on different occasions, just like it is with you two. Sometimes it's comfortable and funny, sometimes intense and passionate, sometimes hot and hard! And, if we're being honest, we have to admit that every so often it's awkward and not working well. But, for our part, we are willing to risk the occasional less-than-awesome experience in order to have the many different kinds of fun and hot romps we get to have! Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,026 Posted June 22, 2015 I think the sex we have tonight AFTER we get these kids to bed will be much better than anything that happened this afternoon. I have been wet and trying not to attack O since we got back home. Lol:DAfter an afternoon or evening of play, getting home and having wild sex is not unusual. Pleased to read that your first experience was a good one. Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,068 Posted June 22, 2015 ...don't forget the free T shirt! All too often, when we are playing...it's very surrealistic. It's like my mind doesn't believe what my senses are telling it. So while afterwards when I can look back and analyze it, I can see how very hot it was but when it was happening it is almost like a dream of sorts. The big rush is how much I want the Ms. for being able to trust and love me (and vise versa) so much to encourage this to go on. We feel SO close afterwards (kind of weird when you really think about it). It's the sprinkles on top of our relationship. Welcome to the club and glad that you have a great experience. Quote Share this post Link to post
PandO 103 Posted June 22, 2015 and of course you feeling more vulnerable maybe. Same goes for O, I could imagine him being even more careful with sharing you. Definitely not vulnerable as I was the one on top of him. lol I really have extremely healthy, normal, easy pregnancies and stay pretty strong and emotionally steady throughout. Lucky for me and O...and our new friends. Quote Share this post Link to post
PandO 103 Posted June 22, 2015 To be honest, maybe it would have been more erotic if I could have looked. I guess I'm more of an exhibitionist than a voyeur. I felt as if I was intruding when I would look. I was pretty much focused on O and/or whoever I was playing with at the moment and trying to give everyone else some level of privacy, which I realize doesn't make much sense at all. We really did have fun though, and as excited as I am to welcome our new little one, I'm also excited to get all healed up, back to normal, and try it out again. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post