Fetish requests during separate play

[asncpl 729]

We recently played separately for the first time with a couple that we have known a while and have played together (same room) four other times. The same-room play was great so when they asked about separate play, we obliged. After receiving some amazing oral sex, I asked the guy what I could do for him. He whipped out a strap-on dildo and wanted me to fuck him in the ass. He said he really likes anal/prostate stimulation but his wife refuses to do anything that has to do with anal. He never said anything before during same-room play.

 

This has happened to me quite a few times. Normal same-room play with a couple, but once it gets to separate play, I get strange fetish requests. Some are not totally kinky, like anal sex which I do actually like, but some are out there. Does this happen to anyone else? What is the strangest request you have gotten?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

That's interesting. I haven't had that happen or anything like it.

 

Did you oblige? I think that is something that should be rolled out as a request before starting to play, rather than in the middle.

 

The only slightly similar thing I've had happen was while playing with a girl for the first time, she asked me to fuck her with her strap-on. I declined, saying she could do me, but I wasn't comfortable figuring out the logistics of the strap-on in the heat of the moment. If she had asked me ahead and not put me on the spot, I may have done it.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

We rarely play separately so there hasn't been much opportunity for fetish requests to come up. But I find this interesting...especially when it wasn't brought up prior to meeting for separate play. If I were put in such a position, it would highly depend on the activity and the person I was with to consider it.

[Lionheart72 2,190]

I can think of a couple of people I've played with who have been interested in fetish-related activity. They were always completely up front and communicative about it. Before any play took place, we had calm, open and honest discussions about out respective interests, and hard and soft limits. My one-time friend-with-benefits and I actually had a lengthy online chat, going over our respective "fetish lists" on the FetLife site. In my experience, these conversations always made play much more enjoyable because both participants went into it with some good ideas of each others likes, dislikes and "nasty little desires."

 

The strangest request: I had a play-partner who was into "consensual non-consent." That was interesting.

[asncpl 729]

Did you oblige? I think that is something that should be rolled out as a request before starting to play, rather than in the middle.

 

I did. I had fun with it, even giving him a few slaps on his behind. But yes, the timing was odd, and I certainly had a surprised look when I heard it.

 

We rarely play separately so there hasn't been much opportunity for fetish requests to come up. But I find this interesting...especially when it wasn't brought up prior to meeting for separate play. If I were put in such a position, it would highly depend on the activity and the person I was with to consider it.

 

It's usually brought up at the beginning of separate play for me, not prior to the meeting. What I find interesting is that this things weren't even mentioned during the group play, and when we're alone in separate play, then he finally tells me what really turns him on.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

It could be nothing but a case of the guy feeling very comfortable with you and wanting to try something that is "out there" for him. Did the guy ask you to keep his fetish confidential between you two? If not (and hopefully he didn't), then you could mention when the four of you are all together how much the two of you enjoyed your pegging him.

 

We have not yet had the scenario you describe happen to us, though things sometimes have gotten a little more kinky once we and another couple are more comfortable together.

[Sophy 569]

I was requested once to perform a foot-job, I don't mind when the guys pay special attention to my feet, getting my toes licked during foreplay or during sex is ok, but handle a guy with my feet? Well I tried my best but getting good rhythm was problematic so he basically had to lead and he grabbed my feet on his hands and rubbed his penis against my feet.

 

Another couple said they had very little experience in swinging but they requested separate rooms straight away. Once in the room the guy asked me: Do you mind if I keep an eye on my phone? My wife is going to send me "live updates". Well, she sent him photos like selfie-type photos while she was having sex with my husband, a "blow job selfie", a close-up to her vagina with my husband penis inside, and a selfie of her tummy covered with cum.

 

Also, we went once to another couple's house and we started playing together but then we decided to split into different rooms (at least initially). I had a very good round with him and we decided to check on them but they were not done yet, so he decided to show me around their house in the meantime. We arrive to a room where they have a pool table. I mentioned to him how awesome was the fact they have a pool table in the house. By that time several minutes had passed and I noticed he was ready for a second round. We both were almost naked so he kissed my neck from behind and asked me: "do you want to do it here on the pool table?" I agreed and he had me there on the table as per his request. That was the only time I had sex on a pool table and since then we both, my husband and I, we cannot see a pool table without thinking on that night, and that was almost 3 years ago.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My wife had told me the the men in our swinger lives share one notable kink that shows only when alone with her. In her words, "they go straight for my butt." She declines but some will nonetheless ask again.

 

The women seem to never request kinky things from me

[cplnuswing 4,713]

This is a really interesting observation. I wonder if it has to do with just feeling more comfortable since the other spouse isn't there (making the assumption they aren't interested or may even somewhat disapprove of a particular activity)? Or, maybe it's more a logistics thing. If you are going to ask for something that's not on the usual playlist, then it is going to take at least a little conversation to explain what you have in mind, see if they have any interest at all, and if so, discuss where each is comfortable going with that activity. When all four are together and going at it, the environment is not really conducive to having that type of back and forth conversation.

[asncpl 729]

This is a really interesting observation. I wonder if it has to do with just feeling more comfortable since the other spouse isn't there (making the assumption they aren't interested or may even somewhat disapprove of a particular activity)?

 

This would be my guess. One of the more common requests I get is anal sex, and frequently the guy would tell me that his wife doesn't like anal sex. So maybe he feels more comfortable asking for it and talking about it when his wife is not present.

[Mbgdallas 203]

This would be my guess. One of the more common requests I get is anal sex, and frequently the guy would tell me that his wife doesn't like anal sex. So maybe he feels more comfortable asking for it and talking about it when his wife is not present.

 

I don't think there is any guessing about this. You nailed it. That is exactly where I would be too.