Party hosting tips?

[PebblesCanDo 45]

We prefer to host generally because it makes me more comfortable. We've hosted at home and in hotels alike. When hosting what are your "guidelines"? Do you host as if you are hosting friends & family? Provide a meal or munchies, drinks and mixers? We've never hosted more than another couple, but have always provided even in a hotel. What are your thoughts? We've recently emptied our nest and are hosting at home and thoroughly enjoy not having to travel! Thanks for any feedback!

[Alura 2,774]

from Oklahoma, PebblesCanDo! Thanks for a fun question!

 

The late Mrs. Alura and I liked to host. Our house offered so many possibilities, a bottle of wine, a hot tub, den with a ninety-degree sectional with a fold-out bed, a nice guest room and, of course, the master. A play evening might start in one place and move to another. Laura and I always ended up in our own bed, joking about the fun evening that had so well lubricated her for me, and making love like old married folks do.

 

Our guest room put Mrs. Playmate's head on Mr. Playmate's shoulder until morning. None of our guests left before breakfast.

 

Thanks for spurring a nice memory.

[PebblesCanDo 45]

Dang! I hadn't thought about breakfast! We don't offer all of the amenities that you do, but we do have a pool and a hot tub! It's our redneck paradise all thanks to walmart.com! We live quite rural! I'm glad to have sparked a nice memory for you!

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Our hosting has always been limited to just one other couple, but we always have some munchies available, and for close friends, we'll cook something just like we would if we have vanilla friends over for a come early and stay late visit. We also of course share our drinks and mixers; people often bring their own for whatever they are in the mood for that night, but it never hurts to have some extra on hand just in case their supplies run short

[njbm 2,871]

We enjoy hosting! Some of our guests may pipe in! Our typical pre-game spread includes cheese and crackers, grapes and something like hummus, a dip and tortilla chips. We are well stocked with booze if a little lubrication is needed.

 

Sometimes we have these snacks, then play, then host dinner or go out to dinner. Friends taught us to play before dinner so that all that food isn't sloshing around during sex.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We really enjoyed hosting couples in our home for a precious couple of months last year, right before our daughter graduated from college and moved back into the house. But now that the nest is empty again, we will be hosting again- tomorrow!!

 

I imagine we will be having snacks around when our friends (one other couple) arrive tomorrow. We proposed that they come to the house, and we'll have a little time to visit before dinner. But maybe we should take njbm's advice, and have a round of play before dinner!

 

As for other guidelines, I don't think we have a lot of those. We have a master bedroom with a king size bed, and a guest room with a king bed upstairs. We'll be ready to play in one room or two rooms. Or if something sexy breaks out in the living room or kitchen, we will go with the flow!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

Coupleinmd79: Dang it, we didn't get the invite. We're headed to the airport right now! Good luck tomorrow...

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

Coupleinmd79: Dang it, we didn't get the invite. We're headed to the airport right now! Good luck tomorrow...

Well dang it, if we'd have known you were willing to come cross-country, we'd have extended an invitation sooner!

 

Thanks for the good wishes! We like the couple who are coming over, and hosted them last year as well. It's been quite a while since we've seen them last, so we may have a lot of naughty catching up to do!

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I hope this doesn't look like I'm hijacking this thread...

 

Last night's get-together was great! PebblesCanDo, we had our friend over at 5:00. We put out some cheese and crackers, and offered them a drink. We munched and sipped for a bit, while I flirted and hoped to encourage everybody to follow njbm's advice, and have round 1 before dinner. However, the rest of the room seemed to be more hungry for dinner than play at that moment, so after a drink or two and some catching up, we all piled into the car and went out to dinner.

 

We took them to a restaurant near us that we like, and that they've not visited before. A great dinner and great conversation was had by all, including enough sexy discussion that we were soon clamoring for the check, ready to beat it outta there and get back to our house.

 

Once we all got back to our house, it was just a couple of minutes before the women were getting naked, checking out each other's boobs and making out a little. Then, at the request of the other woman, we split up, with her and I retiring upstairs to our guest room, and my wife and the other guy using our master bedroom. We all had a great round of play fun!

 

After playtime, we chatted for a few minutes while getting dressed, then we all said our good nights, promised not to make it so long between visits, and exchanged one last hot kiss! All in all, it was a great evening!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

 

Thanks for the follow up. We ended up not being able to get a rental car at the airport so we headed back home...next time we are there.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

 

Thanks for the follow up. We ended up not being able to get a rental car at the airport so we headed back home...next time we are there.

LOL, you gotta tell us next time! We would come and pick you up!

[GoldCoCouple 4,066]

...but you needed to be there to host.

[enm3nn2 15]

Hey you AZBedrockers!! Glad I looked at your post. You're right next door! I'm over here in Bisbee Let's talk! Can't send PMs yet because I'm new to the site I guess.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

We prefer to host generally because it makes me more comfortable.

 

There's no place like home:)

 

Do you host as if you are hosting friends & family? Provide a meal or munchies, drinks and mixers?

 

Treat your guests as you would treat friends and family. Munchies? Yes. Meals? Your choice. A chance to show off your cooking skills? I would do a BYOB. You are not going to satisfy everyone with your choice of alcohol/beer/wine

 

What are your thoughts? We've recently emptied our nest and are hosting at home and thoroughly enjoy not having to travel! Thanks for any feedback!

 

There's no place like home! (as above) Choose your guests wisely. In my opinion, start small before going big.

[Guest]

We have hosted many, many parties. And learned some lessons along the way. I'll give some tips and lessons learned.

 

1. Only invite full swap couples. They should be sexually and emotionally secure and someone in your circle of friends should be able to verify they are a real swinging couple. If you start with smaller more intimate parties, the group will naturally grow as the word gets out and people include their validated friends. One of our first parties...a handsome man took me to the bedroom and was in a hurry to stick his cock in me. I was okay with it, but I should have known when he shut the bedroom door that there was going to be some drama. His upset wife ended up pounding on the door and crying for him to come out and to leave. They weren't swingers at all. Many couples attend house parties as posers and are just curious or voyeurs. We had other similar instances and some drama between couples.

2. Let people have sex anywhere they want and when they want. But, keep bedroom doors open!

3. Always invite more than than you want to attend. About half will actually show up

4. Provide mixers and soft drinks. Hide the booze. You can easily spend $500 or $600 on liquor. They will drink it all and drunk men are lousy lays.

5. Provide finger food. We buy the trays from Publix. And have cold water and towels staged.

6. Have a theme and tell people ahead of the party that they can change in your home. I have gone to parties dressed like a total slut and worried about getting stopped or neighbors getting curious.

7. Tell any local friends or family you are going away for the weekend. You don't want any surprises. I had my ex-husband and his wife catch me (totally busted) being bent over and fucked in my living room. I thought the people at the door were a late arriving couple that had called and said they would be at the party in a few minutes. When the doorbell rang, I told them to come in. I was grunting like a piggy, telling this boy to give it to me, when I looked up and OMG they had made it all the way through the foyer to see this boy holding onto my hips, screaming, and taking his orgasm in me! Not good.

8. Plan the party well in advance and take the time to actually talk on the phone with your guests.

9. Make sure that your guests don't double park or block neighbors! They will show up at your door.

10. If you have special friends, invite them to spend the night.

11. Don't get too uptight being a host or hostess or you won't have any fun. You'll find that many guests will want to fuck the hosts! Yay!

12. Start the party with some sexual games or just initiate sex yourself. Most will just mingle like it's a high school dance until someone starts the real party. I have masturbated and got off in front of the crowd. I sometimes just grab a man, unzip his pants, and kneel for a blowjob. People will get the hint.

13. My husband and I separate. We don't follow each other around connected at the hip. We are available sexually. It helps with the dynamics. Couples will tend to hang together and size up other couples and fail miserably.

14. Fuck the wall flowers first. Sorry to be so crude. They will just normally stand around, be shy, and hope someone will take some initiative with them. We had one party and when it was late and everyone was leaving, a young woman came to me. In the sweetest and most polite way, she said that her husband was smitten for me and wondered if I would do her a favor and fuck him. Poor thing. Of course I screwed him. I fucked him like a wild woman. I even walked them out to the car later, made out with him, jerked his cock off, and told them they could come over anytime they wanted. I can't describe how happy and appreciative they were.

15. Send thank you emails after. Ask if they would like to come to another party, and ask them to bring some friends.

16. Avoid loud music.

17. Have some personal items staged in the bathrooms so women can refresh.

18. Dress for sex, not for an office cocktail party. I have had some women show up dressed like a frumpy mommy. It's because they have just left the kids off with the grand parents. Have some sexy things to share. I have had a lot of fun with girls going through my lingerie drawers. And it drives the men crazy.

[Fitlakecouple 451]

Adding to the list above...

 

We and a small core group of friends (couples and 1 single guy) take turns hosting parties. Anyone in the core group can suggest a new couple provided they have played with them previously and they feel they'll fit in well. (Not all couples are wired for group play) We'll typically only invite 1 new couple at a time, 2 tops... If they hit it off with everyone they'll get invited back. And, because we 'control' who is invited we have not had our booze cabinet emptied or any other issues.

 

Once we know who is attending, we share profile names (with permission) and invite folks to open pictures and chat ahead of time.

 

We have no issue with soft swap couples attending; but they need to be okay with the deeper end of the pool activities going on at the party.

 

The advice #13 is dead on. Part of the appeal of the party is you don't need a 4-way match to play! Gravitate to who you want to play with and enjoy.

[padoc 1,703]

These last two posts are EXCELLENT!!!!

[Sawman 84]

Hosting another couple or two doesn't seem like a party, but if it's overnight some planning and communication is appropriate. ITSM that more than three couples might mean full-time work and no sex for the hosts. Make sure there is enough TP and lots of towels.

[findinganswers 369]

We only attend house parties with our friends or friends of friends. We always ask what we can bring. Beer, vodka, pizza, fried chicken, Chinese food. Most times we will order delivery and chip in to pay the delivery person. I will pay for the whole bill sometimes. We learned from our friends. We now have party towels and washcloths, thank you Costco. Do you know they sell bulk condoms? We bought a box that is still pretty full.

One of the great advantages of playing with friends is we are open to discussing what needs to be at a party.