Broke the Ice.. and How!

[TwoTogether 42]

So Mrs. Together and I took the plunge last weekend, with our first LS experience. After lots of talking, reading this site to death, and talking with a friend in the LS, we headed out to a club.

 

We were both concerned about ‘dressing to impress’, but her more than me since she was likely going to be exposing more than accustomed to right from the get-go. Our advice to other first-timers is to call the club and ask specific questions about attire. We called the place twice and both times they were very helpful. Their advice to her was to bring more than one outfit so she could ‘adjust her exposure’ as the environment or mood dictated. First timers, our advice is to wear what both of you feel comfortable in! It can be hard enough the first time so you don’t need the added wardrobe stress!

 

When we arrived at the club, Mrs. Together got very nervous so we sat in the car a bit. Despite putting a lot of effort to arrange this event (farming kids out, blocking off the weekend, etc) and really wanting this to happen, I reminded the Mrs. that we could pull the plug and not go in if she wanted. First timers – remember that you are doing it at the pace of the slowest partner, so respect that!

 

The night started slowly, and despite many posts on this site encouraging newbies to ‘get out there and socialize’, we stayed to ourselves. Part of that was the clientele – we really didn’t see any couples who we were mutually attracted to. We finally broke the ice accidentally when we were getting a drink and struck up a conversation with a single woman who had come with friends. She WAS really friendly and helpful, put us at ease, and encouraged us to have fun.

 

As the night wore on, we were coming to the conclusion that we’d probably not end up playing with others, and as somewhat of a break from hanging out downstairs, decided to head to the play area and fool around with each other – partly to break the barrier of doing something in public, but also to burn off some sexual tension. When we got upstairs, the place was pretty much empty so we went into one of the ‘smaller’ group rooms. I figured I’d get her off fairly quickly with some oral pleasure and head back downstairs – WRONG! The next thing I realize as I lift my head for a moment is that we’ve got a full house watching our action. The Mrs. could see them but couldn’t care less. Moments later, our female friend who we had met earlier appeared and very politely asked if she could join us. The Mrs. checked in with me (a nice courtesy to me, but our rules included the rule ‘if one welcomed someone to join in, the other would too’). Surprised to see my bi-hesitant-but-curious wife accept the invitation only got me more turned on! The play focused primarily on Mrs. Together, but she also eagerly reciprocated with our new BEST friend. After both women were sated, the three of us unwound by talking about what we just did. Simply put, it was an almost surreal and exhilarating experience.

 

When we returned downstairs, I was amazed by the feeling of confidence I felt about talking to others. I guess having naked sex in front of a bunch of people is a great way to tear down one’s inhibitions! We chatted a bit and danced some, and spent some time doing some ‘watching’ ourselves up in the play areas. It wasn’t too long before we decided to head back up and resume our play. By now the play area was packed with couples playing and others watching. The three of us found a room and with no inhibitions, stripped back down to our beautiful nakedness. Now I’m new to this, so I can only assume that being a threesome had a certain appeal, because almost instantly we had another packed room watching us. Mrs. Together amazed me with her absolute indifference about being the center of attention and showed no inhibitions whatsoever whether she was receiving or giving, whether it was to me or her. Our friend made it clear early on that she preferred women, so the women were the focal point of the play, but that by no means meant that I wasn’t participating or given ample attention by both partners. I enjoyed both Mrs. Together and our friend completely and when we were spent, relaxed on the bed and resumed our conversation about all sorts of things. It was great. First timers, if you can cowboy up and break the ice, you'll be surprised how much easier it is than you think!

 

Mrs. Together and I talked afterwards and both confided that neither of us felt any misgivings, resentment, or jealousy whatsoever. It was a mutually exhilarating experience because we did it together. We’re already discussing where we should go next, looking at contacting a couple on SLS and attending a local event. I think with the first club experience behind us, meeting a new LS couple feels so much less stressful and going to a LS event equally so.

 

We still have more to experience and assess – since our first event was only with another woman, I have yet to measure my feelings of seeing Mrs. Together being taken by another man, and neither of us were apart from each other so the first full swap may bring out different feelings. We’ve talked about this, but from our initial responses, feel good about moving forward.

 

We would be remiss in not thanking that beautiful woman who helped us break the ice. For veterans out there who may stumble upon hapless rookies like us, you may not realize how much help you are in guiding newbies through the first time. Thanks!

 

First timers – if you’ve talked it out fully, are BOTH about equally interested in trying the lifestyle, and have a strong and healthy relationship that is grounded in mutual respect, trust and open communication, I strongly encourage you to take the final, and clearly the most difficult step, and give it a try!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I'm so glad you had a fantastic first time. And thanks for sharing it with us!

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

TwoTogether, congratulations on taking the leap! It sounds like you learned some exciting things about each other last weekend, and had a hot experience to boot (well, actually a couple of hot experiences).

 

It's great that you two feel emboldened to try a swapping situation with a couple. May your first swap experience be as great as your first FMF!

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We still remember how hard it was to get the courage up to take those first steps and then later how silly we were in looking back at how hard we thought it was to get that courage up. Congratulations on a great outcome.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

 

Congratulations! That first walk from the car to the club's front door can seem like the green mile, but for most couples it is so very worth it. Great job, and great advice for other new swingers as well!

[kikonkrome 844]

[enhancer 1,586]

Great story to hear! Thanks for sharing and good luck on your coming experiences together.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I would send my wish out to everybody and anybody that a first experience would go this well. I am sincerely happy for you.