Do you sometimes find yourself teaching sex?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

An event described in a based-upon-true-life novel recently loaded into my Kindle brought this question to my mind. Do you ever find yourself teaching a person about sex? I did myself encounter a woman who was nearly clueless, surprising in consideration of the fact that she had experienced fifteen years of married life and has a child. .

[JandKinBoise 859]

I found it surprising myself when I joined a couple with a bi hubby for an mmf. They had entertained many guys before me but apparently had never gotten creative. Seemed like every time we had sex they would gush over how exciting it is to be able to experience new things. They were my first mmf and I assumed they would be teaching me. It worked out well, I was able to form them into what I felt was a great couple of lovers.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We all have our personal likes (and dislikes). I don't have a problem asking my playmate to do (or not do) certain things. I don't consider it "training"

[intuition897 2,179]

We had to stop swinging many years ago because Mr. intuition sustained a...um...injury. I, uh...accidentally broke his penis during an especially vigorous round of lovemaking. He ended up with cracked penile cartilage which resulted in pain (obviously) and blood in his semen. He needed several months off (or at least low-impact sex) to allow it to heal. Anyway, I went in with him to his appointment with the urologist and he was explaining his symptoms to the young East Indian intern (don't know if culture has anything to do with sexual knowledge base, but I include it here in case culture might be relevant) and he furrowed his brows. "Well, how do you know there's blood in the semen?" he asked. Mr. intuition and I looked at one another, not sure what he was getting at. "What do you mean?" Mr. intuition asked in reply. "Well," he said, "how do you see your semen if you ejaculate during sex? (meaning inside the woman's body)" Oh my God. For real? Mr. intuition had to explain to the poor young fellow that sometimes a man ejaculates outside of the woman's body...like when he likes to plaster her with it. He blushed from head to toe. Welcome to the exciting field of urology, son.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

I don't know about teaching but I'm sure I've learned something new from every woman I've been with. What would be the point otherwise?

[Alura 2,775]

Was that our book, SW_PA_Couple? Mrs. Alura was never averse to telling a playmate exactly how to do something the way she liked to have it done. He (and his wife) was often grateful for what he had learned.

 

Alura

[cplnuswing 4,713]

A long time ago, way before we even had thought about swinging, Mrs. cplnuswing had this yeast infection from hell thing going on. It just wouldn't go away. It would flare up, then get a little better, then flare up worse than before. This went on for literally months, and she had been to the OB/GYN many different times while they tried to figure it out and kept upping the treatment. So obviously, this put a kink in our sex life, not to mention making her miserable in general. Her doctor at this practice, who she had liked up to this point, was going on to her about how this was the time they were finally going to get to the bottom of it, and this drug was the one that was finally going to work, etc. and that "I'm know it's been so painful and uncomfortable for you, not to mention not being able to be intimate with your husband for so long now".

 

Back then she was self-conscious and easily embarrassed, but every now and then she would totally surprise you and throw one off. She said she looked at him and nonchalantly said "when you want it bad enough, there's more than one place down there you can have fun with." She said his mouth literally dropped open and he stared wide-eyed at her until he finally gathered his composure enough to mumble "uh, yeah" and then just hurried through the rest of the visit while avoiding making eye contact.

 

Evidently, he had led a very sheltered life, and must have been out sick the day they talked about anal sex in med school. She switched to a different doctor not long after that.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

was that our book, sw_pa_couple?

bingo

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . Welcome to the exciting field of urology, son.

This is the reason that I like to toss questions like this. I am ALWAYS rewarded. Yours is the best sex education story ever.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

I don't really identify as a teacher of sex, more along the lines of a student willing to learn. Unless, teaching someone how I personally want to be treated is on the table. Good topic, SW_PA_Couple Got me thinking !

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I don't know about teaching but I'm sure I've learned something new from every woman I've been with. What would be the point otherwise?

 

Kind of nails it.

[let's do it again 416]

I worked in a factory of 3,000 people and I understand how the younger employees wasn't very knowledgeable about sex. I retired when I turned 62, but the younger employees would come to me with questions about sex, because they heard that I carried a bag of pussy hair in my lunchbox. Remember,  many of these young people never seen a 70's bush, most of the women had never heard of women taking viagra, or what it is like to visit a nude resort or beach. I have heard a lot of questions that I thought should be known in a heath or anatomy class. I couldn't believe how many guys have never licked a women's asshole. But I can say from listening to them, that a lot of young people are not having sex and that is a shame!

[older couple 132]

I had sex with a twenty-four-year-old divorced woman with one 14-year-old daughter.   After a long continuous thrusting, she suddenly tensed, jerked, and her eyes widened dramatically.  She sucked in a deep breath of air and formed a panic face with a deep throaty screech as if in pain.   She instantly kicked me off and shoved away from me about 2 feet.  I was confused and worried I had hurt her somehow.  I ask if she was ok.  She was staring up at the ceiling feeling her pussy with one hand and her stomach with the other while her chest was heaving for air as if she had run a 5-mile race.   I asked her if I had hurt her.   She said no.   She said that was the most wonderful feeling.  I have never felt it before.    I thought for a moment.  I asked her was it on the outside or inside.   She said inside all the way to my breasts.   God, it felt so good.  It sounded like an orgasm.   I asked her if she had ever had an orgasm.   She wasn't sure.    She got all excited and with big giggle she said let's do it again, I loved it.   So, I remounted her and off I went gently thrusting her.   Soon, she started to stiffen, and a huge grin stretched her face.  Oh, shit she swore.  It's coming again.   She didn't kick me away that time.  Instead, she acted like most women do having a terrific orgasm.   She had been married 14 years and no orgasm.  She said that when sex with her ex-husband started to feel good, he was finished.   Sounded like he just used her for a cum dump, and no oral sex either.  So, I began giving her all kinds of sexual advice and instructions on sex, even kinky sex.    Damn, she became one hell of a lover.   She developed some tricks of her own.    I still get hard and tingly all over from remembering them.   FANTASTIC!!!!

[Shore2Please 613]

Not teaching, more directing what feels good to me. I am lucking that the man I have been enjoying doesn’t need direction. My husband taught me a few things many years ago. 

[J&Wu 411]

15 hours ago, older couple said:

I had sex with a twenty-four-year-old divorced woman with one 14-year-old daughter.   After a long continuous thrusting, she suddenly tensed, jerked, and her eyes widened dramatically.  She sucked in a deep breath of air and formed a panic face with a deep throaty screech as if in pain.   She instantly kicked me off and shoved away from me about 2 feet.  I was confused and worried I had hurt her somehow.  I ask if she was ok.  She was staring up at the ceiling feeling her pussy with one hand and her stomach with the other while her chest was heaving for air as if she had run a 5-mile race.   I asked her if I had hurt her.   She said no.   She said that was the most wonderful feeling.  I have never felt it before.    I thought for a moment.  I asked her was it on the outside or inside.   She said inside all the way to my breasts.   God, it felt so good.  It sounded like an orgasm.   I asked her if she had ever had an orgasm.   She wasn't sure.    She got all excited and with big giggle she said let's do it again, I loved it.   So, I remounted her and off I went gently thrusting her.   Soon, she started to stiffen, and a huge grin stretched her face.  Oh, shit she swore.  It's coming again.   She didn't kick me away that time.  Instead, she acted like most women do having a terrific orgasm.   She had been married 14 years and no orgasm.  She said that when sex with her ex-husband started to feel good, he was finished.   Sounded like he just used her for a cum dump, and no oral sex either.  So, I began giving her all kinds of sexual advice and instructions on sex, even kinky sex.    Damn, she became one hell of a lover.   She developed some tricks of her own.    I still get hard and tingly all over from remembering them.   FANTASTIC!!!!

She had a daughter when she was 10 y/o?

[older couple 132]

On 1/12/2023 at 4:08 PM, J&Wu said:

She had a daughter when she was 10 y/o?

Thanks for catching that.   She was 29 and her husband was a 23-year-old college law student.  He just married her to stay out of jail and not have to pay child support.   He was one big jerk.  I don't know how to correct it.  

Edited January 14, 2023 by older couple

[older couple 132]

6 minutes ago, older couple said:

Thanks for catching that.   She was 29 and her husband was a 23-year-old college law student.  He just married her to stay out of jail and not have to pay child support.   He was one big jerk.  I don't know how to correct it.  

Darn it.  I mean I was 24 when I was with her and she was 29 at that time when we had sex.  Her husband was 23 when she was 14.  I hope I cleared that up.  So sorry.

[Billygoat 445]

Not teaching but have ushered a number of men, women and couples into new experiences and activity.

 

Most all were well into there late 30s, 40s and older.

 

We learned early on that it was very important that if it was a couple their new experience should be with their SO.  We experienced several situations that if the husband or wife did something that they never did for each other it was hurtful.  The worst was when in the open room, with a number of people all engaging in various sexual group style sex a woman taking her husband doggy style and sucking on a random available cock, in the heat of the moment finished him off in her mouth and swallowed.  Not unusual really.  Her husband went off.  Yelling did you just swallow his cum…..and launched off on an angry nasty tirade at his wife leaving his wife shocked and crying in the room while he stormed off and then left in the car.  The whole party pretty much stopped at that point and many of the women trying to console her.  In the many years of marriage she never once had her husband Finish in her mouth let alone swallow his cum.  He eventually came back that evening apologized to all that were still at the party and took his wife home.  After a few months they were back at the party as a couple joining in again……and she routinely swallowed her husband…and a select few other men.

 

most often firsts with couples and singles, new experiences:

 

1. Oral to orgasm (new discovery…so that is what an orgasm feels like, first time)

2. Women, single or married having a real full orgasm  (currently writing a experience story with “Pam” and all her firsts this past yearly)

3. Multiple partners

4. Group sex

5. Different positions

6. Sex for fun

7. Discovering like breasts, cocks come in all sizes, shapes and color.

8.  Women discover their natural capacity for multiple sex partners during one play session…finish with one, move on to another.

9. Women, men and couples learning that sex, sexual freedom…..for women is natural.  

10. It’s great to enjoy toys for a better….longer lasting sex play/role play experience. (I regularly used larger real like dildos filling woman up while I performed oral or a vibrator used while having penetrative sex.

 

We experience a mid thirties couple where she never made her husband cum….seeing him cum.  Only had him cum inside her.  And she would announce “ok I’m ready now…..wtf?  To be fair there culture limited them severely, emigrated to USA, but became two crazy swingers very active and creative over a year attending our parties.  They would see something being done or something new being done to them and would go home and practice.  Lol.  From time to time they would call and ask advice…or how to.
 

It even still amazes me how many women (around our age group) performed sex as more of an obligation….something expected…..and the huge realization that sex should be fun, exciting and orgasmic for them too.  They are not there to just provide sex.  But have the open freedom to enjoy themselves as well…..and how they can enjoy themselves.  This was normal for many of the over 40 over 50 year old women no longer in a relationship trying swinging to have sex in their life.

 

Not training or teaching……just providing experiences….learning how to enjoy themselves.

[couplers 4,724]

When I first got over my fear of hubby playing with other women, I began setting him up with female friends and acquaintances.  It was easier than I thought.  David is attractive and women feel comfortable carrying on with a married man with his wife's permission. 

 

It was super exciting for me, but the difficulty was having them let me be there to watch and possibly participate.  Clair was the first that not only let me watch and participate, but got sexually aggressive with me.  That's how I found out that I had a Lesbian side as well. 

 

The point of the story is that I quickly went on to spread the lesson to other women who had never had a homosexual experience before.  The joy of licking pussy.

[PJ&Lin 188]

I’m still learning. We found some exceptional teachers. 

[Numex 2,463]

On 1/12/2023 at 12:52 AM, older couple said:

She said that was the most wonderful feeling.  I have never felt it before.    I thought for a moment.  I asked her was it on the outside or inside.   She said inside all the way to my breasts.   God, it felt so good.  It sounded like an orgasm.   I asked her if she had ever had an orgasm.   She wasn't sure. 

Long ago, before my first marriage, I went down on girl after we fucked and she had some extremely intense orgasms.  Apparently it was the first time someone had performed oral on her, at least to orgasm.  After that, she would only let me in her if I licked her first.  We eventually split, but she would occasionally call me just to perform oral on her.  I eagerly complied even though I didn't get to fuck her or even get a blow job.  It was still fun.  I guess she eventually found someone else who would eat her cunt the way she liked.  I hope so anyway.

[TricianMike 788]

Many times we meet those that have never had sex with others watching and don’t know how to behave. I do find myself guiding some on how to please. 

[TnA83 314]

On 1/19/2023 at 7:01 AM, TricianMike said:

Many times we meet those that have never had sex with others watching and don’t know how to behave. I do find myself guiding some on how to please. 

How is one supposed to behave when having sex with others watching?

[NerdsAreFun 229]

We've entertained some early 20something single guys that wanted and were given some pointers yeah.

[TricianMike 788]

On 1/31/2023 at 6:24 PM, TnA83 said:

How is one supposed to behave when having sex with others watching?

By being respectful of the others. Not everyone having sex wants to be interrupted or wants you to join. 

[Tomy Nikki 62]

Yes we teach as well as learn sometimes. But now I would say from the past few years more of teaching others than learning.

as now a days there are more new people in the lifestyle and are amateurs. And i would also compliment some of them as they become good in it and then they become teachers. Lol

[TnA83 314]

On 2/5/2023 at 7:34 AM, TricianMike said:

By being respectful of the others. Not everyone having sex wants to be interrupted or wants you to join. 

I understand that, but your original quote was in reference to actually having sex with others watching.  Is there an etiquette for that?

[Anon321 524]

I don't think I've ever really taught a woman about sex but I've definitely taught or helped directed guys that fucked my GF.

[J&Wu 411]

On 2/5/2023 at 6:34 AM, TricianMike said:

How is one supposed to behave when having sex with others watching?

By being respectful of the others. Not everyone having sex wants to be interrupted or wants you to join. 

I like to concentrate on my partner and the coupling process we are in. Easy to do a little ear whispering as to whether we want a watcher closer or to join in. 

[couplers 4,724]

12 hours ago, J&Wu said:

the coupling process

An interesting turn of phrase.

[GentlemanGirth 2]

On 2/5/2023 at 12:20 PM, Tomy Nikki said:

Yes we teach as well as learn sometimes. But now I would say from the past few years more of teaching others than learning.

as now a days there are more new people in the lifestyle and are amateurs. And i would also compliment some of them as they become good in it and then they become teachers. Lol

Thank you for helping others into the lifestyle! We need more mentors and teachers!