Caught in the moment

[StartingOver60 58]

Hello members

I am curious to know if you if you ever got caught up in the moment with another's spouse while your spouse was in another room enjoying the other partner. Did you freely let loose and do something you don't usually do with your spouse and/or accommodate a request that you haven't with your spouse. If so did you talk about it with your spouse after the fact or did it go unspoken?

Hope to get some feed back.

Thanks

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Yes, I have done things with swing partners I haven't done with my husband. This has happened in the same room or separate rooms. We are very easy going and go with the flow. I like to have fun and give 100%. An example would be swallowing someone's come. This has never happened with my husband. He knows it's happened with other people quite a few times, and it is fine.

 

I also orgasmed through intercourse for the first time with someone else. That worked out super well, because now I'm able to do it with my husband also.

 

So, I don't really hold back during swinging. The only thing I don't do is go bareback for intercourse or say I love you.

 

I want my husband to have as much fun as possible so I don't begrudge him anything with our friends as long as it is safe.

 

If you care to tell us more about your situation, we may be able to give more input.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Sure, I have done things with play partner that my wife has been reluctant to do. We have both done this from time to time. We think that is part of the beauty of swinging- the freedom to expand one's sexual boundaries, and have some adventures in sex that we have not tried before. And we both always tell each other what has gone on during play with another person. That's part of the continual renewal of trust that goes with the lifestyle for us. The act of giving each other a Full Report about our respective playtimes reinforces the fact that we have nothing to hide from each other. And not for nothing, but it also can be a big turn-on! We also have been known to pick up a tip or two about how to please each other from these Full Reports- if one of us has a particularly good experience, the other person may go back and talk with the play partner who provided that good experience to find out how they did it!

[Lionheart72 2,190]

I've done things with my play partner that I haven't done with my wife, because they are things my wife simply isn't into. Likewise, I do things with my wife that I don't with my play partner, because she isn't into those things. When we play separately I actually haven't told my wife the details of what I've done with my regular play partner, because my wife has asked me not to. She's perfectly comfortable with my playing separately, but she just isn't interested in the salacious details. I would tell her, if she wanted to know or if I felt there was something she should know.

[Guycurious 39]

I love anal, wife doesn't. I love 69, wife will only do so for a few minutes. So if we are playing w/ another couple and she is into anal and 69 then I take advantage (not in a bad way) and indulge. Licking while being sucked feels INCREDIBLE and will usually bring me to orgasm within minutes.

[Mbgdallas 203]

I am not sure any of these are related to the original issue brought up here. I think the question is have you every expanded your boundaries beyond what you would do with your mate... Therefore possible causing a problem with your mate doing something for someone else that you won't do with them.

 

Of course... One of the benefits of swinging is getting to experience something that your spouse doesn't like. I.e anal when your spouse doesn't like it.

 

How would you feel if you spouse refused to let you come in her mouth and you really wanted too but readily did it during play? How would you feel if it just happened in the heat of the moment?

 

I can see several alternatives... One being pissed... One accepting... One having spouse find they enjoy something that they didn't before so now is on the table with you.

 

It could be very interesting as to why your spouse will do for others during play and not with you.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

How would you feel if you spouse refused to let you come in her mouth and you really wanted too but readily did it during play? How would you feel if it just happened in the heat of the moment?

 

I can see several alternatives... One being pissed... One accepting... One having spouse find they enjoy something that they didn't before so now is on the table with you.

That exact scenario happened with us fairly early in our swinging careers. The Mrs. was having a fun MFMM encounter at a house party (I was not one of the M's, I was playing elsewhere at the time), and one of the guys came in her mouth in the heat of the moment. When she told me about it afterwards, I was impressed, astounded, strangely proud, and a teeny tiny bit jealous. We talked it over later, and we also had a very hot romp where I came in her mouth- thinking about that still affects my breathing a little!

[Guycurious 39]

We had a no kissing on the lips rule when we started swinging. One night in the hot tub w/ another couple I turned to see my wife in a full on lip lock w/ the other guy. It caught me off guard but I found it kinda erotic.

 

I brought it up later in bed and she said she was curious to see what it felt like kissing a guy w/ a goatee. And that was the end of that rule !

[kikonkrome 844]

We had a no kissing on the lips rule when we started swinging. One night in the hot tub w/ another couple I turned to see my wife in a full on lip lock w/ the other guy. It caught me off guard but I found it kinda erotic.

 

I brought it up later in bed and she said she was curious to see what it felt like kissing a guy w/ a goatee. And that was the end of that rule !

 

ooh yeah the no kissing rule...tough one to keep.

[Alura 2,774]

I think it's safe to say that a "no kissing" rule never entered our minds.

[Sophy 569]

We enjoy separate room play, the only demand from him is I need to provide details about the experience he wants to know every detail -> That state of mind keep us both horny for days !

Saying that, I once tried anal sex with one of our most closest friend during separate rooms, the experience was unsuccessful but when I mentioned it to hubby he was delirious for weeks, in the other hand he has done it with the other wife a few times and I feel happy he can fulfill that desire with her.

[Baconheads 432]

I am not sure any of these are related to the original issue brought up here. I think the question is have you every expanded your boundaries beyond what you would do with your mate... Therefore possible causing a problem with your mate doing something for someone else that you won't do with them.

 

Of course... One of the benefits of swinging is getting to experience something that your spouse doesn't like. I.e anal when your spouse doesn't like it.

 

How would you feel if you spouse refused to let you come in her mouth and you really wanted too but readily did it during play? How would you feel if it just happened in the heat of the moment?

 

I can see several alternatives... One being pissed... One accepting... One having spouse find they enjoy something that they didn't before so now is on the table with you.

 

It could be very interesting as to why your spouse will do for others during play and not with you.

 

If I had a spouse that didn't like cum in her mouth, but found that she did after playing, I would be very okay with that. If after swallowing another guy she still wouldn't with me, that would be a problem.

[MarniJohn 172]

Not to change the subject but I thought we were the only ones who tried the "no kissing rule". That is absolutely impossible to keep without coming across as a dead fish, no? It lasted less than one night!

[afterwork 89]

uh...of course

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

When we were starting we also had the no kissing rule (mostly because we didn't know how we would feel about 'sharing' that with others). When we arrived there, we found it no longer was a big thing to us as we realized that kissing (or any other act for that matter) didn't limit our feelings towards each other or the intimacy that we still share between the two of us.

 

Been there, done that, moved past it...

[older couple 132]

My wife doesn't like anal. She doesn't like semen in her mouth. I have to be careful when fondling her breasts because they are very sensitive and feeling them can be painful and they will be sore for days. When I'm coming she will just lay there and let me shoot. But when she is with other men and in gang bangs, she will their cocks anal all night long, suck them, jerk them, and swallow their cum and she allows them to squeeze, slap, bite, and suck super hard on her tits. When the guys are cumming, she will raise her ass of the bed and grab their butts and pull them close to get them as deep as she can and you can see her vaginal muscles squeezing hard on their penises. She has a great time. Go figure.

[afterwork 89]

more common behavior than not