Wife and Her Coworker/friend - play or not with coworkers?

[cecouple 18]

Hello Everyone,

 

I need some advice on the following scenario ....

 

So my wife is a nurse and she works with a really cute younger girl. My wife is 28 and the girl is 22.

 

About a month ago we were at a company party and her coworker arrived with her boyfriend. We all sat at the same table. My wife's coworker seated in front of me and her boyfriend in front of my wife. We were all having a great conversation throughout the party. Later that night the coworker got very drunk and my wife was somewhat tipsy. They were both wearing a short dress and looked very sexy.

 

At one point the coworker bend over exposing her sexy black g-string to everyone at the party. My wife saw me looking at her and smiled.

 

Later that night my wife and I went home talking about the situation. She said "My coworker was very drunk I had to take care of her all night". I knew she wanted to talk more about the situation, so when we got home I took her dress off and we started to have sex. After a few minutes of having sex, she brought up the point of how her coworker showed the g-string and I said it was nice She bluntly asked me "Do you wanna fuck her" and I replied "Yes". She said "she might like you". She also mentioned how the coworker's bf was staring at her 36DDs all night and she said "Would you let me fuck him?" and I said yes. She was very excited and ready for the swap. She said I will bring it up to her.

 

A few months went by and I never heard about the situation again. Recently I found out that the coworker and her BF broke up, but yesterday while dinning out we were talking about her. She mentioned how her coworker is under a lot of stress and I said "She must need some dick". My wife replied and said yes she does and she continue on how she wasn't getting it right from the previous dude.

 

So my question is: Is it worth a shot for me to ask my wife to bring her for a threesome? What you guys think? I can tell she has thought about the situation.

 

Let me know your thoughts.

 

Thank you

[cplnuswing 4,713]

When the alcohol is doing the talking isn't a good time to be discussing having sex with others. I would say it wouldn't hurt to bring the idea of swinging up some time over a Saturday morning cup of coffee or some other time when you are both relaxed and sober. You can see what her thoughts are, and go from there. The fact that she hasn't mentioned it again leads me to think she's not strongly interested, but you won't know until you ask.

[swing.kidz 367]

It might be fun! However, prepare yourself for it to go very, very south. Because, preparing for the worst is the only way you'll make a wise decision. If you can handle the aftermath, then have a great time! If you can't handle the fallout, then you know your decision.

[angelkin 1,326]

Coworkers and neighbors are off limits for swing activities in my world. If you want to sexplore, I'd do it outside your circle of coworkers.

[kikonkrome 844]

Yeah, you should talk with your wife about it, sober. Nothing ventured nothing gained. I would probably pass on the co-worker thing though, but something else will come along.

[intuition897 2,179]

I recently posted a thread about the crush I've developed for my hot ass boss. It would be less tempting I think if it wasn't even in the realm of possibility. But the fact that, on our side at least, extra-marital adventures are not off the menu, it makes it that much harder to just put it from my mind. So I can empathize with your struggle here, LOL.

 

As I mentioned there, I personally don't have an issue with playing with a coworker - or even my boss, for that matter - as long as everything was on the up and up, and I could be sure they could keep their shit together. I am 100% certain of my ability to keep a poker face at work, not panic at any insinuations by office mates, and know where the lines are drawn about hanky-panky around the office. Work and play would need to be totally compartmentalized, and my coworker/boss/whomever would need to understand that be able to keep up. If there were any doubt, I wouldn't do it, period.

 

It may not be a popular stance, but the coworker's age is a bit of a red flag for me. It would depend on the person, as some 22-year-olds are more mature than others. But the simple truth is, they don't have the same life experience of someone even 10 years older. By that, I just mean that a 22-year-old is potentially a higher drama risk than someone who's been around the block a time or two. Your mileage may vary, of course.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

There's a few men and women in our professional lives that give Mrs two4you and I the thought "Yeah, I'd hit that in a heartbeat".

But, we both know it ain't gonna happen. And that's OK. We leave them in fantasy land and focus on couples that we can have some fun with.

 

So, yeah, my advice is to enjoy the thoughts about a romp in the sack with this young woman, but leave it there as long as they work together/in the same facility.

[cplnluv1 874]

Last year we met a business associate of my husband. I posted about it and got more people saying not to do it. We were just starting our new adventures and I was hesitant to meet someone that would know us. Not only did we meet them, we attended a party they threw. It worked for us but I suggest you think it through. You don't even know if she wants to do this. Maybe it is more your wife who does.

[cecouple 18]

Thank you , Everyone ..

 

I will keep you posted on our moves

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

The problem of co-workers is if things go bad or have a problem, you run the risk of her running her telling everyone at work about your extra-sexual activities. We keep our play completely separate from our work.

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

Deliberately mixing work with social activities that are not mainstream is an avoidable risk. It's not worth it. Pass and find others.

 

Two additional points to be made.

 

1. At some point, you may run across a co-worker (or someone else you know from vanilla life) at a nude resort, an LS party, whatever. Don't panic--they are there for the same reason you are and are just as concerned. Quietly acknowledge them--a glance, a simple hello, whatever--and move on. You now share a secret and it's up to you to keep that secret. If they persist with a larger acknowledgment, guide them aside and suggest that the fact that you know one another in vanilla life is not of concern to the rest of the folks around.

 

2. Close LS friends are just that, close friends. At some point, you'll have to make a choice about the extent to which those close friendships spill over into other vanilla activities--holiday parties and so on. If for whatever reason you choose to bring those worlds together, the one story that you must have clear is how you met your LS friends. "Online at a swinger site", "At a house party", "At Hedo", "On a nude cruise" etc is avoidable. Our standard--and likely near-universal response--is "friends of friends". It's accurate enough to be the truth, vague enough to not stir up a lot of further interest, and so on.

[MrDiscover 802]

LOL @ #2. We and the other newbies we call our FWB's thought we had a waterproof story, and the very first time asked by a daughter, the couple had a different story as we had... I wish we had seen this pro tip about friends-of-friends 6 months earlier

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Ours are our NBFF (naughty best friends forever...the girls came up with it). Our answer is that we've just been very close friends for a long time.

[Bob250 74]

The wife in one of the couples who got me involved in swinging, was a coworker. It turned out really, really, really bad. She developed feelings for me, so that she would very obviously ignore her husband during play, and always wanted a kiss or hug in private and at work. I am no longer friends with either of them, and they eventually divorced. A sad story. Friends, acquaintances, family members and coworkers are out, out, out.