Newbie with lots of questions about first club visit to Trapeze ATL!!!

[curious0123 15]

So my husband and I decided we were curious about a swingers club, and decided to visit one locally. I don't know how to dress, what to bring, do you go and then change into something else? If you meet someone do you go in a private room and does it have a bathroom to clean up afterwards? And what are the atmospheres like? Are people having sex in front of everyone or do you have to go to a private room? And anyone here from the ATL? I want to know if anyone has been to Trapeze.

 

Also, how do you talk to people there? I mean do you have a normal convo to start off?? I am starting to feel kinda overwhelmed.

[MrDiscover 802]

First of all: welcome!

 

Our experience with clubs is very limited (only been twice) and maybe a bit different because we live in Europe, so clubs maybe a bit different. Okay, enough disclaimer.

 

I don't know how to dress

 

Just wear something you feel comfortable and sexy in. Most of the times not your daily underwear, especially men. We love nice lingerie, stockings with garters etc etc, but that proved to be not very practical with undressing, dressing, undressing again. There is a whole forum on only what to wear on this board, you might want to browse the discussions there: Dress to Impress

 

what to bring

 

Once again, that depends on what you like and the sort of club. I can tell you what we brought:

 

A large bag to take everything with us.

Extra sets of lingerie (her) and shorts (me).

Sexy shoes.

Extra underwear and something to drink for the way back home/hotel

Toothbrush +paste

Mints

ID's

Own well-fitting condoms

Case for glasses and case+fluids for contacts

Aspirin

 

do you go and then change into something else?

 

We leave the home dressed like a regular night out. We don't want to give away much clues to the neighbors and especially the younger kids. Some clubs, at least in NL, start with sexy clothing right away. In that case, after paying the entrance / membership fee, you go to a locker room and change into something sexy. In other cases, there is a moment, marked by a song/time/whistle etc., when you are asked to change. In those cases you start in your vanilla going-out-clothing, and change into something more sexy afterwards.

 

If you meet someone do you go in a private room

 

You can. Or not, depends on what you want. We ended up talking with people, flirting, but we did not had sex so we just stayed at the bar. In other cases you can retreat to a private room, most clubs have those. Sometimes you can lock them, sometimes not. Sometimes it is really private, other times they have hole so people can peek in. Depends on the club. Once again, this is how it is in the NL, could be different in your country.

 

and does it have a bathroom to clean up afterwards?

 

Yes, showers so you can clean yourself.

 

And what are the atmospheres like?

 

Like a regular nightclub/dancing etc, but with the possibility to go further than that. In general, people find the atmosphere more friendly comparing to vanilla clubs, especially towards women. There is less hunting and harassing, more respect.

 

Are people having sex in front of everyone or do you have to go to a private room?

 

Most clubs I know have different areas and it can be so much separated, that when you are at the bar, you will not find any nudity at all. In the other areas, however, you can find people having sex in front of everyone (or a part of the visitors) and people in private rooms. Just what you prefer. I know for a first time, it is both exciting and overwhelming to just look at other people having sex. More about swinging in clubs: Swinging at Clubs, Parties, & Lifestyle Resorts

 

Also, how do you talk to people there? I mean do you have a normal convo to start off?

 

Yes. The first contact is very easy, we found everyone is very open. More than in a regular bar etc. Some good tips here: Initiating Conversation From that thread:

 

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Don't get bogged down with details. Remember people are there to meet people and hopefully connect. If someone finds you attractive they don't care what you say as long as you make an attempt to meet them and engage them. WHAT you say has little relevance. If someone does not find you attractive it also does not matter what you say, they are not going to be interested regardless. So again it doesn't matter what you say. If you initiate a conversation and they seem interested and continue talking to you, you are are good, keep them engaged. If you start talking and they give you a monosyllable answer and turn away from you let them go and move on to the next. What you say means nothing, that you started talking to them at all means everything.

 

It helps to not assume people expect you to do something, just focus on having a nice conversation and learn to know other people. Focus on having a good time and avoid the pressure of the idea you have to have sex.

[Guest]

we have been to three clubs in the US. Dress sexy, as sexy as you feel you can given that you are driving there on public highways. Sexual activity normally occurs in play rooms that are away from the main room which can vary from bar like to finished basement at someone’s home where you attended high school parties. Nicer ones can be more like night clubs. If its a couples only club, people will be patient, the first hour or couple of hours is typically seen as meet, greet and chat time. If single men are allowed, there will be more pressure right away. A couples club is a good place to get started. Our first visit included going to the playroom and just playing together. It gave us a chance to safety see what went on there and to be seen.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

First off, welcome to the Swingers Board!

 

We've been to Trapeze ATL, although it has been a couple of years ago now. It's a successful, well established club so I don't expect much has changed though. Your visit will go something like this:

 

Dress however you feel comfortable. You'll see the entire range from very sexy to tamer than what you see in a regular dance club. For us that usually means nice jeans and button up shirt for him, and something sexy but not over the top for her. They do have lockers and a changing room (more on that later), but most people just come already dressed and don't change there. You could always wear some sort of cover-up for the drive there if you wanted to.

 

You pull up and they have valet parking, so they will park the car for you and then retrieve it when you are ready to leave. You'll go in and then go through the process of "joining" the club and paying your fees. For legal reasons due to the alcohol/nudity rules, they are a private club and not just your run of the mill public night club. At this time you'll turn over your alcohol and they will put a number on the bottle, and then anytime you want a drink, you just go to the bar, tell them your number, and they will fix it for you. They supply the ice, mixers, etc.

 

They serve food there, which actually isn't bad, and that's part of the price of admission. The dining area is on one side of the main part of the club and is the typical tables and chairs like you would expect. The other half of the main part of the club is a dance floor and then seating areas around it. The way it is set up, you could get a spot in a corner sort of out of the action if you wanted.

 

In the main part of the club you may seem some mild nudity, dirty dancing, etc. on the dance floor, especially the later it gets. But, the main action takes place in the back. To get to the back, you can't be in street clothes. The way that works is you go into the locker room area, the attendant provides you a locker, and you change into whatever you brought or else they provide towels. Most people just wore the towels, guys just around their waist and the girls a mix of around their waist or else above their breasts. Some ladies changed wore lingerie and some people just wore nothing at all, but the towels are by far the most common. So then you go into the back. There are seating areas, group play areas, private play rooms, hot tubs, heated pool, and another bar. Whether you go to the back part of the club is totally up to you of course.

 

My advice would be to go on a Saturday and get their early before the club gets too crowded. That will give your choice of where to sit and give you time to get comfortable and kind of build into things into just walking into it when things are rocking. People have a good sense about whether someone wants to talk or not, so if you sit in a dark distant corner by yourselves you could probably go the whole evening without every really talking to anyone, or if you sit more in a group area, then I'm sure you will find people to talk to.

 

When we go to a club, we just take our drinks, some gum/mints, condoms, and she will have her usual lip gloss, etc.

 

The #1 rule of swinging and swingers clubs - just go with no expectations other than having a fun night out together, and you can't go wrong. Good luck and please come back and post and let us know how it went!

[NewPLaceCALIF 17]

I need to offer Mr. Discover a job as P.R. manager for the resort! If I was looking for what the OP was, spot on!

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Welcome to SwingersBoard, Curious0123! You've gotten some great replies about the club experience, but I was curious to know what your swinging experience level is. Have you two had any swinging-type sexual experiences with others, or will the club be your first time? Because if this will be your first encounter with swinging as well as your first time at a swinger's club, that's a double-whammy of new things!

[FunontheRock 15]

Well did you go, Curious0123? How was it? My wife and I have talked about going to Trapeze for three years. We have had plenty of discussions about the lifestyle and going to the Trapeze Club. We think the club may be the best way to get our feet wet. It's nerves and fear that we could be over our heads that has kept us from going. But, it may also be the best way to see if it's something for us. Setting up meet and greet could be ackward if there is no connection. We feel we would know in the first few min. if we had any interest. I'm not trying to be judgemental, it's that the first step is the hardest. Like this post our first since joining years back and larking.

[njbm 2,901]

Fun on the Rocks, go to Trapeze and agree to just watch and/or have sex only with each other. It's a good way to know what to expect. But the only way to know how you will feel is to swap! You may want to try this on a subsequent visit. In our lifestyle experience, whatever we think is going to happen is not what happens. Try it. It's a journey.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

It's always great to see someone come out of long-time lurker status and make their first post

 

I'll second njbm, just go with no expectation other than having a fun time together and you can't go wrong. We've been to Trapeze ATL and had a good time, and I'll bet you will too.