How single males can start swinging (couples tell all)

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Couples often complain that single males just don't get swinging. So couples, here's your chance to tell single guys what it is they need to know to start swinging, and more specifically, swing with you.

 

Our advice would be to remember that her showing interest in you still means three are involved. It's not like the vanilla world where girl sees boy, boy sees girl, sparks fly, and then nature takes it course. That's a simple 1+1 formula. In this deal, not so easy, the formula is 2+1=3some and you as the single guy have to supply the two, meaning you've got to get both of us to like you enough for us to allow you into our sex life, if even for a brief little time, so your job is going to be twice as hard as what you are used to. Just accept that is the way it is and don't resent it, because when you do, it shows no matter how well you think you are hiding it.

[Guest]

You’re better off trying to be his buddy, than my boyfriend. If you don’t find him to be someone you would like to chit chat with, don’t pursue us. Don’t try to whisper in my ear when he is around or take me aside when he is not. We told you, after all, we only play together.

[Bob250 74]

Couples often complain that single males just don't get swinging. So couples, here's your chance to tell single guys what it is they need to know to start swinging, and more specifically, swing with you.

 

Our advice would be to remember that her showing interest in you still means three are involved. It's not like the vanilla world where girl sees boy, boy sees girl, sparks fly, and then nature takes it course. That's a simple 1+1 formula. In this deal, not so easy, the formula is 2+1=3some and you as the single guy have to supply the two, meaning you've got to get both of us to like you enough for us to allow you into our sex life, if even for a brief little time, so your job is going to be twice as hard as what you are used to. Just accept that is the way it is and don't resent it, because when you do, it shows no matter how well you think you are hiding it.

From my (admittedly) limited experience, there is no hard and fast way for a single guy to swing, because each couple you meet will have a different agenda and different boundaries. Many couples are a single entity , some couples want me to have a sexual relationship with the husband as well as the wife, and some couples insist that I have, at least some kind of friendly relationship with the husband, others, not so much. I have met couples who were in open relationships where the wife considered herself a free agent and did not make it a point to inform her husband about her playing with me. Sometimes it's 2+1, sometimes it's 1+1+1, sometimes it's 1+2.

Given that it is usually driven by the couple, the single guy also has his own boundaries that should be respected.

[enhancer 1,586]

Please read the couples whole profile before responding to them! If they say cock pics will get you no where they mean it. If they say they are a couple that only plays together they mean it. If you are not prepared to be able to talk to them as the couple they say they are don't bother. If you think just because they are in the lifestyle the woman is just a slut that will fuck anything and talk to her like that you are not going to get anywhere. If they describe what they look for in another man to join them and you are not it move along. If they say they have zero respect for cheaters and it goes against everything the lifestyle means to them and you are a cheater then please don't bother them. Don't come across as desperate or pushy. If you think every couple in the lifestyle is looking for a cuckold situation you are wrong. If you don't have the balls to meet them in person first to gauge interest then don't bother them. Put a little effort into it when starting a conversation with them. Hey babe nice ass does not work.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

You’re better off trying to be his buddy, than my boyfriend. If you don’t find him to be someone you would like to chit chat with, don’t pursue us. Don’t try to whisper in my ear when he is around or take me aside when he is not. We told you, after all, we only play together.

 

Yep, as the guest you have to play the B male. I'd also say that if Bi & there to play with the husband you may need to be the B female as well. Tho I've experienced exceptions to that. True cuckholding play is another exception, however my experience is limited in that I am uncomfortable humiliating or abusing anyone & have backed out of such situations quickly.

 

Its a complicated and highly variable dance.

[love2dp 53]

Great informative thread.