Misleading profile?

[Mrs mph 27]

Hi

A couple started messaging us some while ago! We exchanged messages and pictures and arranged a social meet.

We thought they were great!

However after an hour or so they broke the news that the male of the couple never plays!

Not because he doesn't want to but because his wife is too jealous so he just watches.

We feel they should have this on their profile or at least told us before we met them.

That scenario is not great for me as I only like a little female play but still want to play with the male.

So opinions please?

[kikonkrome 844]

Yes,they should have stated that in their profile and not led you to believe something else.

 

We have had similar experiences and it is annoying. Also sex is about trust, intimacy, etc. So if they are passively not being directly upfront that they are a full swap couple what else do they have?

 

We would for sure take a pass.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I would declare bullshit! It's bad enough to have a couples profile that fails to indicate that one partner doesn't play. It's worse that they did not disclose this to you right away, misleading you into thinking that they were a couple you might be able to swap with if you all hit it off. Were I in your shoes, I would pass on further get-togethers- politely, if I could manage it!

[ViSexual 1,008]

I've always felt that, if you want to meet couples or singles who are what you expect, be as honest and complete in who you are and what you're looking for.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I agree, that sucks on their part to be holding back info like that. One half of them doesn't play at all? Uhhh, yeah, that's something you owe it to people to get out there up front right in your profile.

 

If you all hit it off great, maybe you could keep them as friends, but I'll be honest, we probably wouldn't. Maybe fair, maybe not, but the reason for that is when people do one thing that demonstrates they really don't care about whether they are holding up their end of the deal or not, that probably won't be the only time.

[enhancer 1,587]

I will never understand couples where only one person is allowed to play, but to each their own! Not my problem.

 

Regardless though for gods sake if that is your deal put it on your profile so people will know if they want to bother spending any time getting to know you.

[Alura 2,775]

Laura would have delved deeply into their reasons for such a lop-sided decision. She would, of course, not have been interested in a couple wherein she couldn't have sex with the guy. We would have thanked them and wished them a long and happy life.

 

I suspect there are unspoken issues with that couple, and that's a red flag.

[wearetheone1967 40]

I have edited our profile at least 4 times on SLS and AFF since we got into this. The wife is slowly changing her views about things and opening up. She was cautious and guarded about me with "other women", due to an ugly 'cheating' incident when we were younger on my part. 20 years later, and the old wounds are still there, but bless her soul, she is trying to be as drama free as possible.

 

We are looking for married couples only. Once I decided I didn't want a true unicorn, I stumbled upon one. I didn't even have to burn a shed down either (another thread on here). Life is strange sometimes.

 

FYI, we use the same username on all the various sites we are one. search us out, and say "hi!"

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

I didn't need to burn down the shed? And we still haven't found a unicorn...

[Alura 2,775]

We never found a need for a "unicorn." We did our threesomes with our play couple when one was not available. It was fun on top of fun!

[AngelandTiger 364]

Simple. Initial dishonesty is an indication of what is to come.

 

Pass.

[AskMeOk 148]

In my simple world, a profile should be based on who plays. One person plays, they are a single. Both play, they are a couple. More than two play and they are invited over to our house for drinks....

[Mrs mph 27]

Well unbelievable! Again! Different couple! Messages flying backwards and forwards regarding meeting up and going really when the male dropped into the conversation that his wife lost interest in swinging last year! Their profile said she was exploring her bi side and had full swapped with the right man.

He now says she's not bi and would only sort swap if at all! But said hey you never know but in the meantime we could all meet for drinks and have a laugh together! We said well we are a full swap couple so probably not a good match and he called us shallow and pushy as we would only meet them if after we all decided if the chemistry was right we would expect to full swap with them! We have enough friends we want to meet couples to swing with not just go out for a drink with! Don't think that makes us shallow!

[enhancer 1,587]

You are not shallow at all for wanting to do things your way and being clear about it! Tell buddy to clean up his profile so he stops wasting real folks time. Then block him.

[AskMeOk 148]

My take is that "it's all on them." If they can't be honest in the profile, how much worse will it get when you meet them?

[JandKinBoise 859]

So they lie to you and then call YOU shallow when you call them on it. OMG, WTF. I wonder if anyone learns from this or they just continue to stumble along, ragging on the misled.

 

Just don't get frustrated, well no more frustrated than you already are. This is a hunt that makes elk look like child's play. At least an elk won't wander into camp and say, sorry, I'm a cow.