Are sex toys too intimate for swinging?

[sexycpl3145 15]

My wife and I have been seeing a couple for about 3 months and have played in separate rooms with the other couple most times. Last time the other guy used a sex toy and some body oil on my wife. Does this seem too Intimate? More intimate than just sex? Thanks for any replies in advance.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

My wife would be sorely disappointed if a toy, either one of her own or something new, was not used at some time or another during an evening's activity. Just be sure to have the discussion about the toy being given proper sanitary care between uses -- I.E not to be used in a butt hole then put thereafter into a vaginal canal.

[MrDiscover 802]

Welcome! And no, we don't see it as too intimate either. In fact, we would love to use those on our playfriends but until now there was simply too much going on without, so the toys stayed in the bag.

[angelkin 1,326]

Toys are great fun and I don't find them too intimate at all. Toys used for play (we have separate) must be used with condoms for the hygiene factor. The oil might be a little more intimate, that's more of a slow and sensual activity, yes? It depends on how you feel about it and if you're uncomfortable, then there's nothing wrong with making that a rule for play.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

It wouldn't to us, but it all depends on what you are comfortable with. If it is something one or either of you feel is a bridge too far, then just politely decline and stick with what is in your comfort zone.

[asncpl 730]

I don't think it's too intimate. Like other posters said, the key for me is cleanliness. Wash the toy before and after each use and if it's someone else's toy, I always insist on a condom.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

What we think doesn't really matter. I would ask yourself why you think a toy and body oil is more intimate than him putting his cock in her or licking her? Is it because it is possibly more sensual and less orgasm oriented? Is it because this is not something you have done with her? Have you talked to your wife about it? Did she feel it was overly intimate? Would she be comfortable with you playing with the other wife in the same way?

[Glida 250]

We hosted a couple last weekend and used sex toys for the first time on a date. It just happened, right time, right people, right place. Although I do remember a conversation way back with MR G and I quote myself "Sex toys, with another couple, that doesn't sound right to me....really?" I hadn't waved the veto flag and I naively thought it would never come up but it did and it was hot, it felt right and not at all like I had imagined.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

We don't find toy usage to be too intimate but it is about your comfort levels. If it is something that bothers you then you should discuss with your wife and maybe take it off the play table. It's something we wouldn't do just because neither one of us is into toy play.