What do you do when one half of a swap finishes before the other half?

[Nwhappy2 27]

So the hubby and I have been reading these posts and this is something we have been wondering about (remember I'm asking this with having no experience) but in my mind the perfect thing for us is, with a couple we swap, everyone is finished at the same time. We get back with our spouse and go about our night. We have decided we are together on this through everything but what if one half the team finishes first?? What does the other half do? If we decide that after sex major affection with the other wife/ hubby is not what we feel comfortable with, at least not yet, what happens?? Am I putting too much thought into this? I just want this experience to be awesome for myself and my husband while not losing anything of our marriage.... I am loving this forum!!! Hopefully this is not a foolish question.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

Absolutely not a foolish question and a situation that will definitely happen, the chances of both finishing at the same time is pretty slim in our experience. So after if you don't like cuddling there is still oral you can do or just light touching of the play partner while you two watch the other team work. Which is pretty sexy and have started up another round plenty of times. My hubby and I would never stop the other from their fun with a play partner but we do hear of some couples doing that. One time a couple we were with the husband and I finished first and since we were in a hotel in separate beds I started to nap, he started poking me and then went and started poking his wife while she's riding my hubby. It was totally uncool!! Mind you he was the one that finished I was still up to go for more!

[Nwhappy2 27]

Thanks for the tip.. I think both my hubby and I are a little worried about doing anything that would upset each other especially our first time. We are communicating a lot on this and hopefully when we are at this point we will know what the other is comfortable with. I keep saying it will really be important to be with a couple who is understanding and will help. We are trying to be sure that certain things are just for each other while the sex well....

[kikonkrome 844]

So the hubby and I have been reading these post and this is something we have been wondering about, remember I'm asking this with having no experience, but in my mind the perfect thing for us is with a couple we swap everyone is finished lol at the same time.. (ok) we get back with our spouse and go about our night. We have decided we are together on this through everything but what if one half the team finishes first?? What does the other half do? If we decide that after sex major affection with the other wife/ hubby is not what we feel comfortable with. At least not yet.. what happens?? Am I putting to much thought into this? I just want this experience to be awsome for myself and my husband while not loosing anything of our marriage... I am loving this forum!!! Hopefully this is not a foolish question..

 

It can vary quite a bit depending on the situation. Normally you just kinda hang out giggle and watch the other couple, 'finish'. Sometimes there's a bit of an issue, if the other guy finishes quickly (not my problem), or takes too long (ok, guilty). If I am taking too long and the other side is 'done', I just kinda finish it off with my wife.

 

I don't think we've ever had a rude issue with it, it's not that big a deal. It is a bit of an issue if the other couple isn't making sure everybody has as much fun as possible. We do our best to 'screen' for that before hand, but you really can't tell until your naked. At least that's our experience.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Nwhappy2, I hope you don't mind but I split your question into its own thread so it can be seen easier by others, instead of hidden within another thread.

 

For us, usually the half that has finished will relax and chat, if in another room, or watch the other half (if they are comfortable with it--if swapping in the same room, we assume they are). Or we help out in the sexual fun. I like to lick or caress the other woman's body to give her extra stimulation.

[Nwhappy2 27]

Thank you for putting this quest out like this. We want to hear what you all have to say about this. All advice is definitely being appreciated.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

The half that finishes first will just relax where they are at, go get a drink, or just sit and watch. Sometimes, by the time they've had enough of a breather that that other two have had time to finish, then the first two might want to get frisky again and the tables are turned. Or maybe everybody is ready for a break and then you go back to having sex with your own partners side by side, or just whatever the mood strikes you and feels right to all involved. Just go with the flow and do what feels right, and all will be well.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Nwhappy2, that is a great question!

 

We had this exact situation on our very first play date. It was a same-room, full-swap scenario, and the Mrs. ended up finishing first with the other guy (and by the way, they had a great time, judging from what I saw and heard!). The other woman and I continued going at it, while the other two took a breather. Then they were chatting quietly, which I found a little bit distracting. That was the moment when I first understood why some couples engage in separate-room play! Since then, we both have gotten a lot more comfortable with both same-room and separate-room play, and can enjoy our play time with friends either way.

 

When four of you are playing in the same room, one play-pair does often tend to "stay even" with the other. Clothes come off around the same time, kissing moves to fondling about the same time, etc. But generally one play pair is going to finish first, which should provide a very hot and inspiring show for the other play pair! You and your hubby might talk about this beforehand- do you want whoever finishes first to join in with the others, discreetly step out of the room, watch? In our case, we are OK with the early-birds either stepping out quietly, or sticking around and watching quietly. We do not want to break the mood for the pair who are still having fun!

[cplnluv1 872]

We found this will happen often. Not all men can control when they finish. My wife was a trooper when this happens. It happened from the very first time we did this. I wanted to watch her with him. We picked the couple because he was larger, younger and if I can say good looking (his gf was hot too). I could tell he almost finished before he started and my sweetie slowed him down. We had already watched the girls for some time which was a first for me. I never saw GG sex. This was my wife, who had before we met, doing it. Now she was going to have sex with a young guy. I admit I wanted to have sex. We did this meet more for me to watch. I was psyched to watch and he was done in a few strokes. I think I was more disappointed than her. I on the hand had great sex. My wife watched then somewhat joined while the other guy was very impatient.

We have met others and my wife if she finishes before I do will usually just watch and help. Most of the couples we meet are pretty new and will be clueless to what to do.

[Ebonylehigh 254]

I have to give my hubby some huge props on the subject, our very first time out was a failure to launch for him for nervousness and a variety of new related issues. They did oral and engaged each other but spent most of the time watching her mate and I. We picked our first couple well, they were older and understanding. My hubby was upset that he wasn't able to perform but not that I had enjoyed myself and did not kill the mood or anything he was very encouraging and involved the entire time.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

As best as I can recall, Casey Stingel said, "it ain't over 'till it's over." Ejaculation is not, for me, the finish. The reason that God gave me lips, tongue, and fingers was to get a woman into an elevated state of excitement and to keep her there. If my wife and her man finish first, they can do as they wish. If the woman who is on top of me or who is underneath me becomes distracted by this, I will do my selfish best to draw her attention back to me.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

It's an awkward situation. You are finished and they are still going. It rarely happens that everybody "finishes" at the same time. Knowing that your experience is finished and are waiting for them might not be very comfortable for them. It would be best to leave the room.

 

Get dressed, have an after sex drink, watch TV, play a video game, go get some munchies or a burger ... whatever. It would be respectful if you gave them time to finish their experience.

[nipring 20]

when that happens with us whoever is done first usually we go and help our playmates finish.....  it's a joy to help and share the rewards!

 

[njbm 2,871]

We have an adjoining bedroom. I usually go there with my female partner. We let the other couple finish in privacy without the peanut gallery. If they ask for us to help or return, we would. I enjoy having a conversation apres sex. 

[Anon321 522]

We don't swap that often as we mostly do threesomes.  However we have swapped and the period between both parties finishing can be very awkward in my opinion.  Even threesome can be awkward when one guy finishes too quickly.  I don't think there are any set of rules on how to handle it though.

[couplers 4,640]

3 hours ago, Anon321 said:

the period between both parties finishing can be very awkward in my opinion.

Yeah, when it's two couples, it's almost always one of the guys who has lost interest after he has ejaculated.  Women, however, can usually contribute in some way to the other couple's experience.  Two things help: first, women can have multiple orgasms while men are a temporarily spent resource after cumming; second, the overwhelming majority of women have a homosexual side that is not only accepted, but welcome.  A woman can insert herself in an MF and it becomes better.  The majority of men do not have homosexual tendencies, and he does it not expected and not welcomed.