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Hi! My husband and I have been reading a lot of the posts regarding bi couples and bi-male/female experiences and it's something new we'd like to try with another bi-couple.

 

Any suggestions and/or experiences that you'd like to share that might make it a better experience for us -- or help us avoid mistakes?

 

The whole idea is extremely hot to us, but finding the right couple seems to be difficult as well.

 

Thanks!

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First off, Welcome to the Board. I'm glad you've found this place most of us enjoy and also that you've had the opportunity to read the various post on the topics that interest you.

 

Now as for your question...the first thing I noticed is that your header said "Want Husband to try Bi." Now of course, I would want to know if your husband wants to try bi or if this is something you want him to try. Either way is just fine as long as both are in agreement.

 

There are quite a few threads on here dealing with bi men and some of the difficulties associated. Have you had the opportunity to look through those? And of course, it won't be long until lots of people have responded to your posts with their thoughts and ideas on the subject...and hopefully resulting in you coming back to visit with us frequently.

 

Have y'all been involved in swinging long or is this something you are just finding an interest in?

 

Looking forward to hearing more from y'all.

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Hi, and thanks for the nice reply and warm welcome!

 

I would say he's at that curious stage now and it's something we have talked about for a while.

 

We've been in this lifestyle for almost 4 years now.

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Don't know if we really have any advice to offer, but both of us are bi, we only play with other bi people, and we definitely enjoy it. We find it very erotic to watch the other with a member of the same sex. Also very erotic to both enjoy the same person at the same time. It can be more difficult to find four people that are all bi and attracted to each other, but we would recommend you keep trying. Find a bi couple that you are comfortable with, talk about what you want and don't want, and have fun exploring!

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I am a bi-male but my wife is straight we played with a couple that both were bi. We had a great time wife tried the bi thing twice she said it wasn't her cup of tea. But she did get off on watching the males together. We no longer play with that couple and do miss that play. I would say get to know them and ask what they like communicate. We played with that couple for years and had no idea that the male was bi too think of all the fun we missed by not talking about fantasy's.

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I think a good way to start is with a foursome, and have a little help inserting and getting each other ready to play.

 

:fun: :fun:

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Find a bi couple that you are comfortable with, talk about what you want and don't want, and have fun exploring!

 

We know this post has been here for a bit now,along with quite a few others on the subject of male bisexuality.But have to agree totally here with jcbicouple. We too are both bi sexual and really enjoy watching the other with the same sex and sharing one person.It may take awhile to find a cpl who are both bi and are compatible but,when ya do,talk,and ask questions and have fun with it.

 

Enjoy!!

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Most men have not touched another man's cock so take it slow. Finding little ways to touch another male and seeing how it feels and getting a reaction is best.

 

If you get together with a bi couple make sure they know you are going to go slowly and want to be comfortable with the experience. Usually men will say they are bi, bi curious, or straight. Most straight guys will not even try a bi experience.

 

My choice would be bi-curious so you learn and expand your sexuality together. :facelick:

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Another Bi curious guy here. We've talked, fantasized, and acted it out but never really done it. Going to go to a club soon so maybe something will happen there.

 

Also what about the cumming part? What are the rules on oral? It it like an unwritten rule? I know I much rather have my wife finish me off with her mouth then to end it in a hand job. I mean I know when I have to pull out. But what if the guy receiving decides he doesn't feel like telling you? I guess there is always the condom route.

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I'd say it all comes down to communication. You're going to have to talk to the other guy about what your limits are so this is part of that discussion. I wouldn't hold out much hope of anything happening at the club you are going to, as in general male bisexuality at swingers clubs is frowned upon. Judging by this board there are plenty of bi-curious males out there so good luck.

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There are more bi-males on this board all the time. I think it's representative of a trend. At least, I hope it is. When we started looking into swinging, we were told that I should keep my bisexuality to myself. I see more and more couples now blatantly advertising their male as bisexual or bi-curious.

 

For the record, I don't donate blood because I have low blood pressure. I don't see how this matters though. Even the straight couples here don't know if the men they've swung with have ever had sex with another man. Nor do they know how many partners their female playmates have had. If someone is concerned, they should stop giving blood; bisexual, gay or straight.

 

 

Welcome to the board, BandJ1968. My advice is to be honest and open about your fantasy. It may take longer to find playmates, but someone out there is looking for you as intently as you are looking for them. Be honest and open with each other and your playmates about your limits and theirs.

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Yeah, it's interesting how times and attitudes have changed. There are so many people out there still uptight about the bi-male thing, but the tide is turning a little, methinks.

 

It has been said before, but communication is key. If you're honest and open without being pushy, you never know what you'll find. Who knows? Maybe you'll even awaken some desires in a person who didn't find them in the past. Odds are they'll thank you in the morning... ;)

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I dunno if my hubby is bi but the first time I met someone who finished inside me I was late getting home and hubby was already there. I thought he would be upset because I didn't cook but he slapped my ass and caressed me while I was trying to get dinner started. But he carried me to the bedroom and I was so so nervous. But he kissed me etc and started licking me there. All he said was, "you must be horny or fertile cause it's really wet". I don't know if I wanna experience that feeling of nervousness again but the point, maybe hubby is bi if he likes the taste of another mans juices. Right?

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I would do almost anything my wife wanted me to do. It keeps things hot and exciting. For me no anal penetration, even her finger hurts when she tries. Probably no cum from the other guy in my mouth, otherwise.

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I dunno if my hubby is bi but the first time I met someone who finished inside me I was late getting home and hubby was already there. I thought he would be upset because I didn't cook but he slapped my ass and caressed me while I was trying to get dinner started. But he carried me to the bedroom and I was so so nervous. But he kissed me etc and started licking me there. All he said was, "you must be horny or fertile cause it's really wet". I don't know if I wanna experience that feeling of nervousness again but the point, maybe hubby is bi if he likes the taste of another mans juices. Right?

Did he know you had been with someone else?

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This would be great experience I must say ! You should convince your husband to try this!

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She loves to see me sucking a guy

Where can you go for mmf in Atlanta? I know the clubs frown on it. I have been to Tokyo Valentino (fun sometimes watched several couples doing it for display (some wanted to be touched at the same time other's not)Liked clothing optional areas. Been to Flex spa also a couple of times (did not like the fact that women were not allowed in really not much fun.)

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Where can you go for mmf in Atlanta? I know the clubs frown on it. I have been to Tokyo Valentino (fun sometimes watched several couples doing it for display (some wanted to be touched at the same time other's not)Liked clothing optional areas. Been to Flex spa also a couple of times (did not like the fact that women were not allowed in really not much fun.)

later,

g

 

Your better bet is to find a biM or bi couple on an online site.

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On 12/6/2019 at 7:21 AM, Kimasianwife said:

I dunno if my hubby is bi but the first time I met someone who finished inside me I was late getting home and hubby was already there. I thought he would be upset because I didn't cook but he slapped my ass and caressed me while I was trying to get dinner started. But he carried me to the bedroom and I was so so nervous. But he kissed me etc and started licking me there. All he said was, "you must be horny or fertile cause it's really wet". I don't know if I wanna experience that feeling of nervousness again but the point, maybe hubby is bi if he likes the taste of another mans juices. Right?

 

 

see you next tues.

 

 

 

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On 2/19/2024 at 4:53 AM, hiwayrider2020 said:

Wife loves....actually encourages me to seek out handsome men for bi play....then bring them home for a 3some!

I agree and even better in pairs... grrrrrr

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