Concerned about a BIG house party

[Shore2Please 613]

We are invited to a big house party this weekend. We are still limited in our experience in the LS. It has been just over a year since our first unplanned swap with a couple while on vacation. We have since been with them again and a small party, just the original couple and a third couple. The couple we originally met had said we were their first but either they misled us (they were too comfortable and relaxed that first time) or they have become very active in the last year. They live several hours from us but we have become long distance friends other than the times we visited them. She has told me that her they have gone to parties in other peoples' homes and they decided to kick off the summer with a party at their house. My husband and I have talked about going to the party and my hesitations.

 

The few times we have met, I enjoyed being in a separate room from my husband. He knows this. I have told him that I just enjoyed not putting on a show. I know there will be many couples and everyone is going to be doing their own thing and probably won't be watching me. I also am hesitant with being with women. Being with several men in the course of a night is intriguing to say the least. I did enjoy being with one man and have played with two. My husband is looking forward to being with several woman at once. I asked what him think they are all going to flock to him. He said that if I am with the husbands, what are the wives going to do? Think that was a joke.

 

I asked my friend if all the "action" is in her family room or if the bedrooms can be used, they have 4 bedrooms. She said the house is open to be used but there is no guarantee that a room will be private. I liked being alone and the thought if being with several men in a night, well I think I will. I asked my husband how many women does he think he will really be with. He said all, jokingly, but he said if he is lucky maybe three if "it" still works. I am worried about soreness for me now. Asked my friend about safety. Condoms are optional but I think I will make it mandatory.

 

What else should I worry about?

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

You don't have to do anything you don't want to. If anything that you are doing doesn't feel good, stop doing it (as in everything in life). I'm kind of disappointed in your husband for seemingly discounting your concerns...I would be right by Ms. Golds side unless she was completely comfortable of the situation and even then I would be checking in with her to make sure that she was doing good. We look at this as a team sport and we don't leave any team mate behind.

 

Just worry about having an enjoyable evening. Nothing is expected of you so don't do anything you don't want to do. Let us know how it goes.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I would talk about what if you are with the husbands and the wives are not playing that night, only playing girl-girl or not interested in playing with your husband. That happens... a lot. Will he feel left out if he doesn't get to play? If yes, then you should agree that you play together.

 

Usually at house parties I only play with one person. Sometimes I don't play with anyone. You should do what you are comfortable with and what makes you feel good. I would go with no expectations.

[enhancer 1,586]

As said above your husband might just be disappointed if he is going in to this thinking just, because you might be with multiple husbands he will be hooking up with all their wives! Often at a party like this many of the wives will just be playing with the other women. That is the way it goes for Ms Enhancer anyways. She will jump at any chance of being with women over men. If he goes into it taking it for granted he is going to be with lots of women he will probably be leaving with a different outlook.

 

On the other hand it is never much of a challenge for a woman to find multiple guys that will be with her so you will be able to find that easy.

[findinganswers 369]

Hi S2P. I have posted on your posts before. We are new like you but I am the husband and my wife and her friend brought us into the life. My wife has been enthusiastic about this from the start. We played with our friends. I have written that it may have been hard watching at first as my wife went down on someone else, especially someone we know. My feelings changed a little when her girlfriend reciprocated on me. Our first time was as much fun as it was sexual. We have since found another friend who has also enjoyed this for some time. Now we too are being invited to a larger party. Again, my wife is enthusiastic. We are discussing "limits". She said she enjoys watching me enjoy and she is fine if we stay in the same area so we can check on each other. As someone wrote on this string, there may be more girl play than me getting other women. I am fine with that. I did really really enjoy watching my wife and her friend. Told her condoms are a must, we have not used them with our friends.

 

How did your party go? Did you go yet? Was it true about the girl play? Did you and your husband have fun?