Single guy and new to swinging

[Guest piyrw]

I'm a single guy. Is there any room for that in the swing world?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Yes, there is room. My wife has a few single acquaintances. I have a couple of my own. We are not alone in this Glad you've found The Swingersboard.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Yes! But you have to make yourself stand out and above all the other single men in the LS. Be kind, respectful, polite, and make sure you can chat with the husband if you want to get anywhere with the wife!

[econobiker 165]

Absolutely room for a single guy. You initially might have to go after a group swinging situation versus meeting a couple or single woman individually.

 

If you end up going the on-premise club route, you will pay more until you might be able to get friendly with some single females whom you could end up to take as couple dates.

 

If you go the house parties route, be a "great guest"- friendly, positive, willing to help out the hosts with donations (money, food, or beverages) or labor if you don't have alot of money to spare -show up early to help set up, help clean up at the end of the evening or next morning...

[Guest piyrw]

Not too interested in a club or house party just yet. How about going to a resort or cruise? Is that a good way to meet people?

 

I'm shy and kind of interested to keep my circle small. Maybe find a husband and wife to ride with.

 

How about resort like Pandoras Forest.

[JandKinBoise 859]

A good single man is nearly as hard to find as a single lady. Mainly because there is such a huge pool to choose from. It becomes muddled. You have to stand out but that really isn't too hard. Do some research on how to word an ad to attract a woman or couple. Obviously not many men do this. The ads I see are vulgar, blatantly sexual and unreadable. Remember, you have to attract the lady in the couple, not the guy. Once you meet, you have to split the attention equally so as to not make anyone feel left out or ignored. Anyway, tons of info here. Learn and go forth!

[NCfromVA 19]

This thread gives me hope ! It sure has been an uphill climb a a single male !

[adamgunn 1,461]

We met our share of 'good' single men, mostly on SLS.

 

Make sure you read the posts on how to be a good one.

[pleasuredeviant 24]

Advice, read the advice for single males threads extensively.

 

Second no dick pics. The man will be screening you and will ask for them after a conversation is going (usually on kik, pick a good username like respectfulsmforcouples)

 

Third, go to a local photo studio and spend 50 bucks for professional pics of you. You want a solid professional looking pic, a fun one, and a creative one that represents your personality. Your profile on the sites (sls, szc, kasidie,3fun,aff) must have a solid leading image. Not a selfie in the bathroom with your shirt off.

 

Fourth, always introduce yourself as 'respectful, able to perform, and focused on helping a couple fulfill her fantasies'. This is not about you, but them inviting you in to fulfill a fantasy.

 

I could go on, but those are the checkboxes that screen out 99% of the inquiries we get.

 

And to your original question, absolutely. Almost every male half I have met loves having a good 3rd single male available to enable fantasies for the lady, we love watching out favorite porn star. At the same time, we have the highest expectations you could ever imagine to bring in and please our wives. And are very picky. Be patient, respectful and realistic. Expect rejection. Look at sm profiles and look for ones with certs. You can learn a lot from those profiles.