Can you succeed in swinging being overweight?

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Hello, both me and my wife are overweight. She is probably 240 at 5'5", I am 300 at 6'2". Medical reasons are part to blame. We see all weights of people at the clubs we go too. We realize we won't appeal to everyone. But, can we successfully swing at our weights we are? How much does weight factor into a decision? We're both great players in bed. Any tips for being more successful besides losing weight? We know weight loss would help but it's not an option at this time. We have a party to go to Saturday that we want to try to improve our odds at. Thanks for the help!

[sunbuckus 3,567]

We've seen couples of many shapes and sizes. My best advice would be to be confident and happy with yourselves. Be friendly and conversational with others. Will there be people who will not want to play with you because of your weight? Sure, but there will also be people who do prefer your size or desire more than just looks when swapping. Just go out and have fun. Try not to be caught up in the pressure to play.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

Keep in mind that for many personality is a much bigger thing than looks. I am this way myself. A great personality can turn a 2 into a 10 and a bad personality can turn a 10 into a 2.

[kikonkrome 844]

Sure weight is going to be an issue...meh but so can too skinny, believe or not.

 

Make sure you both wear flattering clothing. It is really easy to wear stuff that's too tight when you are heavy. Make sure you also dress to impress. Nothing worse than an overweight couple wearing sweat pants.

 

Grow some thick skin an be friendly. For sure you are going to get some poor reactions, but people that a HWP do as well. Just grow some thick skin and power through it.

 

I also agree there are going to be couple's there that are more interested in personality than anything else.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

We know a couple that has been swinging for quite a few years. They are both in your size range. They're like damn rabbits. They are always hooking up with new couples, regular couples, and unicorns (yes, really).

 

The secret to their success? In my opinion, it is because they are active in clubs and online. They invest the time to find others. They are friendly and approach others, but not overbearing. They know their strike zone. They are in it for fun, and don't worry about it when they have a night where things don't line up in their favor.

 

So yeah, success is very possible.

[sexyhornycouple 122]

We definitely are meticulous with our looks. Nice clothes, shoes, clean body, hair styled, freshly showered, and looking nice. Flattering clothes as best we can. It's a tough find for clothes that fit well. But, we have the best we can afford. All new. We've not had great success online. We haven't even met a couple for a date since last summer. We mostly go to a club locally. Play is very hit and miss. We'd like to form a circle of friends. This party Saturday is the first house party in 3 years we've been invited too. We want to look and feel our best. This is why I wrote asking this question. The guest list shows most people thinner than us as well as younger. So it concerns us.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

The guest list shows most people thinner than us as well as younger. So it concerns us.

 

You said most so I'm assuming you also saw some that aren't thin on the list. Also, keep in mind that some couples keep older pictures on their online profiles. We're currently guilty of this ourselves and we definitely need to get some new pictures up. Look at it this way though...you said you were invited to this party which means your company is desired.

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Judging by pics, probably 95% are thinner. But, it's hard to tell if their pics are current. We are hoping the extra effort we put out in the coming weeks will net us some new friends.

[shy_couple 459]

We are a fluffy couple as well. We have much more miss than hit but likes everyone here has said overconfident. Put yourself out there. Be social and extroverted. Clothing is tough. Something flattering can be a challenge but clean and neat should be fine. One thing that we OCD a little about is hygiene. The only thing worse than looking sweaty fat guy is smelling like a sweaty fat guy. (Speaking of myself not you.)

[sexyhornycouple 122]

Our hygiene is definitely top notch. I'm also a guy that never has had the sweaty guy problem. But, the typical guy like that is bigger than me. I am big boned and tall. Even losing weight, I'd still be over 200 lbs. But I am big in the belly and hips. No double folds. Well tonight is the night. Clothes are picked out. We will update you tomorrow on how it went. Thanks everyone.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I can tell you that we've met, been turned on by, and played with people of a wide range of sizes. Having a friendly, comfortable, sexy personality counts for quite a bit with us, and I suspect, with many other people as well. If you do get into a play situation, just be ready to suggest positions that work for you!

 

Good luck, you two!

[sexyhornycouple 122]

To update everyone, we went and had a great time. Some folks need to change their profile pics. We felt a little better once we arrived. Most people were still thinner than us but were bigger than their profile pics showed. We didn't make a connection for play. However, I didn't see anyone else playing that evening as well. Hope we get another invite in the future. We enjoyed socializing. Our next option is to go back to the club we attend occasionally. We really prefer to meet couples one on one, but, it seems no one likes that anymore. We answer ads on sls, but the typical responses are usually just say hi to us if you see us at the clubs. Hope we can meet a couple eventually.