How many times can you go in an evening?

[findinganswers 369]

A question or is it a fear has been in my head. How many times can I get up in an evening. I really don't have a problem but am afraid as we may get more into swinging, what are the expectations? My wife and I have sex most days. When the kids were younger, we would start the day before they got up. It was our hour. Many nights it was when we went to bed.

 

Now we have just started this new life with friends. I am not sure what is expected. I find that if we know we are meeting our friends for sex, we will abstain the night before and that day. I find I am trying to impress my new sex partner by holding back cumming. And when I do cum, I am usually good to go a second time in not that long of a time. My second ejaculation is never as big or as strong as my first. My wife knows there is another couple we know, we aren't sure who they are yet, that our friends play with. They want to have both couples over. My fear is what are the expectations?

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I think if you can go two rounds, you're doing pretty good! We have had evenings where I went one round, two rounds, or even three rounds, and it's been just fine each time. I know of only one person who I play with, who has expressed an expectation of me going multiple rounds with her. That's not to say that there aren't many women who would love to play with a guy who can orgasm several times during a play date,! But I think most women understand the physiology of this, and will not hold it against you if you can't get it up a second or third time. Besides, you can always please them in other ways!

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

I can usually go 3 to 4 times myself. Normally, with the wife, it's late at night and I have to get up in the morning so it's one and pass out. However, if we are able to drop our daughter off at one of her grandparents and have an afternoon to ourselves, I'll go 3-4 times. During our first encounter last week where we ended up full swapping, I lasted 3 times as well. I probably could have gone for another but the other couple was done. She was a very heavy squirter and we had soaked every towel they owned after my third round.

 

The other guy was one and done. This left my wife less than totally satisfied but she still wants to see them again, so it was not that big of a deal. I think she was also less than satisfied because everyone was so nervous and not performing at their best. She still had a great time and he was able to still get her off multiple times through oral and I gave her a few myself in the middle of round 2 and the beginning of round 3. So she still had plenty of fun.

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Once is usually all that is needed. Usually after both men have one shot, we (as in all four of us) have always just started wrapping the evening up at that point. More than once has never really been an option.

[kikonkrome 844]

I think if you can go two rounds, you're doing pretty good! We have had evenings where I went one round, two rounds, or even three rounds, and it's been just fine each time.

 

I can usually go 3 to 4 times myself.

 

I am normally good for multiple. What normally happens is the other guy is done after one, or none. Depending how long that takes I am in the round one or two mode. Then when I go home with the wife there is round three and four. I will readily admit I get a bit 'overly' worked up, but the wife enjoys it.

 

We only had one experience where that was different and we spent the night with a couple. That was just a lot of rounds for all of us.

 

I think most expectations are for one, but if things are taking a while and you are up for it go for a second!! I do!!

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

I guess I should have stated as well that after my first round, it did seem like the other couple expected it to be over, so they were not really expecting a round 2....or 3. My wife knew better though and after the ladies played together some more she noticed me coming back and put it in her mouth. She does this so well that they started getting ready for more just watching her. Since they are still very new at this as well and mostly done MFM and Hotwifeing, I do not think they had seen anything quite like it. He even said, "I never thought hearing a woman gag on cock would be such a turn-on."

 

Pretty much the same thing happened after round 2 as well, you could tell they thought we were done, however some soft play from my wife got me back up in no time and round 3 happened. At this point though, I could tell they were not sure if there would be a 4th or not and mentioned that the towels were all used up, something that had not happened to them before.

 

So all in all, I wouldn't worry about it. The expectation was obviously for one and done. If you can go for more, it will likely be appreciated but not expected.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

If you are in a party situation it shouldn't be a problem since you can let someone else take a turn until you get hard again. If it is more intimate than there is nothing wrong with taking a break until you are ready to go again.

[love2dp 52]

Totally depends on the hornyness of the female. If she is turned on big time and wanting more fun and is all hot and bothered I can go more then a couple times. I'll be shooting blanks after two times but I'll still get my cock hard and fuck. Especially if we are DP or DVPing. I'll always get hard for that.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Mind you that we aren't speaking from that experience, but Mrs. EastInWest likes to be fucked until the man is done. She's always been that way. After a while, if I don't recover quickly enough, she calms down and realizes she's satisfied, typically loses interest in going again. She climaxes quickly and is always content whether it was a 5 minute or a 45 minute session. Our assumption is that if she had multiple partners available, she'd be wet and happy until she ran out of cock, whether it's twice or five times.

 

I don't think most adult men routinely go more than once or twice a night, so I wouldn't worry about this.

 

I will say, though, that the "Coolidge effect" is real. I had a single "hat trick" Saturday in my mid-20s, where I woke up with a regular partner from the night before, had lunch with an old lady friend, and had a dinner date that evening, and in each case, the fact that it was a new, enthusiastic partner was more than enough to get my body into gear for a fresh session as if nothing else had already happened that day. In a setting where other people are having sex, as well, I'd think that signal would be very strong.

[afterwork 89]

In our younger days, almost all the guys were good for three times. Years later, just two. As seniors we are awful thankful for daily Cialis and that our ladies are bi.

 

Hey, we're still having fun.

[intuition897 2,179]

I'm going to have someone call BS on this one, but Mr. intuition recalled one playdate we had with our first full-swap couple. We were in separate rooms, so he told me about it the next morning (over a very big cup of coffee). He said he lost track of how many rounds they went, but it was way more than 3. I seem to remember him saying it was something like 6 or 7. Apparently, she just wouldn't leave him be. "I don't know how she did it," he said, "but she had this hand-job technique that just got me hard again, like, within a few minutes!" He was amazed, and almost annoyed by the end of the night. As in, "What, AGAIN??" I don't think he's ever had that happen before or since. I wish I had asked her to teach me her trick!

 

Anyway, I just had to get that out there. It's certainly not typical. Usually the gentleman can muster 2-3 rounds if we're spending a whole evening with another couple. If the chemistry's especially good, maybe 3-4 times. We never really concerned ourselves with expectations; we just focused on what everyone felt like doing. It depends a great deal on individual preferences, personalities and physical make-up. Due to the nature of penises and their whims, it seems like common sense to not put all one's eggs in that basket anyway; there is plenty of fun to be had while someone is recovering, or if someone is satisfied with one go-round.

[Sophy 569]

Hard question, it depends of the situation and/or chemistry; boys can go from 1 to 4 in a single evening. A good-fun same-room foursome experience where we take turns and quick breaks can last a good couple of hours or so. Same way a separate-room experience, sometimes is OK only one time, other times the chemistry is so high that we can go multiple times.

[padoc 1,703]

We only go once, usually after we and our partners have cum several times!!

[Bob250 74]

I can usually be counted on for between 2 and 4 go-arounds. GF is happy with 1 or 2, then she gets cuddly.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

We only go once, usually after we and our partners have cum several times!!

Not that way with me. After I cum once, I only go several times.

 

Oh, hell. I have no idea what I'm talking about.

[Guest]

I think of it like a Margarita. If the bartender makes you a really good one, nice and strong, a little Grand Marnier added for flavor, then you just sip it slowly, enjoy and one will do you. On the other hand, if the guy making the drinks is just banging them out, then you may need two or three.

[insatiablem4u 22]

Since I'm making myself at home on this board, I might as well post my experience here. With a couple one is normal, two is a nice bonus.

 

However, I once had six orgasms in a 24 hour period at a house party in NC. The whole experience was a lesson in debauchery though and I was 25 so go figure.

[willyoats 324]

Our most common Saturday night at our club goes like this: We start out with 2 or 3 guys (including me) and my wife. Then we each have another partner in separate rooms, or occasionally same bed. Then, when we get home about 3 a.m., I get one more quickie with my very best lover.

[FunOzCouple 40]

Depend how many guys its with. I've had a guy come 4 times and last over 5 hours

[reo 17]

3or 4

[couplers 4,656]

... I will say, though, that the "Coolidge effect" is real... the fact that it was a new, enthusiastic partner was more than enough to get my body into gear for a fresh session as if nothing else had already happened that day...

 

Same with us in our poly family. The guys can go multiple rounds more easily when switching to a new woman.

[Guest]

Usually 2 or 3 times depending how long we have.

[Curious1968 19]

Well depends on how much time we are talking about. I have trouble getting hard after the first time.

[robaval 220]

For me, always two times when we meet a couple, one with other lady and once with Julie... When it is a 4 couple party, always three times at the party if the other three ladies are cool and often a 4th reclaim session when Julie and I get home after a 4 couple party.