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By km34
This post in another thread got me thinking... In my mind "friends first" swinging and poly are two completely different things, but other people apparently think of them as one and the same. What does everyone else think?
To expand on my views (the rest of the post is purely my opinion ).. Everyone I have met who wants to be friends first is looking more for a sense of safety by knowing people a bit before having sex. Whether or not this is legit or not is another topic, but it's something that people believe. Also, friends first folks tend to want to be more open about swinging - having that couple or two or five that you swing with AND hang out with gives you the chance to talk about swinging, be yourselves, and generally not have to be in the closet about it. At least every once in a while. Having a friendship makes things a bit more comfortable for some.
Polyamory, on the other hand, is actually looking for romantic love. I love my friends, but that doesn't mean I'm in a poly relationship with all of them. On SLS, I mention that we are looking for friends, but we do not consider anyone we meet on SLS (or other swinging sites) as people with whom we could potentially have a real, whole, romantic relationship.
I guess my general question is - Is this a common thought in people's minds? When you see someone looking for "friends first" does your mind automatically go to poly/relationships/too invested?
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By cplnluv1
Need help with this. We had met a couple, our first, that we would only like to meet her again. We wrote about our meeting before. They are younger than us, not married and we met them because we were eager to meet a couple. It had helped that they were good looking. It ended up he wasn't what we wanted though we did go through with everything. We have since met another couple who we have more in common with.
Alan and I were talking last night and we were talking about the first couple. My reactions to "our first" and what I thought about them. I told him I thought she was a younger me and he said exactly. She does look like me a little, on the small side. He was being playful but he said I was pretty wild that night. I guess I was with her and he said he had a good time with her too. Not sure how to react to that but I knew he did I am fine with that.
Problem is we both would like to meet her again but not him. They aren't really a couple, just friends. We want nothing to do with him, but he was the contact we have. Don't know how to contact her or if we should. Is this wrong?
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By Tortured_Soul
I have been with a few women in my life... I guess around here, who hasn't? I don't consider myself to be a swinger but I have swapped partners a few times (albeit 99% of the time it's the same couple). The thing I am in total love with this woman, she is 10 years older than me and she is beautiful, hell I'd go as far as saying she is perfect... in every sense of the word. The problem is this... we are both married with children...and she is my wife's best friend... oucha, I know.
Now, this is what I want from you guys, I want to hear about times that you felt like this. Was it always just fucking -or- were there times that you just felt like that one particular person might just be the one?
Help me get out of this haze I am in...
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By Fitcouple1997
Hi all! A couple of years ago, my husband starting dabbling a bit in MFM role playing during sex. With toys, talking out scenes, etc. I had never even heard of this before. It started out very gradually with dirty talk and then role playing with toys. He always made sure I was comfy with it and, much to my surprise, I really enjoyed it! That eventually led to talk of really having a MFM. Come to find out, this was a long held fantasy of my husband. He got really hot thinking about me satisfying 2 men. And the bragging rights of how hot his wife is. We eventually did it and had an amazing time. Since then, we have played with several single men...some more than once...and it has been so much fun every time. My question is this: I sometimes wonder if he, at some point, will ask me for a fmf. He's never indicated that he is interested in that. Not once. But it's something that I think about....like how would I handle that? I am EXTREMELY opposed to having another woman in bed. The thought of it makes me queasy. I don't like the look of the female body. And I don't think that I could even get into it at all. So if he eventually asks for that, how should I handle it without sounding like a selfish human? And, remember....he was the one that brought up the MFM stuff. I didn't ask for it. I really enjoy it, but it was his fantasy initially. Just thought I'd ask for some opinions on this...just in case it ever rears up! TIA!
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By TNT
"Both of us play or neither of us play."
I've often wondered what exactly does this mean and why? I've seen the above statement numerous times here on the board and in personal ads. Honestly, neither Ted nor I understand it.
There have been numerous times at parties/socials/clubs where I've played and Ted hasn't or he has played and I haven't, neither of us felt like we were being left out. We've always felt that no matter if one of us played and the other didn't that we were both still playing.
So, for those of you who have this statement in an ad, or have made this statement here on the board in response to a question/thread, or if it's the way you feel, could you please explain a bit more why?
Teresa
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