Vaginal issues after sex with others, someone please help?

[louisvillemojo 41]

So I will start from the beginning. I do Not like hubby to cum in me because it makes my vagina smell weird for a few days after. I have asked several girlfriends about this thinking something was wrong, and they all say it happens to them too so I don't feel alone. It is a stronger smell, Not really bad per say, but not fresh either. Basically how your lady bits would smell after a day without a shower, even though you just took one. So long story short, I request it go down my throat or on me or anywhere but in there. He could care less either way. Just to clarify, of course I talked to doc and have no infection or anything, but doc said he didn't know why this would happen, but again, all my friends can't be lying to me about it. Maybe women just don't discuss with the doc? Idk

 

So we have had a few play times. We are new, and moving slowly. We have had FMF threesomes, and I will occasional be fingered and/or ate out my the man or women we are playing with (or both if I am lucky lol) But I have noticed that every time we play with another couple, It seems like I get a infection or something. The first time, I ended up with a bacterial infection. (BV) The second time I ended up with the ''it smells off'' problem described above. The 3rd time I got a yeast infection. The 4th time I got BV AGAIN. Now here I am after time 5 and we played last night and now my vagina is smelling ''off''. No signs of infection, just off. ( Yes, I pee immediately after sex, and we are careful that everything is clean, etc. Condoms have not come into play yet because I have not been with a man yet. We always ask about STD's first. The women we have played with had good hygiene, NO I do not Douche per doc instructions)

 

So my question is... What the heck is going on here? I can't believe that EVERY women I played with gave me a infection of some kind or transfered a yeast infection from there mouth. I almost feel like my pussy is freaking out about the new partners. I have googled and found that some women get BV or a yeast infection whenever they have a new partner. Basically, in a monogamous relationship your body becomes ''used to'' your partners germs, but if you introduce new ones, your body responds. How does this work in a swinging lifestyle where you are exposed to a lot of ''new germs''?

 

I am horrible embarrassed to even be asking this. Telling everyone my vagina smells weird was never a goal of mine, but I don't know how to fix this. Yes I have been checked by doc and it was always what I thought it was above and was prescribed the meds to treat it. But, I can't go to my doc every other week. What am I doing wrong here? I pee after sex, I already look like the germaphobe nerd requesting everyone stop play and go wash there hands before touching me, I clean with Ivory soap and water per doc instructions. I wear cotton panties on a everyday basis ( I do dress up for play) or No panties to let it breathe. We clean up right after with wipes etc until I can get to shower. Am I missing something?

 

Someone please tell my I am not alone and how to fix this. My vagina doesn't like new people!

 

ALSO: This makes me wonder about the art of what to tell your playmates. Of course I would share if it was a std, but what about things like yeast infections or BV? I have only seen one of the ladies I played with after, and I mentioned having to go to doc to be treated for BV after playing, and she looked at me like I had 3 heads and pretty much ran away after telling me ''she has never had it and doesn't want it''. Well Neither do I, Neither do I. I would think this issue was just something I was getting from the women, but for it to have happened after EVERY encounter makes me think otherwise. Doc told me it was ''possible but unlikely unless we shared a sex toy'' which we did not.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Hi, louisvillemojo. I don't have any concrete advice but I remember there was one member here that also had similar issues as you. She lamented that every time she went out to swing, we would get a yeast infection or BV and it was because her body was affected by new partners. I think she was upfront with her GYN about being non-monogamous and suggested using some kind of capsule after every sexual encounter with a new partner. I also happened to find this thread for you:

 

https://www.swingersboard.com/forums/topic/38977-yeast-infections-from-different-partners/

 

I hope it helps somewhat. Mostly, be honest with your GYN and see what she advises as well.

[louisvillemojo 41]

Thank you for your reply. It was embarrassing to write and I'm discouraged by the lack of response. Hopefully since it was moved to correct area I can get some more advice. Anyone?

 

Update: smell went away after few days and currently no sign of infection so this time might be alright.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

I'm glad to hear this time was different for you. Yeast infections and BV aren't any fun so I do hope you are able to talk to your GYN about it and see if she has any medical advice as well.

[angelkin 1,326]

What a bummer that our bodies get in the way of sexy fun, right?

 

Infections like BV and Yeast are all about the pH of your vagina. I tended to get pH imbalances with new partners, condom use, and with my monthly cycle. Douching can create a pH balance nightmare...I tried a product called rephresh, but didn't find that it helped much. I now use Vagisil pH balance wash at least daily or as often as I shower. It really seems to help keep my pH in check and only occasionally will I experience any infection.

 

You of course should continue the conversation with your Gyn, it could be something else going on. PM me if you are interested in some of the "home remedies" I discussed with my Gyn that she approved.

[louisvillemojo 41]

Just a update, I have had a month now with no issues so I thought I would share what I have done differently and products I use thanks to the great recommendations I have received.

1) Vagisil PH wash (I always used summers eve before, this stuff is way better!)

2) If he cums in me, I immediately rinse it out with shower head on low setting. Cum sitting in me is a sure way to get a infection.

3) VH probiotics with cranberry for fem health from amazon. Reasonable priced and I swear they help a lot!

4) I have cut back on baths, (shower instead) I love to soak in the tub, but it is bad for the vagina (at least in my case)

5) First sign of problems coming on, I use a borax suppository with a little coconut oil or you can douche with 1/2 peroxide 1/2 water solution.

 

I hope this helps someone. I have struggled with constant problems with the vagina forever, and am finally getting some relief. Good luck!

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Thanks for the update and the recommendations for others! I'll have to try to remember your list when another member comes by and asks the same question.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

Just adding in a little of my own experience here. I am diabetic (plays into yeast infections naturally without any additional factors) I haven't had any yeast infections since I was with my husband but used to get them frequently during my dating time before him (multiple partners with protection each time).

 

side note: I used to get swelling and a smell after my husband would come inside me (well when he was my boyfriend) anyway I found out I have a sperm allergy and it took us continuing to be together and him coming inside me to eventually stop my body from reacting to his sperm took about a year I want to say (not sure if this is what the problem with your hubby is).

 

Ok back on topic: we start in the lifestyle, we are a full swap couple who uses condoms, after first play instant yeast infection and if you think it is bad getting them yourself think how worse it is when you pass it onto your uncut hubby where it rages for a good week. (sorry my love) This happened pretty much after every new partner for about 6 months then I started using coconut oil before and after each encounter and have not had problems since. I still get an occasional yeast infection but it is very rare.

 

I am glad you found the solution to your situation.