When you are on your period, what do you do?

[TheGirleeGirl 15]

HI everyone! Its the GirleeGirl! We were invited to a very good swinger friends birthday party this weekend. I started my period on Wednesday and I know I won't be ready to play on Saturday. My hubby has been working 14 hour days since storm Isabel hit and I'd really like to go to the party just so we have some much needed fun. What should I do? Do I tell everyone, I'm not playing? Don't go there? Take pictures? And how do you feel when you find out someone is on their period and isn't playing? Should I tell them in advance? Some people that we haven't met yet are looking forward to meeting us. Yikes! Thanks for any advice

[Fire_and_Air 17]

Hi GirleeGirl,

 

Being on your period doesn't mean that you can't play at all... you can still have fun manually, orally (you can give... whether you choose to receive oral and your partners are into it, is up to you)...

 

I have a friend who experienced her very first 3some this way - she fully enjoyed kissing, touching, watching the other couple and performing oral on the other woman, but chose not to have intercourse because she was having her period that night.

[Weezie 16]

We try to plan around periods, but it can't always be avoided. I would say go any way and just have fun. Don't go with the idea of playing in mind. Go to socailize and have a good time. Most people who are really interested will understand your situation.

[bear_n_bunny 43]

Bear and I have a rule, we both play or we don't play at all. Usually this means when one of the ladies have their period play is out, or rather intercourse is out. But as stated in the posts above, much fun can be had other ways. Sometimes we do the softswap which we're finding is just as exciting, if not more so, than fun at times. Having your period just means being creative for us. Then there is the fact the guy may not mind, and if you've got enough towels anything is possible.

 

As far as telling people, in party situation, I don't think you have to announce, just fess up when it looks like you might be playing.

 

However, it is a different story if I'm having cramps and just want to take a midol and curl up in bed for 24 hours. Thankfully that is just the first two days.

 

-- Bunny

[TheGirleeGirl 15]

Thank you so much for responding. I am going to play it by heart. We'll see how I feel when I get there. Ugh.... whats funny is, that I am perimenopausal... so I haven't had a period in 4 months, and because we have been so busy in the tree business, we haven't been able to get out much, and now we are invited to a party and Ugh! Mother Nature!

Have a great weekend everyone!

[Elusive BiFem 70]

I've never seen any problem with couples that chose to continue their sexual activities during the woman's period. I've never felt that it was dirty or nasty. Maybe a little messy...

 

But somehow, someway...and I know this might sound goofy...I correlate sexual play during a period with a certain degree of intimacy between a couple that is best reserved for that relationship.

 

Nonetheless, if you choose to attend the party or club, I would certainly be upfront with people from the immediate beginning, letting them know that you are available for limited activities only. I think I would find it extremely irritating to go through all the preliminaries with someone, expecting the finale, only to be told, "Oops...forgot to mention. I'm having my period." Even if you were agreeable to the finale, he might not be and might feel cheated.

 

Have you thought of seeing your doctor about medication to control the time of your period? - EBF

[TheGirleeGirl 15]

Hi, yup, I've seen a doc, and am on HRT. Those darn hot flashes are not fun!

[PrtyinDuo 18]

Funny,but there was a poll in the 'fetish' forum not too long ago on this subject.And too sum up our reply there: We just go with the 'flow'!

PUN very much intended!!

[OhioCouple 41]

Originally posted by PrtyinDuo

We just go with the 'flow'!

:rofl:

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I've found that saying "I'm broken" is generally accepted by swingers everywhere. I have no idea how this term got started but it seems to work (outside of swinging people seem to have no clue what it means tho).

 

At any rate, go and enjoy. You can still play, you are just limited to what you feel comfortable doing while on your period. You can even tuck the string and walk around naked without feeling too uncomfortable.

 

Just enjoy yourself and if you find yourself playing with someone, let them know you are broken and advance from there to whereever you all feel comfortable. Let them be the ones who decide if they want to play with you on a limited basis or not.

[Scott_n_Ann6877 15]

Being on high dose BC that has stopped my flow for many months now I do not really have this issue. But I can give some advice from back when it was an issue. There is a product on the market in the pad section called "Instead". It is like a diaphram that holds the flow for up to 12 hours. It is meant to be a replacement for a tampon, but was originally marketed to women so we could be less messy and sexually active during our cycle. On a recent occasion when the pills were not taken on time and I had need for this once again, I will give his feedback. He liked it, but said it was a litlle frustrating becasue the rung kept rubbing the head and caused great pleasure. He hasd to work HARD not to get off in about 5 sec! I also saw where a woman was told to go to her gyn and get fitted for a diaphram. A diaphram is probably a better idea as it is fitted to each woman individually and can be used over and over again. the Instead things are a one time use. And on a side note, do you know our flow stops if we are immersed in water? Maybe Scott will add his detailed views on the Instead thing later.

 

Ann

[thump29 16]

We usually try to schedule around my period when we play but if it happens when we are going to play we let them no upfront and then we decide if we still want to have intercourse, like others have said you can still play. I would go to the party and see how it goes. Good luck.

[4funfriend 15]

I was very glad to see this post as my hubby and I have been invited to our first house party and as my luck would have it my period is schedualed to start. I too was wondering if I should just come out and tell people that Aunt Flow is visiting, but actually for our first party it could be alot more exciting to limit my play to "other" interesting ways to feel good. This post is getting my juices flowing!!!

[bimrdcpl 15]

I have used the Instead also and I think it works great. I only use it when we have something scheduled in advance and mother nature decides to play her cruel jokes. Other than that we normally schedule around it. But like I said the Instead works great. Havent had any problems with it at all.

[froggyjenn80 15]

Being broken isnt such a bad thing. Like the info above, you can still have fun otherwise.

 

But there is a solution. There is a thing called the instead. It is a cup type thing that you insert into the vagina to hold the bleeding. It looks like a strainer (but that is my opinion)

 

I have heard of A LOT of women using this. You probably dont want to be eaten out, but you can still have sex and it will come out clean.

 

Hope that helps!

 

Jenn

[frenzb4sex 15]

Jenn and others talked about it--INSTEAD.

 

From a male's perspective, a woman using instead is not anthing different than the norm. The only difference is if you really are well endowed or have a penis that is bent "upward", you may feel it rub on the top of the applicator. Normally its not an issue, but it may cause discomfort in both parties.

 

It does "stop it up", and it works well. Most women do not like to have oral performed even with it in, but of course that is up to your discretion and comfort level.

 

Enjoy!!

[wnc_couplenlove 15]

Question on Insteads?

Is it dangerous or more difficult to remove after having been banged on for a while and do they not come out of place and cause a mess anyway. I have used them and they seem difficult enuf to remove without a BIG mess anyway. Shower seems to be the best way I have found. Sorry if this is all too gross guys! Just natural details we ladies can always use new info on. Thx for the input everyone and special Woo Hoos for the lovingly brave creative gang! We fully agree!!!

[*afcouple* 15]

We try to plan around periods, but it can't always be avoided. I would say go any way and just have fun. Don't go with the idea of playing in mind. Go to socailize and have a good time. Most people who are really interested will understand your situation.

 

 

Ditto!!!!