Protective barriers for oral

[CuriouslyGeorge 17]

About to start the group scene as a single bicurious straight guy.

 

I'd like the option of using a clear film like Saran Wrap performing oral sex. Will this be accepted without being an oddball. The purpose is to prevent STDs.

[kikonkrome 844]

Yeah it would be odd...maybe a condom if you blowing a guy...I have never seen it with women.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I have seen it with a small group of people while on vacation at a swinger resort. I have never seen it locally or anywhere else I've traveled.

 

I would suggest discussing it with your potential partner up front. It would be a deal breaker for me.

[N&G 207]

We've been in the lifestyle almost 15 years and have never seen anyone, male or female use a condom or anything else for oral sex. I (male half) would not be interested if anyone required a condom or wrap for oral. I have a feeling that most guys would say "No thanks" also.

[CuriouslyGeorge 17]

Thank you. What about Soft Scrub (lol)

[cplnuswing 4,713]

We haven't seen it, but I know it's something some people do. I would pass on oral if it had to be with a condom, and I think I can safely speak for her and say that if you are going to go down on her, nothing from the household aisle is going to be involved.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Many years back, I would watch nurse Sue Johanson on TV. She frequently recommended the use of a dental dam as a barrier while performing oral sex. I judged nearly everything that Sue Johanson said about safe sex to be sensible. But this dental dam business was an exception. I even ordered a carton after searching the World Wide Web. When I opened the box and examined the content my first and final impression was, "ain't no way this is going to work."

 

In ten-plus years of swing experience I have never seen and have never heard anybody suggest the use of this kind of protection.

[N&G 207]

Thank you. What about Soft Scrub (lol)

 

For some people I recommend Lysol Spray. "Don't go down without it"

[CuriouslyGeorge 17]

So, my newfound fellow explorers, the saga doesn't end there. I appreciate the additional opinions.

What was supposed to be my first bicurious swinger experience, bi/bi no less, ended up with me only getting a solid handful of the hostesses rather wonderful feeling pendulous and somewhat sagging titty. After at most 20 minutes of observing without ever removing a stitch of clothing, I escaped this supposedly luxury hotel room untouched by what appeared to be subhuman mucous membrane.

A posting on an adult site by a rather delicious looking babe that I spoke to by phone several times led me to believe that I was going to be with mostly couples, a few single women and maybe a few other single guys.

You would not believe the prep that I did for my cumming out party! This group seriously would have made a trip to Kmart seem like it was Trump's finest hotel in comparison.

It seemed like a visit to a facility for mentally challenged people. No kidding!

It's not often that I pat myself on the back because I've done my share of risky things in the past, but boy was I proud of myself as I left the 'suite' unscathed.

No barrier on earth would have been sufficient!

I'm going back to as some politely say, whacking off again until I can rid myself of this unfortunate memory. I may have to have myself committed for several months and volunteer for electroshock treatments.

What a hilarious start to my entry into Swinging.

Some tips on finding a quality somewhat upscale experience will be my next question. ?

[kikonkrome 844]

George...I am not really sure the lifestyle is right for you??

[N&G 207]

Fantasy and reality are two different things.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Expect the unexpected.

 

I, by the way, like K-Mart. And I know a very sexy woman how hangs out in a Wal*Mart most all the day long

[WesternSwing 504]

It's your body, your mouth, your cock, your rules.

 

Oral sex without a condom or dental dam is highly common within the swinger lifestyle, BUT, HSV can be spread from genitals to mouth or mouth to genitals. HSV1 (the sores people get on their lips and inside their mouth) and HSV2 (the sores people get on their genitals) are virtually the same virus, they just choose to reveal themselves on different parts of the body.

 

According to the CDC 1 in every 6 adults in the U.S. have diagnosed HSV. It is estimated another 1 in 6 carry the virus but since they've never had an outbreak they haven't been tested for it and don't know they have it. But those people can still shed and pass it on to others.

 

So it comes down to what level of risk you're willing to accept.

[asncpl 729]

Dental dam or condom for oral sex would also be a deal breaker for me. Honestly I can't think of anyone using dental dam in my experience, but I have seen blowjobs with condoms.

 

Sorry to hear about your experience. It takes a while to find the right group or setting. I think it's good to lower expectations somewhat but keep putting yourself out there. You will get a better idea of the swingers in your area and you can make a better decision to join in the lifestyle or not.

[CuriouslyGeorge 17]

Thanks to all for your comments.

 

This new adventure is so interesting. I consider myself a real sexual animal. Will continue my quest in the swinger/group setting. If it works, it works.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Sometimes it takes awhile to find a good group of people. Generally, open invite parties are not the way to go, in my experience. Are there clubs or meet and greets in your area? Once you meet a few people and become known as trustworthy and fun, you will get invites to good parties.

[CuriouslyGeorge 17]

Sounds like good idea FUNCOUPLEDAYTON. Thanks

[LoveLove 28]

We are not interested in any kind of unsheathed play in the genital area because YES, you absolutely CAN get all of the nasty STIs from oral. Google it. It's disappointing, perhaps, but, for us, it's just not worth the risk. We reserve oral for ourselves only. Hand play is wonderful so it's not depriving - to us - to set a redline at not doing oral when playing with others. Condom oral - from the female standpoint - is like sucking a balloon. Using a dam just removes so much of the play pleasure that unless somebody really wants to go to all the effort to learn how to work with it, it's a non-starter. That doesn't mean there isn't plenty of other fun.