Any bad experiences - Hotwifing, MMF

[Eddiem 139]

I have read all of the great experiences... but how about any of you that have had the negative experience... whereas in a MMF or hotwife experience the other male plays more of the "bull" roll and he at the end decides to cum inside (with or without condom) or if your better half (wife) changes her mind in the last minute and says she wants him to finish in her...

 

Trying to understand the possible scenarios...

 

Thanks everyone!

[Guest]

We’ve had two “bad” experiences. In one, the guy put on a condom but apparently slipped it off just as he was going in. The biggest problem here was we really didn’t know where it went, did he somehow pocket it, or was it left inside or what?

 

In the second experience, while the guy joined us knowing it was an MFM, to he really there for a blow job. He and I got started while hubby (BF at the time) was going to the bath room. When hubby returned to the bedroom, Mike in I were in the 69 position, me sucking him but he not doing anything to me, orally or even fingers. He had me in the back corner of the couch, pumping his dick down my throat, emitting an occasional gag from me. Hubby broke it up, and we left. When I asked why, he explained that it was too one sided,he didn’t think I was enjoying it, and Mike was showing no suggestion that he was going to do anything more than shoot his wad down my throat, basically, was taking advantage of my level of intoxication. I explained to hubby (BF) the next morning that I enjoy being faced fucked like that and he shouldn’t have stopped it.

[Alura 2,775]

We only had one "Hot Wife" experience. I wouldn't call it "bad," but it was not good enough that we ever tried to repeat the experience. There was another "sorta" (but not quite) Hot Wife experience in which Laura and her friend... well, that's going to take more time than I want to devote today. The first experience we used early in our novel. It's in the "read free" section below. The second comes later in the book. We never had any experiences that caused problems between us.

 

There was another time when she wanted to fuck her high school sweetheart at their reunion, because she never had in high school. All she got was a kiss; he never quite caught on to what was being offered to him.

 

I think communication is the key to not having marital problems caused by swinging. Talk about it; then make love.

[Eddiem 139]

Thx everyone! :-)

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Occasionally. Usually a partner or group member unable to give much. Too selfish, inept, or unconnected to give any pleasure to anyone else.

[asncpl 730]

We do a lot of cuckold roleplay in MMF settings, and I can pretty much summarize the bad experiences as one of not giving enough respect for my husband. The male partner didn't seem know where the roleplay ends and real life begins. You can avoid it by setting explicit boundaries, like having a safe word to stop the roleplay, but there are always the rare few who want to cross them.

 

I have more problems with condoms slipping off or disappearing in one-on-one situations and not so much in MMF. Some I do believe were purely accidental, so I don't fault them for cumming inside me. With this one guy, he had only one condom at his place, and after he lost his erection for a bit, he couldn't put it back on. So I let him fuck me bareback, warning him several times he was not to cum inside me. Well he did it anyway. He was clean, but that's the surest way of guaranteeing he wouldn't be playing with me again.

[Eddiem 139]

Thanks... that is kind of what I was thinking about. I am not sure we are the kind of people that are ready to try more than MFM aka 3some to start. Cuckolding not yet if ever. The respect, demeaning stuff to the husband and if they are very very aggressive portraying more a rape fantasy act i think could cause some psychological problems for us both.

 

I have a good friend in the LS and he told me of one instance he had whereas the bull simply played upon the reaction of the wife... and determined she wanted it harder and rougher and he was... ripping is condom off and fucking her even though she used the safe word. In the end it became more of a rape fantasy that they were ok with i just do not think we are ready for that

 

my better half fantasies about 2 strangers, you know the calvin klein model types and doing the complete red room from 50 shades stuff. While she says "condoms" a must a know her... it will be bareback to give the most pleasure.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We were both excited because he had a big cock. But he couldn't get it hard. He masturbated himself trying to get it hard as he was trying to enter her. He came on her while he was half soft and never entered her. I was disappointed but she was angry, she told me later, because he couldn't get it hard for her.

[stonemtncouple 45]

We have been living the "hotwife" lifestyle for over a year now. Bad experiences: finding honest good hard men for her, very difficult. They email, they talk and flirt then fail to take her out. aka married and cheating I guess? Dick failure to launch, Only a few times but come on we have viagra today! Non performance makes her feel terrible unattractive the worst.

We screen and select only varified men from sdc and sls so no rough stuff yet. She takes her time getting to know the man but Im still worried about that first date with a new man.

[hlgcpl4fun 80]

Sabrina and I are definitely more into her playing while I watch. 

On 12/16/2015 at 8:20 AM, Eddiem said:

I have read all of the great experiences... but how about any of you that have had the negative experience... whereas in a MMF or hotwife experience the other male plays more of the "bull" roll and he at the end decides to cum inside (with or without condom) or if your better half (wife) changes her mind in the last minute and says she wants him to finish in her...

 

Trying to understand the possible scenarios...

 

Thanks everyone!

Sabrina and I are definitely into her playing usually while I watch and sometimes participate. Anybody that has been in the LS for any length of time is going to have at least one, or more, bad experiences. We have had SMs try to get her to go solo, "fall in love" with her, I can go on. We have had no shows, minute men, guys who could not keep it hard, etc. 

 

But our great experiences far outnumber our bad ones. 

[Anon321 524]

On 12/18/2015 at 5:42 AM, Eddiem said:

Thanks... that is kind of what I was thinking about. I am not sure we are the kind of people that are ready to try more than MFM aka 3some to start. Cuckolding not yet if ever. The respect, demeaning stuff to the husband and if they are very very aggressive portraying more a rape fantasy act i think could cause some psychological problems for us both.

 

I have a good friend in the LS and he told me of one instance he had whereas the bull simply played upon the reaction of the wife... and determined she wanted it harder and rougher and he was... ripping is condom off and fucking her even though she used the safe word. In the end it became more of a rape fantasy that they were ok with i just do not think we are ready for that

 

my better half fantasies about 2 strangers, you know the calvin klein model types and doing the complete red room from 50 shades stuff. While she says "condoms" a must a know her... it will be bareback to give the most pleasure.

The more you do it the more likely you are to run into bad experiences.  The one benefit of using guys you know is that you know what you're in for.  My GF has a strong fetish for rape roleplaying and I've seen her engage in it over and over again.  When it's with someone you know and have played with before it is almost always a safer experience but it can also be more tame and less genuine (we aren't professional actors here).  Like I have a horrible time trying to play a rape fantasy with my GF because there is no way for me to make it feel real or believable.  Every time I try we usually just end up laughing it off because it just doesn't work.  I do have some buddies that are pretty darn good at doing the rape roleplay stuff with her though but I know she is safe with them.

 

If you want to do a rape roleplay with a stranger you have not been with before you are immediately putting yourself at a higher chance of risk,  In your example, someone who rips of a condom and ignores a safe word.  For some, this might end up being an amazing experience because there is a psychological element to it.  You don't know the person or what they're capable of and you buy into the roleplay into being more real (in some ways it actually is) and that can actually create a better experience for some.  There are people who get off on taking that type of risk (my GF is one of them).  But going this route significantly increases your chances of having a bad experience, so there is a risk/reward factor there.

 

You're going to have a mix of good and bad experiences but you can certainly reduce your bad experiences by strongly vetting the guys, using guys you know and been with before, setting certain rules/boundaries and staying away from anything risky, etc.  However you might also be leaving some good experiences on the table as well depending on what exactly your desires are.