Where do we go from here?

[sexyinakilt 47]

You can read about our minimal experience here: We did it......kinda We aren't brand new but have never interacted with others. We have had sex in front of and close to other people but that's all.

 

So where do we go from here? Maggie's fantasy is being touched by many hands. I think it is a good next step. My scenario was her in the sex swing at our local club. We have used it before with great results. I would lick her pussy and finger her to a squirting orgasm while another couple touches her and pinches and bites her nipples. Once she gets off I would usually fuck her until I cum or she will finish me with a blow job. The other couple could continue touching, pinching and biting her nipples while I finish.

 

She also has interest in MFM 3some but that is way further down the road. Do you think another couple would like to get involved in a scenario like that without any genital contact with us or us with them?

 

We only go to clubs now so no online looking for people or any other avenues. Opinions? Suggestions? Questions? Bring them all on.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I think if you want to experience the things you've listed, you may want to open yourselves up to some other avenues to meet people. Are you reluctant to meet people through a swinger "dating" or "hookup" site? You can set up a profile there describing exactly what you are looking for, fantasy-wise, and including the fact that you are not interested in full swap (genital-to-genital contact between swapped partners). And you can arrange to meet in a safe, public place like a crowded restaurant or bar. You can also use your membership in one of those sites to help you find groups that hold meet and greets in your area.

 

The club-only method may work eventually for you two, with the possibility of more disappointments in between, as that can be kind of a hit-or-miss proposition for meeting compatible couples.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I think this is definitely possible at a club. I think you should just put it out there to people you are flirting with. We are full-swap, but this scenario is definitely something we would participate in and be respectful of your boundaries.

 

When you meet people just be honest about what you would like to happen and what your boundaries are. Be sure the people you are engaging have not had too much to drink.

[sexyinakilt 47]

We are reluctant to do the online thing. From what we have read here it is very time consuming and an exercise in frustration. We haven't seen much success from what we read here. Meet and greets sound like a possible Avenue to try.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We are reluctant to do the online thing. From what we have read here it is very time consuming and an exercise in frustration. We haven't seen much success from what we read here. Meet and greets sound like a possible Avenue to try.

I know some people here have talked about having limited success online. I think that is far from a universal assessment. We have had our frustrations from time to time, but we have met a lot of great people online! I think I can honestly say that most of the people we've met in the lifestyle, we can trace back to an online contact with them, or with someone who is friends with them.

 

It doesn't take all that much time to create a profile, and you can join SLS as a free member. Moreover, you are of course under no obligation to write to others, and endure the possible frustration that some have talked about. But having the profile there on SLS will allow you to look there for groups that hold meet and greets in your area. Also, when you do meet people in a club, it's sometimes handy to be able to refer them to your SLS profile.

 

Of course, it's completely up to you how to proceed. I will only say that trying something different from what you have been is the best way to get a different outcome!

[sexyinakilt 47]

Thanks everyone for your input.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

We are reluctant to do the online thing. From what we have read here it is very time consuming and an exercise in frustration. We haven't seen much success from what we read here. Meet and greets sound like a possible Avenue to try.

 

My wife and I found the opposite to be true. We are also very very new to this, though it is something we have discussed many many times throughout our relationship. Going to a club was not really an option for us as I normally do not like crowds, get real nervous and despise music that is too loud and dancing. We decided to try the online thing and met with and had our first full swap with another couple in under a week. I admit that is pretty fast and maybe not for everyone but it worked well for us as we have both wanted this for a long time and just had issues admitting it to each other or even when we did we would get last minute nerves and back out from even signing up. Now that we did and the first couple that contacted us was attractive to both of us and we really clicked well with them, we are much more at ease. We have had quite a few other couples contact us on the site and they were all very understanding that we are new and seeing how things go with our first couple before we set anything else up. When we explained this to them they responded very positively saying they look forward to hearing from us when we are ready. Even the couple we did hook up with was very nice, polite, not pushy, willing to give us space to talk when we needed it and merely offering to let us come back to their place if we wanted. Even once we were there, it felt like no pressure. The option to get up and leave at any time was there.

[Baconheads 438]

We are reluctant to do the online thing. From what we have read here it is very time consuming and an exercise in frustration. We haven't seen much success from what we read here. Meet and greets sound like a possible Avenue to try.

 

We have had decent success on both AFF and SLS. They're not for everybody. Yeah, you can spend a ridiculous amount of time there if you don't watch it.