How do you explain your FWB?

[purple4215 55]

We've become quite close with another couple and we have zero mutual friends and don't live in same city. How can we explain our new friendship? Both of us couples are really starting to worry about this, we need to be discreet.

[MapleCpl 67]

I (Husband) normally tell people, that I worked with the other husband of the other couple a long time ago, and that now they moved back into town and we reconnected. We introduced the wives to each other and are starting to hang out as couples. Typically, people know you had ex-coworkers that moved away or for some reason or another you lost touch with them.

This one always works like a charm!!

Just make sure you are all on the same page in case anyone does ask, you all know what to answer.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

There's quite a few ways to handle that. Met through a work event, met through friends of friends, belong to the same web community, got to talking at a street festival and hit it off, etc. etc.

 

With one couple we were close to with no mutual friends, the story was "Mrs two4you and Mrs playmate met at the store, got to talking, and hit it off". No one questioned it.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We like the work event one, like a training seminar. Those have people within a 100 miles in any direction attending and from diverse companies and employers. "Oh, the girls (or guys) meet at some training thing, went to lunch together and hit it off, and so we all got to be friends." Everybody hates those training seminars and doesn't want to think of them more than they have to, so they aren't likely to start asking details about it

[DestinyBandJ 34]

Work stories are always believable. Like what was said before, make sure you're both on the same page about it. Otherwise, the person that was directed the question should be the only one to respond and tell the story and have the FWB say yes to everything. Or just make up some long winded story about how you were being hunted by ninjas and you were off to save the world and your FWB was trapped in a curse spell so you broke the curse now they owe you a debt so they have to stick around you so they can fulfill said debt to you. End the story with something along the lines of ultimately saving the world and just start telling every one "You're Welcome". That usually gets the job done for us. But then again it's believable because I am never serious with anyone....not usually anyway. There are no usual follow up questions, and if there are, reiterate said parts about them owing you a debt? This might be bad advice.

[SAMnTINA 362]

Not sure why you feel it's necessary to explain anything. New friends is all the explanation any one needs.

[purple4215 55]

Work friends won't work, vastly different careers. We only feel the need to explain because of a few close friends that if I was suddenly on Facebook in pictures or just hanging out with new people, they would say (in a nice friendly way) who are these people and how did you meet them? So we are both feeling like we need a story. We both wish the work thing would work...super easy then...but it won't.

 

Keep suggestions coming. I really appreciate it!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

You could say, "They're friends and we met them while traveling/vacationing."

[PandO 103]

I'd just make up something completely random. "We met them that weekend we went to the concert/beach/camping/whatever, and we really enjoyed each other's company, exchanged info meaning to stay in touch, but was just recently able to get back in touch..." Leave it very vague and any other question they ask just kind of laugh and shrug and be like, "you know, I don't even remember." I find most people don't dig. They just accept a simple answer. And before long, they'll be used to seeing your new friends in pics and hearing stories about them. It'll seem totally normal.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

I say tell the truth, just not all of it. I actually remember introducing a couple we had met at a swingers club as "folks we met while out dancing." It was true... we danced at the club. I just left off the other parts. One fellow who we started hanging out with "we met online." I just left off the part about it being on Fetlife... which turned out to be ironic because everyone in that gathering turned out to be on Fetlife. What I'm saying is don't lie. Lies will bite you in the ass eventually. Just only tell as much of the truth as you're comfortable with. People don't usually ask for more.

[PandO 103]

I actually like LH's advice. Luckily I don't really have any prying family where we currently live, and because we move around so much, I always have new random friends from all over the place. No one ever questions it. However, when we went on our "date" the babysitter, who is a friend, was curious what we were going to do on our day out. She was assuming dinner and a movie, but I was afraid she'd ask about the movie. I'm a horrible liar, so I told her the absolute truth in a sarcastic tone and she never questioned that it was a joke. I told her, "we're going to meet up with a couple of friends and have sex all afternoon." She was just like "okay, if you don't want to tell me..." lol I wouldn't NORMALLY take that approach, but we were pretty sure her and her husband were swingers, as well. Later she and I went to lunch together, and I actually confirmed that suspicion.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

"Dancing" was always our explanation... because we really would start the evening with dancing. That the evening ended with sex... Well sure, we're a couple, we have a night out, we have sex. One doesn't talk about that, much less about the details of the sex.

[Alura 2,775]

Laura and I always tried to avoid lying. One time we were hosting a party when a long-time vanilla friend asked: "How did y'all meet?"

 

Mrs. Playmate: "Mr. Alura and Mr. Playmate met in a bookstore. (Yes, true, an adult bookstore. We were both checking out the "Swingers Bulletin Board" when Mr. Playmate pointed to a 3X5 card and said, "This one is ours." I pointed to another and said, "This one is ours." We switched places and read them.

 

Mrs. Alura: "They were both looking for something for their wives." (Yes, true, another man to fuck her."

 

Mrs. Playmate: "They had a cup of coffee, during which they made dinner plans." (Yes, true, after which we had sex with each other's wives.)

 

Mrs. Alura: "We've been going out to dinner about twice a month since." (Yes, true, and swapping afterwards.)

[MrDiscover 802]

First we had a story how we met through work, but at the first time the four of us needed an explanation, two totally different stories were told. Now, we keep it at 'friends we have met' and nobody digs further.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

How did you guys meet? Mutual interests on Facebook? ... on vacation? ... in a bar ... a newspapers online letters to the editor? ... car for sale? ... If any of these or other imaginations don't work you can always be on the offense. "Why are you being so curious?" "Are you and your (spouse) having problems?"

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

We simply sidestep the question. "Just friends, ya know?" Few people probe further.

[SAMnTINA 362]

There is always the old standby "We met them at a sex orgy." most people will just laugh and more on if you say this. LOL