Does body size matter?

[Ticketyboo 21]

My Husband and I were wondering if other couples or singles on here are worried about their body size when approaching new people or indeed attending parties, clubs or whatever. You see my Husband is still average body mass however, I have put on a few extra pounds through my years but, still consider myself sexy with divine breasts which are my favourite assets on my body however, when we go on various forums here the adverts and links all portray lovely bodies both from women and men. Would be interesting to have some feed back on this. Kind Regards Andrena And Gus x

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

In my experience so far, people of all sizes and shapes are welcome, enjoyed and successful in the lifestyle! I know that body image concern is not an easy barrier to overcome. My Mrs. struggled with that at first as well, as she has gained a few pounds since her youth. And even though I would tell her how hot and beautiful she looked, she never really wanted to believe it from me ("You have to say that- you're married to me!"). The two things that turned it around for her were:

 

-Spending some time in a clothing-optional setting (clothing-optional resorts and a cruise, and a nudist resort). The open, friendly acceptance of those settings served to assure her that she had nothing to be ashamed or concerned about. And seeing all the other naked people, big and small, smooth and wrinkly, fat and skinny, young and old, all letting it all hang out, loud and proud, taught us both a lesson in relaxing!

 

- By now, the Mrs. has played with a fair number of guys (and a few women to boot!). She has heard words of praise for her smokin' hotness from many more people now, not just me. And I think she's finally starting to believe it!

 

Don't pay too much attention to the models in the ads. The real swingers you will meet will be regular people, just like you and me! And you will be all kinds of hot to the people at the party!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Everything above is true - all are accepted in the Lifestyle, and even those who know that, many still continue to struggle at times with some form of insecurity. It's just human nature I guess.

 

Advertising is just that, advertising. Just like how the reality never turns out to be quite what the ads show on any other product, it's the same on personals sites. I've often thought the same thing to myself - why don't they use real people that actually look like what they are trying to sell, i.e. sex with real people?? I'm not an advertising guru though, and they all do it, so from that I've concluded that when it comes to ads, fantasy must work better than reality.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

It is unfortunate that if an ad (for anything) showed older, overweight people then whatever they are selling won't attract as much attention. Ads will ALWAYS feature young skinny attractive people, it's just a fact of life. Now as to your question: What do swingers look like (I'm paraphrasing)? Look at the average people that surround you every day. Now picture them naked. Swingers, just like everyone else, come in ALL shapes and sizes. At the same time, there are people who love different shapes and sizes. Once you go to a club, a meet and greet, a swingers resort, or cruise you will quickly realize that you aren't that bad (and better than some). Personally, we (both Mr and Ms Gold) happen to really like curves on a woman and aren't interested in those skinny sticks in most ads (afraid that they could be broken ). Don't worry, you'll be just fine...

[Guest]

Swingers look a lot like the people you see at the mall, at work and at the kids soccer field. The very fit runners tend to hang with one another as do the weight lifters and exercise addicts. Those who enjoy being larger tend to match up with those others who enjoy similar as do couples where one fits into one category and the other fits into another. There are plenty enough of all body types to go around and allow for happiness and satisfaction of all.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Ticketyboo, I saw you...over in the photos section. From what we saw, you are off to a very good start and looked just fine ...

[enhancer 1,586]

To the self proclaimed above average super fit couples that never actually meet anybody good enough for them it matters! The good thing though is there are very few people like that in the lifestyle and they are easy to pick out and avoid. Most people in the lifestyle are very normal average folks with some curves of their own. Just be happy and confident with who you are and you will find others that will want to enjoy spending time with you. The people that are not interested are not worth losing any sleep over. Their loss.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

Beauty is only skin deep, sexy comes from deeper inside.