Reclamation sex - Important to your experience?

[AngelandTiger 364]

Hi,

 

One thing I've always really enjoyed was the sex we had as a couple AFTER we play. Reliving the experience in our heads, and just re-linking up is incredibly hot and meaningful. Recently, there have been a few occasions when my wife and I couldn't connect for what most refer to as reclamation sex. We have never been able to connect this way right after playing, as playing often keeps us out past midnight, and that is WAY past when my wife can stay up without major effects for the next couple of days. Lately, however, she's been busy the next day with kid or work stuff, and we've gone a few days to a week before we had sex again after playtime. I found that this disturbs me, and that the "reclamation" sex is more important to me than I thought. My wife says it doesn't bother her at all, and she's being truthful...it's apparently something that's psychophysiologically important to me only, which I can accept as we're all wired differently.

 

How do you all feel about sex after playing. Important? No biggie? I guess I'm wondering where I am on the spectrum...not that it matters, as everyone is, as I noted above, wired in a different way. But I'm curious.....

[Baconheads 437]

We're soft, so it hasn't made that much of an impact. On the other hand we're usually staying at a hotel after playing at a club so we've done it at least twice before breakfast...

[windsor4fun2 130]

We have never felt the need for "reclamation sex". We will often have sex with each other after playing if we have the energy. Having sex with others has always been an enhancement to our relationship. No need to reclaim anything.

[AR1547 131]

YES! Especially after my wife gets with a single man. This is a big part of it, though not so much after we swap with a couple.

[kikonkrome 844]

How do you all feel about sex after playing. Important? No biggie? I guess I'm wondering where I am on the spectrum...not that it matters, as everyone is, as I noted above, wired in a different way. But I'm curious.......

 

I think it is a big thing for both of us. To be honest, normally I can not sleep and have sex multiple times with my wife through out the evening. It is definitely important to me and I think it is important to her as well.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I liked having sex with my wife after she had sex with another man. I never thought of it as "reclamation" sex until I saw the term here or somewhere else online.

 

We had many experiences.

 

If he is shy or having problems getting hard I would go first.

 

If he is ready to go and horny I'll let him go first. I'll take my turn after he is finished with her. She can't get pregnant so all of our experiences are bareback. It's so incredible to feel how wet she is after another man has cum in her that I barely last a few strokes. It's embarrassing and I'm still working on trying to control that.

 

Having a less than satisfying experience with me after has her wanting to have sex with him again.

 

I have no problems arranging for her to have sex with her favorite and most satisfying men.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I don't recall ever really having felt it was a matter of reclaiming or reconnecting, what changes have occurred are more a result in changes in our swinging style. When we first started swinging, our experiences were more of the club quickie or once and done type, where as now they are more extended d play sessions in someone's home or ours. So, used to we still had plenty of energy to be taken out on each other after playtime, whereas now we are pretty much tapped out by the time we call it quits for the night.

[Alura 2,775]

In swinging, it's best to be last on the agenda.

[let's do it again 416]

I don't think it's important, but I love sloppy seconds and can't wait to reclaim my SO. We both really are into reclaiming and then shower together. I think we reclaim for different reasons, she wants more cock and I love the feel of sloppy seconds, great sex!

[couplers 4,717]

When it was just hubby David, my boyfriend Red, and me having an MFM, hubby would always let Red go first.  I thought he was being polite.  As David explained it, however, it was because he would rather be in his pre-orgasm excited state watching me fucking Red and take sloppy seconds rather than watching after he had cum.

 

Now, with Lora and Clair in our family, there's no order or preferences. 

[PJ&Lin 188]

I wouldn’t call it Reclamation Sex. The sex we have after is loving sex while the sex we have with others is just recreational sex. I don’t feel we need to reconnect as we are always connected in a much higher level. 

[Anon321 524]

Not important for us.

[Billygoat 445]

It was never a requirement or rule.  We are both very sexually active especially with each other.  We never had any type of play session that we didn’t finish another round with each other.  Not reclaiming to us, sounds to assertive for us.  We usually, when asked called it reconnect.  
 

Still at our age we finish each day, in bed, entwined…..sexually and emotionally releasing to each other….then drifting off to sleep together.

 

Still just reconnecting after a day of…..whatever.

[Numex 2,459]

On 6/21/2016 at 10:28 AM, AngelandTiger said:

How do you all feel about sex after playing.

Usually Daniela and I have sex after one or both of us has had sex with someone else because the thought of what we or the other or both have done (fuck someone else) is just such a turn on.  Perhaps it is reclaiming...