My gut tells me I need to let go of my friend. But my wife gives me mixed signals.

[2015guy 15]

Guys. I need your help. Me and my wife have an open marriage. She has a friend going on a few years and I know have a friend going on a couple months. Since I have found my new friends it's been awkwardness in my marriage. I think it's because of my friend. We have had several talks and more frequently it's been more serious talks that questions our marriage. She says it's not my friend but other things in our marriage but up till when I meet my friend all was good. My gut tells me I need to let go of my friend. But my wife keeps giving me mixed signals. What should I do?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

First of all, I welcome you as a new member of the Swingersboard. I hope you grow to enjoy it as much as I have.

 

Second, I am receiving mixed signals from your story. Is yours really an open marriage? Your spouse, I'm sure, can voice her objections to your choice. But you have not told us what her objections are. So I know not what advice I could lend. What are these "other things" that you mention?

[2015guy 15]

Guys. I need your help. Me and my wife have an open marriage. She has a friend going on a few years and I know have a friend going on a couple months. Since I have found my new friends it's been awkwardness in my marriage. I think it's because of my friend. We have had several talks and more frequently it's been more serious talks that questions our marriage. She says it's not my friend but other things in our marriage but up till when I meet my friend all was good. My gut tells me I need to let go of my friend. But my wife keeps giving me mixed signals. What should I do?

 

Yes. We each have a sexual relationship with our own friend! Playing single.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Is this having a female friend the last few months the first time you have had someone along with her having had someone for the last few years? What led you guys to having an open marriage back when this first started?

[2015guy 15]

We been open for several years. But this is the first time I had a steady friend. Usually I have no one or casual short term friends. Less than a couple weeks.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

It sounds like you both should take a break and work on your relationship. You've only had casual short term friends, but now that you have a more serious friend, she is having problems with it (at least from your version of the story, we agree with you on this). This doesn't sound good and unless addressed now could lead to bigger and bigger problems. You need to find out where the actual problems are and address them before your new friend is your only friend.

[2015guy 15]

I'm glad everyone responded. I agree with you Goldcouple.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We wish you both good luck in working this out. Let us know how things go.

[2015guy 15]

Thanks for the advice. I will let you all know