JustMarried 15 Posted November 10, 2015 Wife and I looking to try our first full swap. I'm a bit on the smaller side (5 inches long, 1.5" wide). Will that turn away potential couples? Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,026 Posted November 10, 2015 Not at all. Size is no kind of detriment. I see that you are new to the board. How did you happen to find us? Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,068 Posted November 10, 2015 It's not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician. Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted November 10, 2015 Sexual attraction is much more than just a penis or vagina. Someone can have the world's greatest of either one of those, but if the rest of the total package isn't there, then it won't do them any good. Are there people who assign a lot of importance to penis size? Yes, just like those who assign a lot of importance to breast size, etc. Even with those, it's still not 100% of the deal for them though I suspect. Swingers reflect society at large, so they come in all shapes and sizes, have all sorts of different preferences, and so on. But, someone's personal preferences are just that, their preferences, and may or may not be consistent with the larger group of which they are a part. Short answer, go have fun, you're fine! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
longun45 115 Posted November 10, 2015 If you turn her to jelly first she won't care. You are at the average size for an adult male. When you get done then turn her to jelly again. She will love you for it. Welcome to the board. Quote Share this post Link to post
Bob250 74 Posted November 11, 2015 Having a large penis is a total wash. I have a large penis, and it has brought me no greater pleasure than if it was a third less in length and girth. Plus, there are some very significant drawbacks that I won't go into unless asked. Be happy with what you've got, and don't let it spoil your fun. Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest Posted November 11, 2015 With the exception of once, things have always been well underway before I knew the size of the guy’s dick. Selection was based on other factors entirely and penis size, has never been a reason for not pursing the matter a second time. Quote Share this post Link to post
love2dp 53 Posted November 12, 2015 I am average size and I've never had a female complain. In fact its always been the opposite, I've always had good feedback. Especially with long term girlfriends. It goes along with what has been said. Its how you use it. I was blessed with being very sexual and knowing what pleases a woman. Being comfortable in your own skin is a huge plus. I see some of the HUGE dongs in porn and think a cock like some of these guys have wrecks a woman for most other men. What a disappointment if a woman gets used to a huge dong, then that relationship ends, and she ends up with an average guy, how lame is that for her. If she has average guy then she ain't missing nothing lol. Some dongs are almost too big to even suck on well. LAME. And those big black dong are usually only half hard. Requiring too much blood in the muscle to have a full erection. Mine and its size has always been just right in my book. Only one woman I've ever been with was like throwing my hot dog down a hallway lol. I still came so it was all good. She never seemed to mind and enjoyed having sex with me so it wasn't an issue. Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnluv1 874 Posted November 16, 2015 Average is average, about the same as all other men. We almost ignore anyone who sends us a size in an email. We laugh and wonder who is measuring and where do they start and end. There plenty of posts on here concerning size, the average American is closer to 5" than 6. I am ashamed to admit that the first couple we met I chose because of penis size. My husband thought it was a fake picture and I guess I did too because we had many fakes email us. We also had other reasons to think they were fake but he was larger than average. Visually I was somewhat nervous when they showed up. Oh, he wasn't that good in the play area but he was full of himself. We have played with much smaller and better. Don't be afraid. Go enjoy. Quote Share this post Link to post
Heing&Sheing 75 Posted November 17, 2015 Oh I HAVE to chime in on this one! My first experience was with a guy with a rather large penis (11 in). Every one since have been of average size, 4.5-7 in, and I MUCH prefer the normal sized ones! An "average" pens is much more fun, to suck and fuck. I love a good hard pounding from behind and an oversized pens can be painful even during normal intercourse, if the guy is not careful. My FWB is on the smaller size & I love how he works it!! Hubby's is on the larger size of average(but still average) & it is heavenly. It's more about the attention you pay the woman & how attentive you are to what gets her going that matters. Just be yourself & have fun! -She 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
JustMarried 15 Posted November 19, 2015 Reason I ask is the wife is hoping for a larger guy. She had a one or two when she was younger however they weren't very experienced and it was a bad experience. Lately we've been using big toys and she has come to love the size when properly warmed up. She was wanting to try a real one again now that she has had better experiences. Just didn't know if the other female would be expecting something a bit bigger. Quote Share this post Link to post
sunbuckus 3,569 Posted November 19, 2015 Reason I ask is... didn't know if the other female would be expecting something a bit bigger. It really depends on the other female. There are women who just want to experience a variety of sizes in partners. If they have a partner that has a larger penis, she might enjoy being with a man who is smaller. Or vice versa. There are also women who don't care about size and go for the overall personality package of a man. And there are women out there that do prefer one size over all others. It's similar to men and breasts. Some men only want to be with big breasted women. Other men would rather have smaller chested women. And others don't care about the size and are attracted to other attributes. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,068 Posted November 19, 2015 I can think of a way you can find out... 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,724 Posted November 20, 2015 Depending on what is within your bounds of allowable sex play, being smaller can be an advantage. I don't allow a guy to put it in my bum if he is on the larger side of thickness; length doesn't matter. Vaginally, I have been just as pleased by men with shorter and thinner dicks as I have larger ones. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post