Meeting without seeing pics first??

[Jnk4play 17]

This one couple messages us, only changed 2 brief emails and quickly suggested meeting without seeing our pics or sharing theirs with us....is it us, or isn't that a bit strange? I think a few emails, exchange of picks, and then decide if all are on board with liking each others looks...

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I can understand wanting to get to a first meeting without a whole lot of conversation back and forth first. But it is a little odd to want to get together without either ever seeing a picture of the other. If we get to the point of planning a meetup before they share a picture, I ask for one- just so we can pick them out of the crowd at the restaurant!

[enhancer 1,586]

Not a chance for us! If they don't at least have body pics of both of them on their profile we won't even start a conversation with them. The face pic exchange also must come fast or we just are not going to bother. It isn't all about looks, but if we can't see who we are talking to we don't want to be talking.

 

We have tons of pictures of both of us on our profile including face pics that all our friends can see! We expect to see them back from people that contact us. We get messages daily from people with no pics or just junk shots saying they want to meet. We all want to be discreet in this lifestyle, but nobody is that special that they should think it is okay to see the other people without giving them something to see back. People like this are a joke and not someone we take serious at all.

 

Often when they send us a message saying love your pics and we would like to meet you we just reply thanks, but we have no idea what you look like so why would we want to meet? If they respond that they are not comfortable giving pics out till they get to know people then the conversation is over. They can already see us so we need to be on equal terms and see them as well to continue.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

You'll need to follow your instinct in a situation like this. And other factors might influence a decision to meet or not to meet. My wife and I have agreed on more than one occasion to meet people whose pictures we have not seen and who will agree to meet us at a place that is near to where we live -- i.e. no big investment in time or motor fuel. This small investment has more than once returned a big dividend.

[cplnluv1 874]

Not only are pictures a must, it has to be a g rated picture of them together. How many times do you see the female in some crazy position in one or more pics and his cock in another. If you can have those I am sure you can have a normal couple picture

[njbm 2,906]

I would like to see a normal face picture just to make sure that their head is not penetrated by a steel spike and that they do not have a communicable dermatological condition.

 

Seriously, we have played with couples who are charming and sexual dynamos who, had we seen their pictures, we never would have met. Looks are overrated.

[njbm 2,906]

We met these peoples at parties. We do want to see face pix before an Internet date.

[Jnk4play 17]

Thanks for all the replies....we won't put a face picture on SLS but have no problem sharing it in email if it comes to that. A couple years back we did chat with a man twice and we chatted with him together and expected to also chat once or twice with his wife before meeting yet his wife was "never available" so needless to say we never met him lol. I know we don't need to chat forever but I think a couple emails, a phone call with all parties to be sure it's truly a couple, and a real picture would be nice. In no way am I saying that we need to talk for a month but I definitely want to feel slightly comfortable before meeting and especially want to know who to look for.

[shy_couple 460]

We did it a couple of times and made it a requirement after that to always ask for pics.

 

Those who said it's not all about looks are correct but if we are totally eyes and dental people. You can be the hottest person/couple out there but if you have crazy eyes, we are going to steer clear. The otherwise teeth, sorry but not interested.

 

We prefer to be a bit discreet. We post several picks, mostly PG or PG-13, publicly. Also full (clothed) body shots with our faces blurred out. If interested, we open up our face pic gallery but do not send thru general email exchange. On SLS, that means we really rule out non-paid members.

[Jnk4play 17]

I take it that most won't reply to free members? Is there a reason for this? We may go paid but want to be sure it's worth the monthly before doing so.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We don't have a particular bias against free members. We read the profiles, and judge them on their merits.

[TwoFunTexans 103]

We're a free member and don't have an issue.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We rarely look to see if a couple is a free or paying member, but we do insist on a picture of at least their faces so we can find them at that first meeting. We like meeting rather quickly instead of spending too much time with emails and the like...5 minutes in person will ALWAYS tell you more than any amount of emails, chatting or texting. If we don't know what you look like, it would be almost impossible to figure out who you are when we meet (uh, excuse us but are you the other couple we are supposed to be meeting from the online swinging website? No, oh, nevermind...and we were just joking about the swinging website).

[AngelandTiger 364]

Looks aren't everything. However, they're SOMETHING. We really do need to see a pic before we decide if we'll meet to decide whether we'll play.

 

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[AskMeOk 148]

We have absolutely no problem with no pics. For years, we didn't do them, either. We've made quite a few good friends that we would probably have turned down based solely on pics....

[shy_couple 460]

I take it that most won't reply to free members? Is there a reason for this? We may go paid but want to be sure it's worth the monthly before doing so.

 

We reply to, and have met, free members but it makes it tough to exchange pics, or share galleries with free members. Especially if both sides are trying to discreet and don't post face pics publicly.

 

We just won't exchange pics thru private email.

 

Not a bias against free members ers but, for us at least, it shows a level of seriousness and allows us to maintain some level of discretion.

[Fundamental Law 2,903]

There is a "blind date" flavor to this conversation. In 2016, not sending a simple g-rated shot of a couple in a public setting--the sort of photo that would not merit a second glance on any account--seems distinctly odd. Easy enough to create a disposable email address, and a random g-rated photo from pi31415926535@phimail.com is hardly transcendent.

[MrMarvin 268]

We do require a simple G rated photo or two in order to pick the couple out at a meeting and see if there is at least some basic attraction. Outside of that, we really have no initial interest to get wrapped up in lengthy email exchanges or texts. We've tried that and just don't like it as we prefer to organically meet the couple without the use of today's gadgets. Also to us it seems many couples who want to engage in excessive electronic communuctions are either tire kickers or the man without the woman involved. Just our approach and not necessarily the right or only way.

 

MrMarvin

[BuiltForSin 66]

For a one-on-one meeting (we rarely do these with couples we have not met after being stood up so many times) pics are an *absolute* must. Attraction is not everything and neither is breathing for living, but it is one of the requirements. We are not looking for a soul mate, we are looking for sex

 

If someone just can't seem to share a photo we point them to the "hot date" calendar and say "There is a public meet and greet, if you go lets us know, we will make an effort to be there"

 

so far we are batting zero percent with those who don't have pics.

[econobiker 165]

Due to Red's privacy concerns and body image issues (non-standard body shape of a smaller BBW-thin legs, small breasts but larger belly) I've almost given up trying to get her to allow g, pg, r or x pictures for a profile much less getting any profiles up again.

 

[she also is concerned about privacy to the extent of shredding the address parts of junk mail addressed to us, yet I can't convince her to live more "off the grid" by obscuring, (using legal methods such as trusts, etc) our personal information such as driver license addresses, vehicle tag addresses, etc.]

 

One main thing, whether pictures exist or not, is to voice or video chat verify that a couple or female are what they say they are and not just a single male behind the profile.

[njbm 2,906]

Can free members on SLS see my private gallery if I in-private it?

[BuiltForSin 66]

Can free members on SLS see my private gallery if I in-private it?

 

Free members can only see your public galleries, even if you allow them to view your private galleries they will be prevented.

 

The one exception is that if you reply or send a message you can select one of your public or private (but not personal) pictures to send them with the message.