Ladies, Bareback, can you tell the difference?

[Shore2Please 613]

I recently posted about meetings we have had where we didn't use protection. The thread was moved to another section. I have a question to ask the other women on here. Do you feel a difference between your partner wearing a condom or not? We are still new and our only meetings have been with a couple we met last year and their friends. In a party setting (twice) the men used condoms. When we met with just the couples, two of them separately, we didn't use anything. My husband says it takes the fun out of it when he wears a condom. He said he loses feeling and spontaneity. I can understand that. It is one of the reasons we both got "fixed". He says I must feel the difference, but I don't. Do others feel a major difference?

[cplnluv1 874]

I can't say there is a major difference to me. The feeling if he is stroking or I am on top is the same if he does or doesn't have one. If he cums I think I sometimes feel it but mainly I think I feel a warmth or something dripping down me. For anal sex a highly lubed condom I think is easier for both of us and I rather not have someone cum back there.

Tell your husband that it's not that much different either way. I know my husband agrees with yours that it isn't the same for him.

[MrDiscover 802]

Your husband can try to see it differently, like the condoms make this all posible and to be able to enjoy other women. To see how lucky he is to have you and do this together. Yes, condoms are sometimes slowing things down and can take away some of the feeling. But it is a small detail in the greater picture. For instance I love to fuck my wife analy without a condom and switch right before I ejaculate and fill her cunt with my cum. But she will get ill from that so we don't. It is a hassle to remove the condom during switching but all worth it when I feel how I squirt in her.

 

Sometimes you have to say: I know your point of view but this is how we are going to do it.

[MrDiscover 802]

As to your question: MsD says she hardly feels the difference but she most of the times feel me ejaculate and she likes that. She only does blowjobs with me with a condom and prefers the regular ones instead of fruity flavors.

[ErikaAndPeter 104]

I never feel a difference whether he is wearing a condom or not while he is thrusting or I am riding. If he ejaculates without a condom, then of course I do feel the warm cum as it drips out. Personally, foregoing the feeling of cum is not a big deal for me.

[asncpl 730]

I don't feel much of a difference except that I usually need to apply some lube half way through with condoms. I am usually a bit drier later on because of the pill. But I do enjoy warm cum dripping out of me.

 

My husband, probably like most men, is not fond of condoms. It's getting to be more of a problem as he gets older because the sensitivity is not there with condom and he'd have difficulty reaching orgasm.

[Guest]

I don’t feel a difference. Hubby says they make him last longer. Given that, maybe we ladies should require them all of the time.

[beardedone 50]

I hate condoms. They are a necessary evil if pregnancy or STDs are a concern, though. Still clean, after all these years.

[76dragonflies 21]

I honestly can't tell a difference. And oddly, I prefer condoms. There is something, I have no idea what, but there is something incredibly erotic for me about condoms. Although we don't use them all the time vaginally, I require them for anal and for when we are with our other couple.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

...there is something incredibly erotic for me about condoms.

This is the best way I can think of to get a guy to wear the raincoat!

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I can't feel a difference.

[Toonytr 18]

for mr...I cant feel difference...and it make me longer and feel more safe ...for mrs..cant feen difference..make me feel safe and some kind condoms (lıke ribbed condom)make nice sex...and if do oral not to huby always use tin condom..

[jonburt 22]

For the most part I can't tell the difference, I would say the initial entry feels better to me without a condom, about 30 seconds in I couldn't tell either way. I guess like every other guy (pretty much) Jon prefers no condoms.

[Shore2Please 613]

I think most agree that there isn't a major difference. I think one major difference is spontaneity. Not that it is a big mood changer.

I just don't like doing oral to a condom. I am not a gagger but I hate the taste and smell of a condom. I also can tell the difference here.

[padoc 1,704]

If your selection process is effective, condoms are unnecessary. We do use condoms at clubs where the play is kind of random and hence a bit more risky but neither of us like them. Mrs Doc dries with condoms and the sex eventually becomes uncomfortable for her which kind of offsets the last longer benefit.

[PeterJ 960]

If your selection process is effective, condoms are unnecessary. We do use condoms at clubs where the play is kind of random and hence a bit more risky but neither of us like them. Mrs Doc dries with condoms and the sex eventually becomes uncomfortable for her which kind of offsets the last longer benefit.

 

My wife definitely feels the difference between bare and wrapped and she doesn't like the latter. When I've been with other people (she's bi but doesn't play) she won't have intercourse with me for at least ten days "just in case." She enjoys being penetrated, but only with bare on bare. Like Mrs. Doc, condoms dry her out, even with lube.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

When I've been with other people,... she won't have intercourse with me for at least ten days "just in case."

I trust that this policy helps her to feel better (though it doesn't sound all that great for you!). But I hope she is aware that ten days is insufficient to guarantee safety from many STIs- there are some STIs that would not show symptoms after that short a time, and wouldn't even result in a positive test on an STI panel after ten days, much less show visible symptoms.

[Niknmik 161]

I can't feel a difference but I'm more sore afterwards usually.

 

- N

[findinganswers 369]

As we play mainly with friends we hardly use condoms. I, the male, am not a fan. One night we were with couples and it was everyone was using condoms. Not to kill the night, I used them too. After the evening, I complained to my wife about it and she asked me if does it make a big deal. She said she couldn't tell the difference. I asked what about stopping, opening and putting on a condom was not really fun and besides it felt different for me. Honestly I always thought she could feel me shoot. Maybe I am naive

[bedwarrior2016 17]

I assure you most of the ladies feel the difference.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I assure you most of the ladies feel the difference.

 

That is not what the replies here show. How can you assure us?

[J&Wu 411]

As a young guy, no difference. As an older guy with a softer penis it can be a problem penetrating. Wu never liked condoms ever!

[GoNatural 104]

On 8/28/2016 at 7:11 PM, jonburt said:

For the most part I can't tell the difference, I would say the initial entry feels better to me without a condom, about 30 seconds in I couldn't tell either way. I guess like every other guy (pretty much) Jon prefers no condoms.

That's what I think.   The initial entry will feel more different to the receiving partner more so than a bit later during thrusting. 

 

I asked a longterm partner this, she said that she could feel it a little bit, it was more plasticky, but not noticeable if she didn't pay close attention.   A very thick dick with a condom can also cause a little bit of friction burn without high amounts of lube, is what I've read more than once online.

 

For me with women, I definitely have felt a loss of sensation with a condom.  That isn't always bad.  Sometimes I cum too soon.  The desire to go bare for me is just to feel more, and also it's nice to have less rules.  Still, I've used them with FWB women that I thought were too risky, and with the wives that have a condom rule in their swinging, or open relationship.    I get tested twice a year or more when swinging, and I usually see one or two couples at a time.  So, I play bare if the couple wants that.

 

Squick factor warning for the next sentences, a bi guy receiving anal (back in my 20's) .....

 

As a guy that has received penetration from a few guys, bare with husbands, condoms with singles.....back in the day.   With a big cock....there was just feelings of pressure etc....   didn't feel the condom.    A small penis?  The condom was a little baggy on him, and the condom could be felt more due to that.     That wasn't vaginal of course, but I think it's really similar, if anything I think more detail could be felt by the woman during vaginal penetration.

 

 

[NWAtlSwing 526]

She definitely can tell the difference.

[JessicaJamison 864]

No we can't feel the condom.  Now I've had a couple issues with what they put on certain brands of condoms, but my skin is insanely sensitive.  The wrong brand of hand soap can make me break out in a rash.

[J&Wu 411]

On 9/5/2016 at 11:41 AM, Shore2Please said:

I think most agree that there isn't a major difference. I think one major difference is spontaneity. Not that it is a big mood changer.

I just don't like doing oral to a condom. I am not a gagger but I hate the taste and smell of a condom. I also can tell the difference here.

I love the taste of pussy, but not so much after there has been a condom in it.

[PSULioness 859]

It doesn’t make much of a difference to me. I can understand those that say it could be a mood breaker, I try to make it  part of the fun if we are using one. I can’t feel it during sex unless it’s oral sex of course. Yuk I hate the taste lol. I am pretty sure I can tell when he ejaculates if he doesn’t wear one and pretty sure I know even when he isn't wearing one, the breathing and noises they make are a give away. I have experienced guys who have had condoms slip off and I didn’t know until they were finished. 

I think I could understand guys might have a different feeling using a condom, more so after they cum. 

[couplers 4,724]

Fortunately, we don't have to use them.  I can definitely feel the difference, can certainly tell when a guy ejaculates, and love having cum in me.  I like licking it out of Clair's and Lora's pussies too.

[Sophy 571]

Yes, I can feel the difference, sometimes it is more noticeable for example if the penis is not fully fully erected and/or if is a shitty tick condom.