CuteInCO 15 Posted April 5, 2016 This question is mainly for the men, but women feel free to chime in... We've done some touching and feeling at nude resorts, but nothing we'd consider swinging. Our plans are to ultimately full swap. But, in the beginning, we want a few soft experiences to see how we react. However, my wife has developed a terrible gag reflex which makes blowjobs very challenging. She is a very sexual person and this is truly as frustrating for her as it is for me. Once we start having intercourse with others, I don't foresee an issue. (Her pussy is remarkable.) But, what about soft swaps? Would you enjoy a woman if the best she could offer is an incredible hand job? Thanks. Quote Share this post Link to post
enhancer 1,587 Posted April 5, 2016 Honestly there are still things she could do with her mouth that are not taking a cock down her throat! She could still use her tongue to run up and down a shaft, suck on the head while she strokes the shaft, grab it and slap it against her lips while she works it over with her hands and many more options that don't include taking it down her throat. All these things can make for a very enjoyable time. Some of the best head I have got from Ms Enhancer is when she does stuff like this instead of just trying to shove it down her throat as far as she can. As far as how I would feel about just getting a handjob from another woman while my lady is blowing the other guy I got to say I probably would not be overly happy about it. Considering I am a very oral person who always gives out more then I receive I would want something I can't do myself in return. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted April 5, 2016 I'd be OK with it. Some would probably take a pass. The thing here is to be very upfront about it. Tell me what you can and can't do, and tell me what you do and don't want to do, and we'll probably have a fun little tryst. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
cplnuswing 4,713 Posted April 5, 2016 I'd probably be ok with it if I knew that's the way it was going to be up front, but, I would be wondering: Honestly there are still things she could do with her mouth that are not taking a cock down her throat! She could still use her tongue to run up and down a shaft, suck on the head while she strokes the shaft, grab it and slap it against her lips while she works it over with her hands and many more options that don't include taking it down her throat. All these things can make for a very enjoyable time. Since there are plenty of (and better in my personal opinion) alternatives to deep-throating, the thought might enter my mind is she this way with everyone, or it is just me? That shred of doubt about the just me part wouldn't do much for my confidence, so I might pass just for that reason alone. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
intuition897 2,179 Posted April 5, 2016 Chloraseptic sore throat spray. Just uh...let it sink in a minute or so before putting a cock in there, or the gentleman might find himself with a little less sensation than he was hoping for. Quote Share this post Link to post
AngelandTiger 364 Posted April 5, 2016 I'd probably be ok with it if I knew that's the way it was going to be up front, but, I would be wondering: Since there are plenty of (and better in my personal opinion) alternatives to deep-throating, the thought might enter my mind is she this way with everyone, or it is just me? That shred of doubt about the just me part wouldn't do much for my confidence, so I might pass just for that reason alone. I think it's completely possible to satisfy ME and never take more than the head in your mouth. There's a lot a woman can do with her tongue that drives me wild! Assuming things got to full swap, I can't see any issue, but if all we get to is soft, and my gorgeous bride is taking her hubby deeply while she is having issues, that would be a definite turnoff. T 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,026 Posted April 6, 2016 Just recently, a playmate new to me showed me something very interesting and very satisfying -- edging. And she put on this whole show using just one hand. Quote Share this post Link to post
funcoupledayton 2,708 Posted April 6, 2016 Just recently, a playmate new to me showed me something very interesting and very satisfying -- edging. And she put on this whole show using just one hand. Tell us more... Quote Share this post Link to post
GuyInMD79 1,500 Posted April 6, 2016 Wow, SW_PA_Couple, a new-to-you, play partner was able to do edging on you, successfully? Holy crap, I can't even successfully do that to myself! Quote Share this post Link to post
SW_PA_Couple 4,026 Posted April 6, 2016 Edging seemed at the time something partly torture and partly pleasure. In retrospect, it's all pleasure. I suspect that this play partner is very adept at reading peoples' reactions as her employment is immigratons agent at an international airport. She was reading me like a book. At times I would beg her, "I'm almost there -- don't stop!" But she would simply display an evil grin and slow just to the point of 'keeping me on the edge'. At no point did she actually stop. I believe that this is heaven's payback for all of the occasions I have done something similar to a woman when she calls out "don't stop". Quote Share this post Link to post
GuyInMD79 1,500 Posted April 6, 2016 SW_PA_Couple, that sounds like a memorable experience! To CuteInCO, as a guy, I think I would have a great time with a woman, even if she did not do a lot of deep, sword-swallowing oral on me! As others have mentioned, a less gag-inducing type of oral attention that is confined to the area around the head of the penis is great, especially when combined with good stroking. Hell, if she uses a little lube, a good sexy hand job sounds like a lot of fun! Quote Share this post Link to post
AskMeOk 148 Posted April 6, 2016 She probably needs to review some information on how to do a monster cock.... porn stars have developed techniques to satisfy those things without having to do the impossible deep throat. Deep throat is simply not necessary. As for a hand job? As a guy, I'd rather just sit and talk to her. I hate 'em. Quote Share this post Link to post
GoldCoCouple 4,068 Posted April 6, 2016 Every step we take is always done with permission first and since we don't START at blow jobs, we wouldn't have a problem with it. Some people actually consider a blow job as more personal and intimate than having sex (ask Clinton...lol). When it comes to soft swinging nothing is assumed. Especially if something (like this) is discussed beforehand (or in the profile). As a side note, there is no prize (well I guess there kind of is...) for who can take it the deepest and there is plenty of other 'things' that can be done that most men would be just as happy with her doing. And there's always the 'hand trick' when doing 'it' (mouth goes over the head and hand continues further down and back up). Quote Share this post Link to post