Drunk vs Sober / two different persons

[kinkycplm 74]

We both have this problem. When we are drunk we end up doing reallly kinky stuff. When we are sober none of us really feels like it.

It hinders our ability to plan anything in advance.

Any suggestions, are other couples this way as well?

 

Thanks

[enhancer 1,586]

Drinking and drugs can open up people's inhibitions for sure! As long as you don't have regrets after or do something you really did not want to do then there should not be a problem with that. I would suggest not getting so wasted that you can't remember what happened though.

 

We enjoy getting our buzz on when playing with others and even just ourselves, but don't feel we have to just to have a good time. Everything in moderation is okay. It is however not a lot of fun being around people that are so slammed they can't walk or talk.

 

As for the planning question we don't tend to plan out what is going to happen when playing in the lifestyle and prefer to go with the flow at the time of playing. As long as everyone respects each other's rules then it is all good.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

My unpopular advice: don't play drunk. Buzzed, OK but drunk, no. If you've had enough to drink that your judgement is impaired, boundaries are crossed and rules are broken than you've had too much to drink.

[GoldCoCouple 4,068]

We don't drink but are normally very kinky (maybe we get less kinky the more we drink...?). Not that we have a problem with drinking, we just prefer sweets if we are going to ingest calories.

[asncpl 730]

My unpopular advice: don't play drunk. Buzzed, OK but drunk, no. If you've had enough to drink that your judgement is impaired, boundaries are crossed and rules are broken than you've had too much to drink.

 

We follow this advice. I don't mind a few glasses of wine to loosen inhibitions, but when I get drunk, I just get sleepy. And my husband can't keep it hard when he's drunk. Then again, I don't have a problem being super kinky when I'm sober.

 

My question is if you only do kinky activities when you are only drunk, are those the things you want to do?

[kinkycplm 74]

We did it without being drunk too. I think alcohol just accelerates the feelings!

[Mrsexcited 16]

I'm more willing to do things more easily with others after a few drinks however what I do buzzed I'm willing to sober. Drinking relaxes me but if I'm going to be playing I won't get drunk.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

Sometimes the best experiences are unplanned. I don't think we have ever played sober. Things get more wild and crazy, kinky, the more everyone drinks.

[PeterJ 960]

We follow this advice. I don't mind a few glasses of wine to loosen inhibitions, but when I get drunk, I just get sleepy. And my husband can't keep it hard when he's drunk. Then again, I don't have a problem being super kinky when I'm sober.

 

My question is if you only do kinky activities when you are only drunk, are those the things you want to do?

 

A thoughtful query for sure. I think there is a fine line between an act someone really wishes to engage in, but may have a bit of pre-performance anxiety, and an act one is truly ambivalent about. In expanding my own personal sexual horizons there have been times when I had to take a bit of deep breath and just do it. But for me (your mileage may differ) if I had to have a couple of drinks to do something, I'd have to think really hard about whether I want to do it or not. In the context of couples playing together, I fear there would be times when those couple of drinks were an anesthetic that enabled that person to "take one for the team" or otherwise do something for their partner that they wouldn't otherwise do.

[hlgcpl4fun 80]

Sabrina is pretty wild sober but gets really wild after drinking a few beers (she is a light weight as we both do not drink often) or some cheap wine. She usually drinks a good scotch when we are out, but when she really wants to be crazy, she will have beer. I ❤️ love it and make sure she stays safe.  

[Numex 2,459]

My wife almost always has half of a half glass of wine or half a beer before recreational sex, but that's all she needs.  It's interesting that she is primed for sex, but wants that little bit of alcohol.

[Anon321 524]

My GF is pretty wild when it comes to sex when she is both sober and drunk,  I think the difference is that when she is drunk she is more outgoing which helps in finding a partner.  Sexually she is down for almost anything when drunk or sober.  But when drunk she'll flash people in public, grab a random guy in the bar and fuck him in the bathroom, etc.

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,422]

A drink or two definitely helps loosen inhibitions and get folks in the mood. I have noticed it can be hard to get things rolling when everyone is dead sober. But definitely try to cap things at around 2 drinks bc we have seen things go bad after one drink too many.