What is with the fascination for weak women?

[enhancer 1,586]

What is the deal with all the men online that are looking for weak submissive women to use? All the guys that have on their profile that they like it rough, are dominate or looking for cockloid couples!

 

It seems to us that many men seem to think just, because a woman is living this lifestyle they are dirty slut that wants to be treated like shit and the husbands are useless men that don't know how to satisfy their own lady.

 

We get that some people live the Dom and sub life and can respect that it is their thing, but from our understanding those relationships are built on trust, communication and understanding! Not things you are going to find with some stranger online.

 

For us personally if a guy has anything on their profile about being dominate we pass! Ms Enhancer needs to be treated like the strong sexual human being she is before she is going to have any interest playing with someone and for me it is a hell of a lot more fun being with a strong confident woman that knows what she wants and how to get it.

 

Most of the time when we tell these guys we are not interested the reponse from them is full of the bitch and slut words like that is going to change our mind.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I have no data or research to back this opinion, so that is all it is and could be incredibly wrong:

 

1. They aren't very smart, or they are just ignorant about sex.

2. They believe porn is real, or pretty close to reality (see #1).

3. They also believe those "Fuck hot women in your area now" ads that they see when watching the free porn.

4. They aren't in a dominant position in any aspect of their life. Job, love life, family life, friends, etc.

 

So, I guess ignorance and a lack of feeling of ever being "in charge" in their lives.

[enhancer 1,586]

I have no data or research to back this opinion, so that is all it is and could be incredibly wrong:

 

1. They aren't very smart, or they are just ignorant about sex.

2. They believe porn is real, or pretty close to reality (see #1).

3. They also believe those "Fuck hot women in your area now" ads that they see when watching the free porn.

4. They aren't in a dominant position in any aspect of their life. Job, love life, family life, friends, etc.

 

So, I guess ignorance and a lack of feeling of ever being "in charge" in their lives.

 

Thinking you first two points are probably dead on!

[Psyrex 56]

Re: two4youinswva point #3:

I just thought I was lucky to live in an area that has so many hot, sexy, beautiful yet very lonely women all within 2.8 miles of my house. Next thing you're going to tell me is there's no easter bunny, huh?

 

@Mrs Enhancer

I believe you but I find it hard to believe there aren't any quality men who are willing to be used by you and the Mr as long as they get their reward, whatever that may be. Maybe those types don't go online seeking a dom female or couple.

[Alura 2,775]

So far as I know, there is no such fascination.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I have not noticed much of this online either.

[enhancer 1,586]

Guess we are just lucky to attract all the losers online even though our profile is clear as it gets!

[BuiltForSin 66]

In the BDSM community the submissive men are the ones that tend to outnumber all others.

 

I have perceived a rise in guys looking for the Hot Wife/cuckold couples. My guess was that as these terms were being realized by the mainstream that the craigslist cruisers were finding another avenue to explore.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

We haven't seen much of it but I know how you feel. There have been a few profiles that we've seen that have the phrases, "He likes to dominate in bed," and/or, "Looking for another submissive woman like the wife." They make me nervous and we've passed on them as well.

[EastInWest 1,524]

It's always possible that some of these guys have had an experience or three with a woman who enjoys that and walked away mistakenly believing that this is what women consistently want to hear. Of course, if they're reacting badly to being turned down, they're probably just jerks.

 

Agree wholeheartedly with Built4Sin about the cuckold thing becoming "mainstream", at least in the sense that some men have probably mistakenly concluded that they will easily find a future as a "bull". That particular type of play isn't for the Mrs. or for me (from either side of the equation), but it doesn't require expertise to realize that it's an obvious route for an opportunistic guy to take.

[SwingAcademic 22]

Those men have been watching too many movies.

[AskMeOk 148]

"What is the deal with all the men online that are looking for weak submissive women to use? All the guys that have on their profile that they like it rough, are dominate or looking for cockloid (sic) couples!"

 

I think these premises are incorrect and unsubstantiated. Otherwise, if this is in response to you profile, I'd say there was something in your profile that is attracting them.

 

I was told early in our swinging introduction that the lifestyle was owned and operated by the women. I've never seen anything to refute that.

[enhancer 1,586]

"What is the deal with all the men online that are looking for weak submissive women to use? All the guys that have on their profile that they like it rough, are dominate or looking for cockloid (sic) couples!"

 

I think these premises are incorrect and unsubstantiated. Otherwise, if this is in response to you profile, I'd say there was something in your profile that is attracting them.

 

I was told early in our swinging introduction that the lifestyle was owned and operated by the women. I've never seen anything to refute that.

 

 

You would have a hard time finding a profile that is less aproachable to these kind of men and married men then ours! The only thing that could be attracting these guys to our profile are the many hot pics of her. If they actually had the brain capacity to read they would see clearly they are not welcome.

 

Yes anybody that is actually in the lifestyle knows the women run the show as it should be! I highly doubt any of these goofs have ever had any experiences in the lifestyle though. They don't have to in order to have an online account.

[EastInWest 1,524]

You would have a hard time finding a profile that is less aproachable to these kind of men and married men then ours! The only thing that could be attracting these guys to our profile are the many hot pics of her. If they actually had the brain capacity to read they would see clearly they are not welcome.

 

Yes anybody that is actually in the lifestyle knows the women run the show as it should be! I highly doubt any of these goofs have ever had any experiences in the lifestyle though. They don't have to in order to have an online account.

 

It's the hot pics.

 

That's like a fishing lure to guys who aren't smart enough to look and see if there's a hook first.

[AskMeOk 148]

......The only thing that could be attracting these guys to our profile are the many hot pics of her. If they actually had the brain capacity to read they would see clearly they are not welcome. .....

 

Hmmmm...... due to our jobs, we went entirely without pics for so long, I guess we ducked that bullet....... Interesting!

[enhancer 1,586]

Hmmmm...... due to our jobs, we went entirely without pics for so long, I guess we ducked that bullet....... Interesting!

 

 

Yes I am sure if we didn't have pics on our profile we would have a lot less undesirable people bothering us, but we would also not be getting the interest from the people we do meet either! I don't blame anyone for not giving profiles without pics any time. We don't. It is still important to us what they have written, but if there is no pics we don't even open the profile. We just don't want to waste a bunch of time trying to convince people that can already see us to show us them.