Keeping things hot

[hotandspicy 15]

Hello everyone,

 

I have enjoyed all the advice and information on this site - here is my first question.

 

We have played with a couple twice now and both times have been VERY hot but the last time was just mind blowing. We very much want to play with this couple again but me (Mrs. Hot) is just worried about it not being as hot or being able to sustain this type of chemistry - last time was so great that I am not sure it can be topped.

 

I was wondering from others experiences/perspectives - how do you keep things hot? Or am I thinking too much into this?

 

I should say that we are very new to the LS and have only ever played with this couple, so no other experiences to compare this too and are feeling very fortunate to have met a couple that we are so compatible with.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I can't really comment on whether the next time will be just as hot. We have played with the same people several times and had great times each time. When you get to know people you can talk candidly and work to fulfill each other's fantasies.

 

I'm happy for you that you've found a couple you mesh with so well!

 

I would caution you though, and encourage you to branch out a little. When we first started we played almost exclusively with one couple. After many months, jealousy came into play from the other woman. It was a very bad and very sad scene. I firmly believe if we had diversified more, the hurt would have been less and perhaps the jealousy itself prevented.

[kikonkrome 845]

We definitely diversify, but that said we have play partners that it just stays hot with.

 

I would agree that I do not think it would be great every time if we just swapped with one other couple. We do have a couple that we do play with pretty regularly and it has been great every time.

 

We have had other couple's where the second time was, well, not as much fun as the first. We have also had couples that although were fun the first time, there was never going to be a second time.

 

Only one way to find out!

 

I hope that helps.

 

GLHF

[GoldCoCouple 4,070]

Lets see...either you can keep playing with the hot couple and hope that things stay hot or you can stop playing with them and not have to worry about it if the next time isn't as hot. Yes, you are overthinking it. Just enjoy yourselves. It eventually has to cool down some, but there's no telling how long that will take.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

The statement about getting to know each other better, likes and dislikes, and better communication is all true with repeat play partners, so I don't think you'll have any problem sustaining things. Each experience is different though and can have a different feel depending on everyone's mood, how they are feeling, etc. just like sex between spouses does. Just enjoy each experience for what it is and try not to guide it down a particular path trying to get to the exact same place you were before. Who knows, the new place you get to may be even better!

[Guest]

Hey, when it’s hot, it’s hot and when its not, it’s not. It’s all random, based on you, based on them, based on the alignment of the stars that particular night.

[Alura 2,777]

Hello everyone,

 

We have played with a couple twice now and both times have been VERY hot but the last time was just mind blowing. We very much want to play with this couple again but me (Mrs. Hot) is just worried about it not being as hot or being able to sustain this type of chemistry - last time was so great that I am not sure it can be topped.

 

I was wondering from others experiences/perspectives - how do you keep things hot? Or am I thinking too much into this?

 

Welcome from Oklahoma, Hotandspicy!

 

Your question reminded me of a time when Laura and I were driving home after we played with "Pat and Josephine" who had been our regular play couple for a year or so. That particular night we'd swapped and played in separate rooms. On the way home, I asked, "How was the sex with Pat tonight, Sweetheart?"

 

"Just like ol' married folks, Darling," she replied. "He makes me come, but it was not as exciting as when we first met them."

 

We decided we'd play as a foursome next time, to try to liven things up. That turned out to be our swimming pool under a starry summer sky. It worked!

[findinganswers 377]

We too have only played with one couple. We are still exploring our own likes and dislikes. Luckily the couple we have entered into this with is a couple we have known for years and years. Our best friends. I admit to some jealousy but I am trying to overcome it. If you stay with one couple, you can make it as hot the next time as you did the first. I think most of the sex I have with my wife is hot and we have been going at it for years and and years. I do still find my wife hot.

[oc1234 436]

If you play mainly with one person or one couple, it can get somewhat routine. Routine is not necessarily bad, bit as we recently discovered adding a little variety can bring new life to the playing.

 

We have had threesomes with our best male friend for years but the frequency had decreased in the last few years and our play had become too routine. Years ago, in addition to threesomes, my wife sometimes met him for some alone play but that had not happened for several years. A few weeks ago that changed and two of them spent an afternoon at his house playing alone with each. That turned us all on and has really increased all of our desires to play more often. We have all agreed that he and my wife should start including some alone play at his house in addition to our threesomes.

[WesternSwing 514]

In my experience this will go one of two ways, and it really depends on the people involved. 1) What made it hot the first time was the newness of the whole situation. That can't be repeated. But, 2) as a couple plays more together and becomes more comfortable with each other they start to explore more situations together, like separate room sex, sex acts that were off the table during the first or first few encounters, seeing the other person or person solo, etc. Things can get even hotter.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

I think most of the sex I have with my wife is hot and we have been going at it for years and and years. I do still find my wife hot.

Your expression of the sentiment had put a bid smile on my face.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

. . . Things can get even hotter.

Welcome back, Mr. Western Swing.