Can a swing life be sustained while not being online?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

Taking account, year to date, the swingers my wife and I have met anew, only a small number were introduced to us through the World Wide Web. We have been recommended to several couples and singles by the people we already know. And we have had the pleasure or recommending people to our own acquaintances. We have discovered an entire world of swingers who seldom or never use an on-line facility.

 

So, have any of you discovered this same thing? Is it possible to sustain an off-line swing life?

[kikonkrome 845]

For sure, for sure!!

 

The regulars at the swing club are either not online, or not with a paying profile we can find!! Of the couples we have played with this year maybe only a quarter bother keeping an online presence going.

 

I have certainly learned from their play book and have pretty much given up with the 'online dating' scene. I learned I do not have the patience for it and get very little success with it. Those 'WOW' nights come from going to the club or meetings with people from the club.

 

I would say that our friends that 'hot wife' a lot seem to get a lot of success online. However our limited experience for couples is that there was not a lot of success.

[asncpl 731]

Our experience is similar. It was difficult getting started when it comes to meeting people, but now that we have a contact list of lifestyle friends and acquaintances, almost all the new swingers we meet are through introductions. I think it's entirely possible to sustain it without going online if we nurture the existing relationships we have. I think it's like any kind of networking.

[Bob250 74]

Of course. I have never had any playmates from the web. All of them have been through intros from people I already know. So, as long as I know people who swing, I can sustain the lifestyle.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I am working a killer schedule & don't have much time for driving a hour each way to a club. Plus I'm a single male & kind of a surplus thing at the clubs. For NSA sex locally its either cruise the bars or go online. I've not yet found any venues locally where a single male is going to meet others for threesomes & groups.

 

When I first saw the thread title I imeadiatly thought of the 1970s with coded classified ads and 'Life Style' magazines.

[love2dp 53]

My god I hope so! I hate being "online" I'd much rather have real human stimulation and contact and turn this damn box off unless to update Swingersboard about some hot sex I had lol!

[GoldCoCouple 4,072]

The internet is just the door. Once that door is open and you have met some other locals, you don't really need to keep going back to the door. Still, until you can find that door and get someone to open it, you'll just find yourself knocking on a lot of the wrong doors.

[MarniJohn 172]

We prefer clubs because we meet people live. No pictures or games. We know who the person is and when speak with them we can gauge our interest on the spot. Maybe we won't play with them that night but may one day in the future. Online can be very discouraging. Looking at pictures which may or may not be recent, waiting for a response or having people give us a hard time for not responding right away, etc..

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

We prefer clubs because we meet people live. No pictures or games..

You have gone right to the root of the problem about finding people on-line. But I'm glad you said "prefer". No one method should be used, I hope you will agree.

[intuition897 2,180]

Mr. intuition and I are going to start looking around soon for some friends to hang out with (I hope...we've stalled a few times already). I don't have much interest in weeding through email after email of "I could fuck the shit out of your wife for you." Delete, delete, delete. Plus the first date thing feels sort of forced and fake, know what I mean?

 

Ideally, it would be nice to develop a nice circle of actual friends with whom we could go to the beach, go fishing, go camping, etc. Goddammit we have a pathetic social life! Granted, it's tough when your demographic is so out of sync with your peers; while our friends were deciding between spending money on rent or beer, and puking on their shoes at a night club, we were changing diapers and paying a mortgage. Now the tables have turned. I'm 41 with two college-aged kids ready to fly the coop. We're ready to have some fun, and all our peers are chasing toddlers, groaning about potty-training and PTA meetings and trying to decide if they should get the beige mini-van or go all out and get the pearl-finish taupe coloured one. Meanwhile we're looking at 2-seater sports cars and daydreaming about trips to the sunny Caribbean. But I digress.

 

In my idealistic little bubble, I'd like to find open-minded people in "real life". Has anyone had any success working backwards, finding swinger friends in the vanilla-world?

[kikonkrome 845]

You have gone right to the root of the problem about finding people on-line. But I'm glad you said "prefer". No one method should be used, I hope you will agree.

 

We have given up any online presence, and just go to the clubs. In year of trying, we found the club route to be much more successful for the time invested. Whereas online seemed to require an intense amount of effort for little to no 'return'. All the people we liked we met at one club or another. The whole online thing just got too much like my 'job'.

 

That said I certainly think an online presence has it's place, we are just not there right now.

[AskMeOk 148]

Obviously, one can be part of a non-digital swinger lifestyle.... because there WAS one before the Internet was even created. In the day, one posted notes on an honest-to-gawd, authentic, hung-on-the-wall, bulletin board, or one picked up a (local or regional) magazine (eg., for us, Carolina Swinger) and used snail mail to carry the letters and photos.

 

If you think it sucks when the kids go snooping and find their Christmas presents, imagine them finding your stash of letters and nude Polaroid photos.... one of the kids in 8th grade brought Mom and Dad's stash to school... it really took a left turn when a couple of kids found THEIR parents' photos. (yeah, well, that IS probably another thread)

 

The Internet has just made it safer and easier.... the lifestyle is, by nature, a numbers game. The easier it is to meet more and more people, the more likely it is to find another couple with chemistry.

[kikonkrome 845]

Obviously, one can be part of a non-digital swinger lifestyle.... because there WAS one before the Internet was even created. In the day, one posted notes on an honest-to-gawd, authentic, hung-on-the-wall, bulletin board, or one picked up a (local or regional) magazine (eg., for us, Carolina Swinger) and used snail mail to carry the letters and photos.

 

I think this is just the online method, before there was online......I mean this does not exist anymore, because email and electronic boards replaced all that.

[two4youinswva 3,069]

We know a very successful swinging couple that has practically no online presence. They are retired and have plenty of time for swinging activities, and boy do they take advantage of that time. The personal contacts they've made over the last 10 years or so keep them in the loop on what's happening in a four state area.

 

They did put up an ad on SLS several years ago, but if you look at it, you'd think it was a BS ad posted by someone that may or may not actually be swingers. They just don't do the online thing with swinging or vanilla life.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

We know a very successful swinging couple that has practically no online presence. They are retired and have plenty of time for swinging activities, and boy do they take advantage of that time.

This past week, while away in Florida and on a cruise ship, we have been meeting a great number of people doing it just as you describe. The majority have no on-line presence and the others who do have it seldom use it.

 

Our host and hostess are planning a get-together at their home tomorrow evening. We'll be meeting others who do not go on-line. I firmly believe that after you reach a certain number of people, you never arrive at a weekend without an offer to get naked and wild.