Why is it so difficult to find a couple for a single female?

[makemebeg 16]

I am an attractive single female wanting to find a couple to play with. I am extremely sexual and not afraid to say what turns me on. Is that coming on too strong? I have had a couple of messages back and forth with a few couples but then the contact stops snd I never hear back from them. I am trying to load my pics on this site but my tablet will not let me. I have to resort to telling people I will email them my pics because i can't get them uploaded. If i email my pics to admin, can they upload for me? I thought eligible single women were considered a delicacy in the swinging world? Please help. I want some fun.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

They are a delicacy and a great rarity...which is probably why you are having trouble. Ms. Gold and I would love to find a hot, bi sexual, open woman who is comfortable with this lifestyle (heck, who wouldn't), but there is a reason they are called 'unicorns'. They are almost impossible to find, and even if one is 'spotted' on the internet, more often than not it is just a man in a unicorn suit (not saying YOU are, just saying that all too many are). In your case, 'everywhere' is not a very descriptive location...and looking up your zip has you living in the heart of St. Louis (right by the convention center and the arch). So even if we were all interested in getting together, you live (in our case) 1,969.6 miles (give or take a mile) away from us. Not a distance that either of us just jump in a car and drive to see the other. At that point, while we would be interested, the logistics prevent anything from happening.

 

I would recommend that you open an account at SLS or SZC and I'm sure that you will be VERY popular there. There are also a couple of swinger clubs in the area. Same thing goes for them, I'm sure that you would have more than enough takers. I wish that I could help you with uploading pictures (pictures could also help you here) but that is something that only you can do. Maybe an admin can help you with that. Of course, you can always email us any pictures that you have and we will appreciate them...and let us know if you are ever in Northern California. We would be more than happy to meet you and tell everyone else here you are real (we believe in catch and release.). Good luck but once you get in the door, you won't be needing any luck...you'll do fine.

[MrDiscover 802]

Maybe they just follow your orders and are making you beg.

[makemebeg 16]

Thank you for the thoughts. I never filled out my profile. Need to do that. I live in Chicago. Going to be in LA in January for business. Always looking for a good time.

 

And yes, perhaps they are making me beg. It's delicious.

 

Ps, no problem sending you pics through email. I have them stored but can't get them posted. Would need your email address hugs

[kikonkrome 844]

I'm kinda wondering what you mean by hard?

 

What are you looking for that's off putting or is it just that couple's blow you off? Every go to a swing club and meet couple's there?

 

Oh yeah and we're in Chicago, be happy to show you a few clubs!

[makemebeg 16]

I think I come on too strong. I am very verbal and for example, have no problem telling a couple what I'd like them to do to me and with me. I do talk pretty dirty at times. I can't help it... turns me on severely. Maybe I am too verbal and open?

[makemebeg 16]

Ps... what are the clubs like? Just a place to hang out and flirt... maybe meet a couple? Not sure I should be turned loose in a club. It would be like a kid in a candy store for the first time.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I think I come on too strong. I am very verbal and for example, have no problem telling a couple what I'd like them to do to me and with me. I do talk pretty dirty at times. I can't help it... turns me on severely. Maybe I am too verbal and open?

 

It is a possibility that you are scaring them if you are being specific in what you want them to do to you and they haven't even met you yet. If that is the case, you might want to consider waiting until you meet face-to-face with couples and then if everyone is attracted to one another and wishes to play, then you can throw out some suggestions.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

Ps... what are the clubs like? Just a place to hang out and flirt... maybe meet a couple? Not sure I should be turned loose in a club. It would be like a kid in a candy store for the first time.

 

Depends on the club, but the ones I've been to have been on-premises clubs with social areas to hang out, flit and meet people and play areas if you find someone you hit it off with. You might have fun at a club.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think I come on too strong. I am very verbal and for example, have no problem telling a couple what I'd like them to do to me and with me. I do talk pretty dirty at times. I can't help it... turns me on severely. Maybe I am too verbal and open?

 

If you are looking for couples you need to keep in mind there is a woman involved and sometimes a lot of dirty talk and/or explicit photos can be viewed as threatening or a turn-off. You should probably follow the wife's lead and gradually ramp up the dirty talk as you get to know them in person. Doing it before meeting by text or email is not a good idea.

 

We have played with several unicorns and the good ones are easy going, fun and playful. Being overly aggressive makes me nervous that the girl is crazy.

 

I would suggest making a profile on sls and szc, find out about events and go and observe and meet people. Don't plan to play right away. Just go and be cool. Remember just because you are a unicorn doesn't give you any special permissions to touch without asking or be overly forward. I'm not saying you would behave in that way, but we do see that happen at clubs and it is unwelcome and those girls get a bad reputation in the community. It's better to err on the side of caution when you are first getting involved.

 

Good luck and have fun!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I am trying to load my pics on this site but my tablet will not let me. I have to resort to telling people I will email them my pics because i can't get them uploaded. If i email my pics to admin, can they upload for me?

 

Pics + mobile devices + vBulletin (the software that runs the site) don't make things easy. It can be done though.

 

On a phone, you go to Full Site mode. Depending on the size of your tablet, you may be already getting Full Site mode. Smaller screens default to mobile view, and if that's the case, scroll down to the very bottom and you will see an option for Full Site. Go the upload pic menu, find pic on your phone, upload it, and then...and this is the tricky part that is easy to miss...you have to move it to an album. That last step is there on the same page as the upload, but it's kind of hidden down at the bottom.

 

Edited to add more detailed instructions per sunbuckus and her experience using her phone for pics:

 

First, make sure you are seeing the site in "Full Site" mode. There should be a link to view it at the bottom of the webpage.

 

Second, go to your profile and on the side should be a box that says "Album". In that same box is "Add Album". Click on that.

 

Third, name your album and decide if you want it to be public or private. Then click on the "Save Changes" button.

 

Fourth, there should be a swirl arrow next to "Upload Photos". Click on it and there should be a button that says, "Add Files". From there, choose which ever pictures you want and upload them. Make sure you check the boxes for each photo you want in the album. Then press the "Done" button.

 

Fifth, click on the button that says "Save Changes".

 

After that, a moderator will make sure your photos are in adherence to the rules set by the owner of the site and approve them if they are, or not approve them if they aren't.