Thoughts on Craigslist?

[eldiablo311 201]

So surprisingly to me, last night during hours of fucking, at one point I after I had already cum and was laying next to my wife, she was fucking herself with this big,realistic dildo she has trying to make herself cum and I asked her what she was thinking about. She said "fucking a guy off of craigslist!". So I thought she was saying that for my benefit and asked her no really what are you thinking about?, and she repeated the same answer, she was serious.

 

So we started talking about it and I asked if she would be willing to try that sometime, you know, find a guy and then meet him at a bar in town and hang out with him at the bar for several hours and maybe even do that a couple of times before we decide to actually take him back to our hotel room. She said she might be willing to do that! I am shocked. I had thrown that out as a suggestion awhile back, thinking she would NEVER consider it, but apparently she actually is!

 

Do you guys think this would be a good idea, or is it too sketchy and dangerous? I figure it would be similar to Tinder or on-line dating, which is how we met.

[angelkin 1,326]

I've used CL in the past with mixed results. So long as you are selectively screening, using CL isn't any more or less risky than meeting someone off a swing site. I think you are more likely to find men cheating on their wives on CL vs a swinger site. The only thing a swinger site has going for it vs Craig's List is validations...at least if someone finds the guy to be a great playmate, they have probably validated him as such.

 

As always, use your best judgment and listen to your intuition. The creepy factor is real and don't discount it when choosing a fun friend. Be safe, meeting in public places is ideal.

 

Good luck!!

[Sheiscurious 19]

Personally I tried it before and it just seems sketchy to me . A lot of game players and pic collectors. It may work for some but I would suggest a pay sight to weed out some of the deadbeats . AFF seems to work and so does SLS .

But good luck! Lol first step is her admitting it!

[eldiablo311 201]

Sounds like the advise would be to screen carefully, obviously we would do as much as we could, i.e. talk on the phone first, then meet in person at a public bar and feel him out. I don't know what else you can do other than that. I would think on any site, AFF, SLS or any other you still have to be careful, but I guess like you said there are "validations" on those sites, so maybe I will mention that to her. I am guessing we would have to set up a profile on those sites though, and I'm not sure she would want to do that.

 

I will mention that to her, but it seems like when you look at craigslist there are a lot of people posting on there that are down to fuck another persons wife and there are several that we have seen that have nice sized penises which is what we both would want.

[cplnluv1 874]

When we first decided to find a woman to join us we turned to CL. What we found were women who wanted roses which were called donations and were just pros. We looked at women looking for couples. We found the word unicorn which we know don't exist. We were foolish sending our pictures and phone number. We got back plenty of porn pictures and no phone calls. We gave up. We then answered couples looking for couples, something we hoped to grow into but not start with. Again naively more photos and contact info. Was funny to get the same pictures we got from the single women. Plenty of penis pictures. Are all men 8"+? Bathroom mirror pics, close up vagina pictures some taken what seemed like two seconds after sex. All we asked for was a couple, clothed together. We laughed that we got sex pictures but no normal pictures. We made several dates for drinks with what we thought were normal real couples. No shows. It became a game for us to guess if this one was real. We got in touch with a couple, much younger than us and they sent a normal picture like we requested. We sent ours knowing they might be real and we wanted them to know what we looked like. We were hesitant to set a date thinking another bs couple. We really thought bs when they sent nudes. 1. They were in their 20's. 2. She was gorgeous. 3. He was very large. Had to be photo shopped of fakes. They gave us their cell and we expected to get a guy answer but they both spoke. She was nice but quiet, he a little pushy. They sounded real. We met them and they were who they said they were.

Conclusion. Very few real people. There is no such thing as a unicorn. Plenty of guys willing to meet.

[eldiablo311 201]

See I can understand the "unicorn" scenario, I think those are few and far between for sure. What we are looking for is the ever present, plethora of guys that are willing to fuck another man's wife...so I think for us we may be able to have plenty of luck meeting a guy, hopefully with a decent sized cock! My only worry is how to properly vet him and weed out potential psycho's! Lol!

 

Also just want to be as safe as possible about diseases, but I guess using protection is about as safe as you can get without not doing it at all.

 

So for meeting a guy, would you say craigslist would work fine and we would be able to meet plenty of "real" people using that site?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I know some have had success with it, and like anything ymmv, but just like I don't expect the odds to be high of finding a good deal on a used lawnmower on SwingLifeStyle, I don't expect the odds to be high of finding good swingers on Craigslist. If you want to find swingers, go where the swingers go. That alone will weed out at least some of the fakes and flakes.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I've been fishing CL for about six months now & can only repeat what others have said, it requires a lot of time & effort to locate a single female or couple. Even after you eliminate all the 'gay' guys looking for a quick bj and immature or crazies there are still a fair number of single men to sort through. With a little patience a couple can find a legit single male (manicorn?) In the six months I did identify several legit women. Three were not a match, & one was for coffee shop meet and later a afternoon assignation. Despite a priority effort meeting a couple on CL has not happened. Most couples ads I read seem to be by the inexperienced, or slightly crazy. I've actually started sending messages to the obvious amateures directing them to some of the legit swinger sites.

 

Conversely, while I met and played with a couple I found on SZC I've not yet met any singles there or other swinger sites I've been a member.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

...I don't expect the odds to be high of finding a good deal on a used lawnmower on SwingLifeStyle, I don't expect the odds to be high of finding good swingers on Craigslist.

 

Bingo!

[eldiablo311 201]

Thing is I am trying to find a single male for her. Seems like there are plenty on there. I am vetting a couple right now that seem pretty respectful and are in shape and hung. I plan on showing the emails and pics to my wife this weekend to see if she likes any of them and to see if she wants to go farther.

[victoria'dreams 141]

One thing we love about Craiglist, is that most of the guys looking for couples have no experience at all. That makes the experience for them unique and very exiting. Sometimes, a single guy from a swingers website, validated, with experience, isn't as hot because you feel less special. Craiglist is the door to crazy weird things (a lot!!!), but also the door to vanilla single guys wanting to experiment their fantasy.

 

One important thing is to realize that you also, for people in CL, could be a fake, a weirdo and many would just freak out at the last minute before to meet you. As an example, the only time we tried to organize a MMMMF for my wife. 2 didn't show up (both from CL) and the only one that came was a guy from a serious swinger website who had experience!

 

But... a single guy for having sex with your wife or for MFM is much easier to meet.

[JandKinBoise 859]

I have a fairly decent system for extracting quality guys from Craigslist. It does require patience. Hopefully one of the guys you are talking to now will work out. If not, with your next ad:

 

The title needs to be as specific as the limited space allows, although it won't matter much in the pile of crap you will receive. The body of the ad is very important. Be as specific as possible in what you are looking for. Facial hair? Body size? Experience? Think of as much as you can. Most important, in the middle of the ad, ask for a specific word in the subject line of replies. ANY reply that doesn't have that word is someone who didn't read the ad. Delete without opening. Ads that do contain the correct word can be safely opened. At first read, look for any red flags, any. Delete without reply. This goes for pet peeves like spelling errors as well. Only keep the replies that exceed your expectations. Remember...patience.

 

It seems to me that this time of year and mid spring are the best times to find a guy for this. Good luck!!

[Mbgdallas 203]

I have a fairly decent system for extracting quality guys from Craigslist. It does require patience. Hopefully one of the guys you are talking to now will work out. If not, with your next ad:

 

The title needs to be as specific as the limited space allows, although it won't matter much in the pile of crap you will receive. The body of the ad is very important. Be as specific as possible in what you are looking for. Facial hair? Body size? Experience? Think of as much as you can. Most important, in the middle of the ad, ask for a specific word in the subject line of replies. ANY reply that doesn't have that word is someone who didn't read the ad. Delete without opening. Ads that do contain the correct word can be safely opened. At first read, look for any red flags, any. Delete without reply. This goes for pet peeves like spelling errors as well. Only keep the replies that exceed your expectations. Remember..patience.

 

It seems to me that this time of year and mid spring are the best times to find a guy for this. Good luck!!

 

Can you provide an example of one of your ads?

[eldiablo311 201]

One thing we love about Craiglist, is that most of the guys looking for couples have no experience at all. That makes the experience for them unique and very exiting. Sometimes, a single guy from a swingers website, validated, with experience, isn't as hot because you feel less special. Craiglist is the door to crazy weird things (a lot!!!), but also the door to vanilla single guys wanting to experiment their fantasy.

 

One important thing is to realize that you also, for people in CL, could be a fake, a weirdo and many would just freak out at the last minute before to meet you. As an example, the only time we tried to organize a MMMMF for my wife. 2 didn't show up (both from CL) and the only one that came was a guy from a serious swinger website who had experience!

 

But... a single guy for having sex with your wife or for MFM is much easier to meet.

 

Yeah that all makes a lot of sense! I like the idea of a "vanilla guy" experimenting or trying something new and therefore would be very excited by the experience!

[TricianMike 788]

Yeah that all makes a lot of sense! I like the idea of a "vanilla guy" experimenting or trying something new and therefore would be very excited by the experience!

 

We have found the most fun in finding a vanilla guy is to go to a hotel that is used by businessmen. Don't go on weekends or Monday, when hotels are too quiet for men traveling alone. During football season you will usually find men at the bar watching football. If there is a convention or company meeting be careful, someone you are trying to pick up is most likely with others. What we do is split up. I sit alone and talk with guys at the bar. They may think I'm a pro but that's fine. Mike watches from across the bar. Finding a man who wants to take me upstairs is not a given and even if there is interest most are scared away when Mike is brought into the scene. What ever happens it is fun and we have had a number of vanilla men agree.

[TheGraduate 15]

Just to chime in as a single male.

 

Overall I have a generally negative opinion of Craigslist. It used to be somewhat decent until recently as way to connect with couples. However, it has since become totally useless in my area as it has been taken over by pic collectors, "bi threesome ads" (often with no female to be found), and other people with ill intentions.

[JBI2014 23]

I usually feel like I need a shower after perusing the local CL ads... Bleccchh!

[eldiablo311 201]

Just to update you guys, after 2 weeks of emailing, duds, and flakes, "pic collectors" maybe (whatever that is!), we found 2 legit candidates! The one we are planning on meeting in January is "really cute" according to my wife and he seems really respectful in our text messages back and forth. We will see what happens when we meet, but so far this seems really promising!

 

To be continued!

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

All I can say is good luck & best.

[Guest]

We thought about using it but then started watching the Criminal Minds series on TV and decided that those (the criminals and sadists) are the exact kind of folks that we might find on services such as CL.

[eldiablo311 201]

The thing is, those physcos can be anywhere in your life, when you walk out your door to check the mail or when you go to the gym, they could stalk you, follow you home and murder you in your sleep if they chose to do so as I'm sure you've seen on those crime shows.

 

We watch those also, the BTK killer would stalk people that he didn't even know or ever talk too and decide he was going to kill them and then he would watch them for weeks or months to get their schedule down and figure out the best way to attack them.

 

The point is there is always going to be risk in meeting a new person that you don't know, all you can do is mitigate that risk as much as possible. When you were single and dating, same thing.

 

Are you suggesting that going on a swinger website like SLS or to a swing club things would be safer? Seems to me any bar or club where you meet a new person you have the same risk.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Found this on CL & thought it cute

 

Time for some Christmas cheer my darlings....although some of you might find it a little Grinchy, it's all in good fun, so chill.

 

 

Let's talk about who is on the "Naughty List" and who is on the "Nice List."

 

"Naughty List"....

 

Tsk tsk tsk...this is to all you gentlemen (and I use the word loosely) that feel the need to post pictures of your package. Don't get me wrong, Christmas is the best time for a package, but a jpg of your junk is not what we women usually have in mind. I promise you...we do not sit around gazing at a "penis montage" trying to figure out which one we like best. Penises are pretty much 'one size fits all' so there is no need to woo us with artfully posed shots of you with your boxers pulled down to your knees and a can of Coke next to your dick to demonstrate girth (and YES, I have seen that very picture. I switched to Pepsi after THAT).

 

Spelling. Punctuation. Grammar. My precious little elves, these things DO matter (or they should). Illiteracy is not sexy. Sentences that run on and on and on without benefit of a comma (they look like this {,} for the record) do not make us pine for you. One should never disregard the importance of a little punctuation. Take this sentence for an example... "I enjoy cooking my family and animals." Ummm...that's clearly something Jeffrey Dahmer would write and that's f'ing scary. Shall we try that again? Let's add a comma or two, "I enjoy cooking, my family, and animals." Awwww...how sweet...a man who loves his family and animals and can cook! Sign me up for some of HIM!!!!

 

Name calling. Not nice, boys. Shame on all of you who denigrate women who aren't supermodels (because you know, CL is simply crawling with supermodels). No need to get nasty when a woman politely tells you that she doesn't think the two of you would be a good match. That doesn't make her a 'bitch' or a 'hore' (AGAIN with the spelling...if you're going to attempt an insult, at least spell it correctly. And yes, I am talking to YOU Mr. Coke Can). I once had the crazy notion that I could find a man with whom I could have a long-term affair by placing an ad here on CL. Some of the emails I received were, quite literally, the insane ramblings of a lunatic. Men with strange fetishes (latex suits, being spanked by a woman dressed like their second grade teacher, Mylar balloon popping, and dirty-panty sniffers), some of which I never even knew existed until that moment. When I cordially responded with my rejection all hell broke loose. Turns out the dirty-panty sniffer probably was the sort who would cook his family...*sigh* (So much for the affair). Be nice. Be respectful. Be cordial. Write the sort of email you would like to read.

 

 

Coal to you bad boys!!!!!

 

Ok..enough of the negative...plenty of you have been very, very good this year.

 

"Nice List"

 

Kudos to the men who understand the art of witty repartee. Few things are more attractive than a man who is smart, amusing, and witty (see how I used commas in there? LOL). I sincerely hope your Christmas brings you great joy. Men are visual creatures (or so you tell us), but women are verbal creatures. We genuinely do like men who make us laugh (I know, I know, THAT old myth. 'Tis true though) Any man attuned to that should pat himself on the back and pour himself a second eggnog (Do people actually like eggnog? Blech)!!!

 

Men who don't use CL as their own personal sexual buffet make this list. Nobody likes a "playah" and this place is rife with them. A big Christmas kiss under the internet mistletoe to the guys who balance kindness, decency, courtesy and a sense of humor with a genuine desire for a good woman in their life (be she a paramour or spouse). Good guys should win, and I hope that was the case for you all!

 

A big holiday shout out to the guys who manage to retain their sense of humor and don't succumb to arrogance. Arrogance makes even the best looking man a troll, and a sense of humor makes an "average Joe" a delightful companion. Life is too short not to be happy, right?

 

Ok guys....Merry Christmas! I hope the holidays bring you great cheer and many joys. For those of you who are getting coal there's always 2016 to make changes. Nobody's perfect (not even me, I'll be the very first to admit that lol) and I wish you guys much luck too.

 

xoxoxo

do NOT contact me with unsolicited services or offers

[eldiablo311 201]

That is hilarious! Good stuff! Lol!

[countrygal803 36]

We've used it to pretty good success. My playmate invited 3 guys over to fulfill a blindfold stranger gb fantasy of ours and Craigslist got them there. Not something I'd recommend using on a consistent basis however it worked for us the few times it was needed. Clubs in my opinion are the best way to go