First club visit - have we forgotten anything?

[TwoTogether 42]

My wife and I are preparing to go to our first club in a couple weeks and I wanted to ask the experts out there if we've forgotten anything…

 

We've done our homework - reading this site extensively, talked to a friend in the lifestyle. Short of getting our feet wet, we believe we understand the community and its general expectation/norms.

 

We've talked about this together EXTENSIVELY. After more than 10 years of marriage, we've shared things that we hadn't before. We both are interested in doing this TOGETHER and neither of us have expressed any inkling of backing out (though we both are naturally nervous).

 

We've written down and discussed our rules. We both know that we'll need to continue to discuss these and ensure there is no misunderstanding beforehand. We surprised each other (pleasantly) with our openness to doing things. There were NO disagreements with the initial rules…

 

From our research, we both know that nothing may happen the first time and that we shouldn't force things, but we both are interested in a same-room full play. We've read a wide range of approaches to first times - any thoughts or comments?

 

We've called the club we're going to and spoken with someone. We got their recommendations on what they recommend bringing. We're also comfortable with the club as our friend recommended it so it's probably a good fit (and the club said that they regularly get newbies, so we won't be the only ones sticking out like sore thumbs).

 

So… Have we forgotten anything? Any final recommendations other than 'keep communicating, respect each other, follow your rules' - all of which is great reinforcement, but something that neither of us are overlooking.

 

Thanks!

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Breath strips.

 

Don't drink to much.

 

It is fine to take a minute to yourselves to consider any offers of play before you say yes.

 

Just go to have fun together and meet like-minded couples.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

It sounds like you guys have done your homework. On our first visit to a club, we went just to check out the atmosphere and environment. It was nice knowing that there wasn't any pressure to play and we were just observing to see if we wanted to explore any further. I had/have body image issues so it was reassuring on my part to see others of many shapes, sizes, and ages that first time. Another thing is that the environment was very sexually charged and that was exciting enough.

 

Please, have fun, relax, and just go out and have fun with each other...anything extra (like enjoyment of others) will be the sprinkles to your cupcake!

[Guest sandraandalex]

We made a point of having a,"no crime, no foul," attitude the first time we went to a Club. The idea was that if someone went past any line, it wasn't intentional, we could get lost in a moment and the other would be okay with` things. The next day, if we decided never to do it again, that was fine and neither would be judged on what they did or did not do. The result was a great night, yes we did Play and we just kept going with the Lifestyle.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I'll elaborate on what Sunbuckus said about she and her husband's first visit being simply to check things out. It is a good way to start. Carry no expectation in with you other than to enjoy yourselves.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Remember to give us the follow up as to how things went.