Playing with those who are "out of your league"

[sunbuckus 3,567]

We have a LS friend who is crazy about Crossfit and even does competitions. Even before he was into Crossfit, he worked out almost religiously and would be self-conscious about certain parts of his body.

 

Well, if you all know me, I'm self-conscious about my own body but it's on the other spectrum of our LS friend. Whenever I've played with him, I am sometimes concerned if it bothers him that he is playing with someone unfit.

 

This same issue can come up for those who have played with someone/a couple who was more physically attractive. Does it make you feel a bit uncomfortable? Or do you not give it another thought?

[JandKinBoise 858]

So much to worry about...lol We have had sex with a couple guys that were really buff. One guy was built like a football player, defensive lineman. Huge. Not buff but gigantic and very strong. When we met, I was very concerned about this guy on J. He'd crush her 5'2" 110 lb body. Of all the guys we have banged over the years, this guy was the biggest turn on for J. At one point, during our initial fuck, she was on all fours sucking me and about to be fucked by this dude. We had smoked weed before starting and this sometimes gives J 'cotton pussy'. I asked if she needed the lube. He told me to look for myself. I moved around to the rear and her pussy was literally dripping on the carpet. "No lube needed here" he smiled as he sunk balls deep in one stroke. I'd never seen her actually drip, she was so turned on and ready. I think I'm the more self conscience person of the 2 of us. J is like the honey badger, she just don't care.

 

Our current fwb is dealing with the effect the northern winter has on one's waistline. He spends the first 20 minutes of his visit apologizing for gaining weight.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

We never would give it a thought. If we had a problem with you, we wouldn't be playing with you.

[kikonkrome 844]

I just assume everyone I am interested is 'out of my league' and take it from there.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I just assume everyone I am interested is 'out of my league' and take it from there.

'Nuff said.

[Mbgdallas 203]

Sun bucks,

 

You ask an interesting thing. I have thought about this for a while and will share my 3 cents.

 

Everyone, sexually, that I would play with is "out of my league." I know this and it would not bother me in the least to play with someone out of my league. If I am not attracted to them then they are not "in my league." The fact that they "are out of my league" and will play with me leaves me feeling good about myself and with a debt of gratitude to them. I am old, I am ugly, I am fat, I am out of shape, I am not sexy, I have a bad attitude, I am not fun. Whatever. Doesn't matter what I think because they still chose to play with me so they did not find any of those things to be true or they would not be playing with me.

 

I think I am a pretty typical male. Give me a picture of a playboy model and an "ugly" woman and I will probably pick the playboy model every time. It is flat and static. Put me in the room with them to interact and looks will not matter a bit to me... It will be the one who has the aura of sexiness about them. It is not physical beauty or fitness. It is about the gleam in their eye, the warmth of their smile, how they move, the sound of their voice, the class they show, all the things that come from their interaction with me... And me only. It is a sense, nothing more.

 

I hope this makes sense. In the end we are playing so why worry about anything else.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

The greater the number of years that I have beyond high school, the smaller the percentage of people who seem out of my league. At present, I play with one woman whom almost anybody would characterize as "The Trophy Wife". She has told me that she sometimes feels rejected owing to the fact that at a party, nobody seems to want to approach her. And hers is a double whammy because she is a woman who 'needs' attention.

 

I also play with a woman who can write fashion model in her resume. If I had met her when she and I were both 24 years of age, she would have given me a sneer and I would have shrunk in embarrassment.

 

Time wounds all heels.

[kikonkrome 844]

At present, I play with one woman whom almost anybody would characterize as "The Trophy Wife". She has told me that she sometimes feels rejected owing to the fact that at a party, nobody seems to want to approach her. And hers is a double whammy because she is a woman who 'needs' attention.

 

 

Heaven forbid the "trophy" approach somebody else...must be a nice problem to have...

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Heaven forbid the "trophy" approach somebody else...must be a nice problem to have...

Well, she does, in fact, approach others. It simply puzzles her that others do not approach her.

[Alura 2,774]

Y'know, lookin' back, I think most of our playmates were "out of my league." I don't know why; it just seemed to work out that way.

 

On the other hand, I always thought the other husband got the better part of the deal. One might even say to me, "Man, you got screwed!"

 

And if it weren't for that, I'd probably not have swung.

 

As it happened, I rather enjoyed playing "out of my league."

 

[freddymike 18]

A timely post for me. I was just thinking recently how I at last felt comfortable with my new chest now I have so laboriously grown some transitioning cup size A boobs over the last few years and traction extended my cock to 20cm on a good day. It took a lot of work and time for me to finally feel accepting of myself though, but I would say work on your bad facets even if you know it will take time. Eventually it all suddenly clicks and you know it was worth it and you feel Ok about yourself, which is ultimately all that matters.

[allaboutthemrs 84]

This post makes me think of an old cowboy we know that when discussing his single status would always say in his Texas drawl:"I wouldn't have anything to do with ANYONE who'd have anything to do with me."

[Napoleon 230]

The only women out of my league are the one's I don't find attractive.

[Guest]

We never think about it. We learned a long time ago that appearances can be deceiving when it comes to sexual pleasure. I have been very surprised by lovers. Some are quite "built" but clearly they have relied upon their good looks in life and are dead fish in bed. I was just recently travelling on Halloween. I tried to get a date online, and even made myself available in the hotel bar...no luck. I was frustrated, horny, and had been all worked up in anticipation when I went off with my husband's blessings to get laid. What did I do? I called my friend Linda up and asked her to have her brother pick me up at the airport (I've laid him a few times.) He is not the most handsome man in the world and by your definition...I am out of his league. But, he is a great fuck. So, he picked me up from the airport on my return and when I got home, he screwed me like I wanted and needed. It felt good and I was grateful for the adventure.

 

[Billygoat 443]

I enjoy pleasing women. I like talking to them and treating the all special. Those that want to be with me by their choice are very special and I treat all as a special gift. I am considerably active....as much as I can handle. So I’m not sure what out of my league would be. As although I will ask....they choose me. Guess I’m not that guy who classifies the ladies....or only plays with women who meet specific criteria.

[hkdilbert 182]

The way we look at it, nobody is out of our league. And if they think they are, they are probably not the kind of people we'd want to spend time with anyway (out of OUR league). No need to loose any sleep over this issue IMHO - so many fish in the sea as they say...

[enhancer 1,584]

We haven’t meet or talked to anyone we feel is out of our league yet! Maybe we are just over confident or secure with ourselves? We both feel we already have the hottest person around as our partner in each other so everyone else isn’t going to be out of our league. If they feel they are it’s all good. Doesn’t hurt our feelings and people should like what they want to like. It also doesn’t mean they are snobs. They just know what they want. Better then talking to the fuck anything that moves crowd. If you take rejection to personally you probably are in the wrong lifestyle, because it’s going to happen.

[Shore2Please 610]

I figure if someone wants to be with us we can’t be out of their league. I will admit I have lost weight and go to the gym more since we started. I went down a size and our friends noticed. A regular friend said I looked great before and I should eat more.

I feel funny that I’m doing this for people I hardly ever see.

[Numex 2,409]

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I feel funny that I’m doing this for people I hardly ever see.

You're doing for yourself and your husband. Being attractive is a huge ego boost for both spouses.

[Shore2Please 610]

You're doing for yourself and your husband. Being attractive is a huge ego boost for both spouses.

 

You can never be too thin? I was fine before, size 4, my friend said I look anorexic. I don’t think so.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Some people appreciate the curves on a woman so you can be too thin to them (no disrespect intended).

[Numex 2,409]

You can never be too thin? I was fine before, size 4, my friend said I look anorexic. I don’t think so.

In a world of fatties, size 4 might look anorexic. It's healthy and normal.