Lionheart72 2,191 Posted July 24, 2016 So another milestone reached, an achievement unlocked, well-that-was-new, whatever... My wife went to our local swingers club solo last night. While I've played without her several times, it was her first time playing by herself. I stayed home. She had fun, danced, met a couple of guys and played with one. Then she came home and told me all about it. I had fun too, though it wasn't what I expected. I had expected some anticipation, some tension, wondering what she might be up to. Honestly, I just played video games. Even when I tried to think about what she might be up to, I didn't really. When she got home... well, that was hot. Afterward, and this morning in the clear light of day, I just feel happy and... connected to her in a way I haven't felt in a while. All in all, a good experience. 8 Quote Share this post Link to post
enhancer 1,586 Posted July 24, 2016 Always great to hear when a new milestone reached is a good experience! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Lionheart72 2,191 Posted July 25, 2016 So why didn't you go? Wouldn't have been much of a solo trip if I'd gone, would it? 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted July 25, 2016 Wouldn't have been much of a solo trip if I'd gone, would it? So I'm curious, what brought this on? Was it something you planned to get over that particular hurdle or was it a fairly casual "I'm going to go out solo tonight" decision? Quote Share this post Link to post
Lionheart72 2,191 Posted July 25, 2016 So I'm curious, what brought this on? Was it something you planned to get over that particular hurdle or was it a fairly casual "I'm going to go out solo tonight" decision? Well, I'll tell you... a couple of things went into this. When we first started swinging, one of my big motivators was the desire to watch my wife with another guy. That turned me on, in theory and even in practice, even more than full couple swapping. We did a lot of threesomes and more than a few gangbangs and those were all fun. Eventually, it came to light that my wife was willing to let me do separate-room play but I wasn't entirely comfortable giving her the same freedom. I would have felt guilty about it, but my wife really didn't care. My wife's a performer. She likes to have an audience... which made the whole "she plays while I watch" thing really work well for us. I remember the first time my feelings about it changed. We were at our old swingers club. She was chatting up with a guy and I left to use the restroom. When I got back, the guy had wandered off but my wife said he might be a prospect for later in the evening. She slyly admitted that while I was in the restroom, she had dropped her top and let him touch her tits. I was instantly hard enough to pound nails. We never did hook up with that guy, but the idea lingered in the back of my mind. It actually took a couple of years for that encounter, and the ideas it sparked, to grow into the reality of this weekend. It followed the usual course, I suppose. I started sharing the notion with my wife as a fantasy during sex. Later, we talked about it calmly and dressed, just exploring the idea and what the guidelines might be to do such a thing (My rules were simple: be safe, she had to tell me about what happened, and if she had sex she wasn't allowed to put her panties back on until after she got home. ) Finally, a couple weeks ago I asked her what she really thought about the idea... was it something she wanted to try. Her reply was: I don't know, how much would it cost (we're struggling financially right now). I laughed and told her that single women attend the club for free. Not really "fair" but true none the less. She got very excited and the idea went from a "maybe" to "let's work out the scheduling." So... what lead to it? I don't know. I think it was a little bit of me getting over the "letting her play alone" hurdle, a modest amount of "climbing the curve" - the ever escalating new thrill, a bit of limited money - it's cheaper for her to go alone after all - and a lot of "this idea just really turns me on for some reason." I will say, in the end it was a lot more successful than I expected. I didn't actually that same "hard enough to pound nails" reaction (which is not to say I didn't ravish her the instant she got home but that hasn't been the main take-away for me). Instead, I got a deep, warm, frankly cuddly, affection for my wife which I had even realized I been missing. 7 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted July 25, 2016 I remember the first time my feelings about it changed. We were at our old swingers club. She was chatting up with a guy and I left to use the restroom. When I got back, the guy had wandered off but my wife said he might be a prospect for later in the evening. She slyly admitted that while I was in the restroom, she had dropped her top and let him touch her tits. I was instantly hard enough to pound nails. We never did hook up with that guy, but the idea lingered in the back of my mind. Thanks, I wondered if it was something like this. Mrs. EastInWest and I worked on a short story that stemmed from her jokingly suggesting making me a surprise blowjob video with a stranger. The whole "hotwife" thing doesn't mesh with the way we see ourselves, but I was certainly surprised by the fact that while my brain said "no", my cock said "well, maybe". I'm glad this worked out for you! Quote Share this post Link to post
Baconheads 437 Posted July 26, 2016 Well, I'll tell you... a couple of things went into this. When we first started swinging, one of my big motivators was the desire to watch my wife with another guy. That turned me on, in theory and even in practice, even more than full couple swapping. We did a lot of threesomes and more than a few gangbangs and those were all fun. Eventually, it came to light that my wife was willing to let me do separate-room play but I wasn't entirely comfortable giving her the same freedom. I would have felt guilty about it, but my wife really didn't care. My wife's a performer. She likes to have an audience... which made the whole "she plays while I watch" thing really work well for us. I remember the first time my feelings about it changed. We were at our old swingers club. She was chatting up with a guy and I left to use the restroom. When I got back, the guy had wandered off but my wife said he might be a prospect for later in the evening. She slyly admitted that while I was in the restroom, she had dropped her top and let him touch her tits. I was instantly hard enough to pound nails. We never did hook up with that guy, but the idea lingered in the back of my mind. It actually took a couple of years for that encounter, and the ideas it sparked, to grow into the reality of this weekend. It followed the usual course, I suppose. I started sharing the notion with my wife as a fantasy during sex. Later, we talked about it calmly and dressed, just exploring the idea and what the guidelines might be to do such a thing (My rules were simple: be safe, she had to tell me about what happened, and if she had sex she wasn't allowed to put her panties back on until after she got home. ) Finally, a couple weeks ago I asked her what she really thought about the idea... was it something she wanted to try. Her reply was: I don't know, how much would it cost (we're struggling financially right now). I laughed and told her that single women attend the club for free. Not really "fair" but true none the less. She got very excited and the idea went from a "maybe" to "let's work out the scheduling." So... what lead to it? I don't know. I think it was a little bit of me getting over the "letting her play alone" hurdle, a modest amount of "climbing the curve" - the ever escalating new thrill, a bit of limited money - it's cheaper for her to go alone after all - and a lot of "this idea just really turns me on for some reason." I will say, in the end it was a lot more successful than I expected. I didn't actually that same "hard enough to pound nails" reaction (which is not to say I didn't ravish her the instant she got home but that hasn't been the main take-away for me). Instead, I got a deep, warm, frankly cuddly, affection for my wife which I had even realized I been missing. Okay that was the answer to my question, although East/West asked it more specifically and much more eloquently I might add. Thanks for the story! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Psyrex 56 Posted July 27, 2016 I love this! When my wife had her solo experience, I was out of town so all I could do was masturbate while I waited to hear from her afterwards. We had a 3 hour difference so it was really late where I was and all I had to watch was Law and Order SVU. To this day when I hear that dun dun after the intro, I get a raging hard on. It was five days before I saw her again and we had sex that was different and almost like new but very hot and erotic at the same time. I'm glad your first solo experience went so well. That is a fantasy of mine. While my wife only wants to play together from now on, I still have the fantasy of her going out by herself to get laid. I can't wait to fuck my wife again for the first time after she has been used for another man's pleasure. Thanks for sharing your story! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post