1st time visiting club

[Bradkelly 16]

This weekend is our first time visiting a swinger club . What should we expect and what should our expectations should be ???

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Welcome to the board!

 

A quick question first: Is it an on-premises or off-premises club?

(On-Premises=Rooms for sex at the club. Off-premises=No sex at the club)

[Bradkelly 16]

I would Say on Premises Club .

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Hi and welcome to the forum, Bradkelly. I think this thread:

 

What advice do you have for newbies going to a swingers club for the first time?

 

can answer some of your questions.

 

My personal advice would be to not expect anything except to enjoy the company of your spouse. I would even take playing with others off of the list. Conversation with others is great, if you two are comfortable with that. Take in the atmosphere. Play with each other if you two get excited. But just take a look, relax, and see if you like the sexy environment and the club. Clubs differ so you may like some and not like others.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Some people worry that "putting on a performance" or "putting out" will be expected. It will not. Simply talking to people to learn things about them and have pleasant conversation is perfectly acceptable. Keep your eyes open and ask questions when you have them. You'll be amazed.

[Guest]

It is like going to the pool. Before you walk in, decide whether you are just going for a tan, just want to wade and stay cool or ready to use the diving board....

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Hello Bradkelly, and welcome to SwingersBoard! You don't mention whether you two are experienced in the lifestyle, or if you are new to swinging as well as the club. Either way, the club will be a new experience for you!

 

On your first visit to a swinger club, you can expect to see some friendly people! In our experience, some nights/clubs people are more outgoing to those they haven't met, and other times people tend to stick more with their established friends. But if you are friendly and outgoing yourselves, you will definitely meet some new people! Hopefully you will get to know some folks, and they will get to know you. But don't be concerned about any expectation that couples who talk to you will expect to go have sex with you. They may hope for it if you all click, and eventually they may even ask if you'd like to go to a playroom. But of course you are free to decline any offers that might come your way.

 

The club will likely have a number of playrooms, perhaps with different themes or setups. There might be a room with a lot of beds for larger groups to play. There may be rooms with couches added that allow other people to watch the action, or rooms with windows that allow folks passing by outside to see what's going on. If your club is like the clubs I've visited, there will be a room with a sex swing of some kind, a "doctor's room" with an examination table and stirrups, and possibly a "dungeon room" with setups for restraints near the bed or a St. Andrew's Cross to chain someone up to. As the evening progresses, you will probably notice the playrooms getting more use, and perhaps a few people about the rest of the club in various states of undress.

 

If you do decide to go to a playroom (and it would be fun to do that, with just your spouse, or with others in the event that you're comfortable), here's a bit of protocol to keep in mind. If you close the door behind you, then others people are going to leave you alone in the room, and not disturb you. You will probably be able to hear the goings-on in other rooms nearby, which many people find to be a big turn-on! If you go in to a playroom and decide to leave the door open, you are extending an invitation to others to watch, and possibly to come in and join you. Other people will still ask before actually coming in, or before joining the action. Whatever invitations you make, or openness you express in conversation, the key here is that everyone is expected to be respectful and courteous, to ask permission before doing anything, and to respect the fact that "no" means "no" at all times!

 

Have fun, and let us know how it goes!

[Bradkelly 16]

1st trip to swingers club was a success. We will be visiting it again in the future. We checked in and found a table and had some drinks. Hour later we started walking around and watching things unfold.

 

So my girlfriend and I were watching others and talking to others. So her and I found a chair. She sat on my lap and I pulled her skirt up and we started playing with each other. While people were doing same thing next to us and walking by and watching us.

 

After we finished, we got some more drinks and walked around watching others. We walked in this real tight room with others in it. The couple we were talking to earlier in night was in a MMF act. She was sucking her husband and getting it from behind. It turned us on by watching it. We walked off and found a big couch. My girlfriend started giving me oral and another couple kneeled down next to her. The other couple started doing the same thing we were doing. The other lady turned her ass towards me. I rubbed her ass and started fingering her while she was sucking her man.

 

Next thing I knew her and my girl was kissing and sucking on each others breasts. My girl climbed in my lap and spread her legs. The other girl started licking her pussy and her husband was fucking her doggie style while she was eating my girl out. My girl squirted and cummed all over. People were walking by and watching and commenting on how they liked it. When she cummed she was vocal and sexy.

 

We finished and left club. Got to car and my girlfriend gave me head back to hotel while driving. Got in room and fucked several times and got off more. Next morning we got off more. We were wore out. We talked and said we will definitely be back to club. It was a great success for being newbies.

[GoldCoCouple 4,065]

Thanks for the follow up and it's great to hear that your first experience was...memorable!