Making it work...thrown a curve at Hotel Party

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Abruptly the unexpected happens. What was to be a small private encounter has two or three extra couples and maybe even a single lady likely to appear. Host defaults to you How do you keep the party flowing from start to end?

 

Anyone with experience have tips for prepping the guest beforehand during the email/msg phase; getting them into the flow during; dealing with flakes, crazies, & other drama; helping others to get the most out of it so they will want to do it again.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Questions about your situation come to my mind. Do the prospective attendees belong to an on-line group to which group messages can be sent and with which each of them are able to see who the other prospective attendees might be? Are people expecting the event to be catered? Is this event going to be at a hotel? Is it going to be at your home? Is it a problem that your home is smaller than the original venue?

 

We have had many private house parties and it was a long time ago that we left behind the notion that it was our duty to make people have fun. We learned that people seem to find fun using their own devices. What we provide is a comfortable place for having the fun. This includes that the invitation list is controlled -- ours are not "open" parties.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Questions about your situation come to my mind. Do the prospective attendees belong to an on-line group to which group messages can be sent and with which each of them are able to see who the other prospective attendees might be?

 

No

 

Are people expecting the event to be catered? Is this event going to be at a hotel? Is it going to be at your home? Is it a problem that your home is smaller than the original venue?

 

No cater, Yes hotel.

 

We have had many private house parties and it was a long time ago that we left behind the notion that it was our duty to make people have fun. We learned that people seem to find fun using their own devices. What we provide is a comfortable place for having the fun.

 

Aside from nice hotel room what makes it comfortable? How large does it need to be? In this case the venue was already set, & was a little small for the number who showed.

 

This includes that the invitation list is controlled -- ours are not "open" parties.

 

Fortunatly no crazies showed. One couple was a little 'passive'. Perhaps inexperience?? They did not talk much.

 

I guess what makes it comfortable is at the core of the question. Extra towels were laid in. What else?

[sunbuckus 3,567]

So sorry we missed out on your question earlier! It still sounds like your party will be a small one with maybe 10 people? Do all of the attendees know each other? If not, and if everyone is comfortable with the idea, maybe making the attendee list known to all so that they can message whoever they want is a possibility?

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

So sorry we missed out on your question earlier! It still sounds like your party will be ...

 

Uh, past tense there. This event came down last month. Nine people, three couples & a 'triad'. & no none were well acquainted or were strangers. The person who set this up flaked out & left my friend holding the bag & I stayed by her side as the bus bore down on us

 

And, yes I'd do it again.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Sorry we were late in replying but it sounds like you guys handled it well.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Could have been better. At least there were enough towels LoL.

 

Seriously, if anyone has any comments on the best things for staging a house or hotel party leave some coments here. Share your experience.

[njbm 2,871]

We prefer house parties where the hosts invite the guests. More flakes, male predators, strictly lesbian women at open invitation house parties. I think the hosts invite people who will get along. If people are too nutty, they are not asked back.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

We prefer house parties where the hosts invite the guests. More flakes, male predators, strictly lesbian women ....

 

That last is outside my experience. But, then I've attended exactly one HP in the last 35 years. Cant remember any real lesbians at parties back in the day. Maybe there were but I just dont remember. So, whats the problem with a lesbian, or gay guy for that matter, at a party? I can make some guesses, but prefer to hear from experience.

 

The others are fairly obvious & I've met my share.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We only attend and host house and hotel parties that are invite only. We only invite people we've met in person and like. We try to make sure that everyone at a party has someone who wants to play with them, so if it's someone we don't play with we make sure some of their other close friends are there. In my opinion, open invite parties attract people who for whatever reason are not desirable enough to be invited to invite only parties. If you want to host a party, but don't have friends I think it's better to make friends at clubs, events or meet and greets first. Your experience as a host will be much more enjoyable. When you are a host you are responsible for damage to your home or hotel room, if the police are called you are on the line, if people have an awful experience, right or wrong, this will affect your reputation. It's not worth it to jeopardize yourself for a party where a loose cannon may show up.

 

We never charge for parties and usually don't even ask people to bring a dish. I feel like it is our duty as hosts. Most people do bring something. We do ask people to bring their own alcohol and towels (we have a pool). We give people the option to stay over if they drink too much.

 

I think on of the most important things when you host a party is to have a transition announcement. We'll have a social time when everyone is arriving with food and drink or sometimes play a game. Then we'll take everyone to the play area. I will thank everyone for coming, explain where they can play, where condoms and towels are available and then make a toast. This works very well to get play going.

[econobiker 165]

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I think on of the most important things when you host a party is to have a transition announcement. We'll have a social time when everyone is arriving with food and drink or sometimes play a game. Then we'll take everyone to the play area. I will thank everyone for coming, explain where they can play, where condoms and towels are available and then make a toast. This works very well to get play going.

 

Agreed on the transition announcement though I hadn't thought about it before. This also helps to announce if there is a door prize drawing, costume contest, wet t-shirt contest, after-New Years breakfast, etc. later in the night.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

funcoupledayton, your house parties sound like fun! I have not yet been to a house party where the hosts have announced a transition from social to play time. I can see where that might help move things along if people are reluctant to start playing. But in our experience with house parties, there is usually not too much trouble getting people to play! Generally it seems like one horny pair starts making out and heads to the play areas first, and they kind of opens up the flood gates for the other horny folks (who maybe didn't ant to be first?).

 

The one party where it seemed to take folks a while to start playing was a "commercial" party run by a group (Intimate Parties a Group, or IPG). It was not the type of party where people were invited personally. They charged people to attend, and issued wristbands that were color-coded according to your preference (full swap, soft swap, etc.) for people to wear. We only went because two couples who we really like were going to be there. We met just one new-to-us couple at the party, who were friends with one of our friends. But that was fine with us, since we were really there to be with the other two couples anyway.